Alone again thread

My Mr grumpy does not do Christmas .
(He is Mr Asperger. ) who has also had surgery for a meningioma.
I will acknowledge that, but it does not make me feel much better.

There is nothing worse than being on your own when you really know or feel many others are having some pleasant company.
I have never forgotten the christmas when he was still in bed in the afternoon and I drove off for a walk on my own .
There was no one else about.

An evening at your house doesn't necessarily have to be on Christmas Day or Boxing Day. How about the weekend before Christmas - say, Friday 20th or Saturday 21st? Do friends live near enough to just get a cab home, instead of driving?

I know that that doesn't get over the problem of you being alone over the two important days of Christmas, but it would give you something to look forward to. (And you never know - someone might just invite you back to theirs.)

And Welbeck's suggestion of contacting your local church is a good idea. They often have a lot going on over the Christmas period that maybe you could participate in.

It's very sad that your daughter and friends seem to have abandoned you. Could you perhaps have a word with your daughter?

maybe you could search online for any local community Christmas day events for people who would otherwise be on their own.
churches often do these.
could you swallow your pride and contact a few locally, explain your situation and see if they can suggest anything.
you could look them up and send a kind of round-robin email. it's worth a try and you might hear of other events.

Hi Lyndiloo. Thank you so much for your reply.
It is a really good idea to invite friends around, but sadly no one wants to come in the evening as they will all be with family or drinking so can’t drive & I can’t pick them up as I have osteoporosis which affects my bones especially my hands. Plus I feel really let down by them for not one of them inviting me to spend Christmas Day with them. I have done so very much for every friend Iv ever had but no one does anything for me ( I’m so sorry to feel so sorry for myself)
My Daughter & young Grandchildren won’t leave her Husband she will do anything he says for a quiet life
Maybe I could see if anyone would like to come to me on Boxing Day at least I’ll only be alone on Christmas Day. It just makes me so sad. I love the feeling of getting ready to go to my Daughters or to a restaurant ( that’s what we all used to do when my Mum Dad & Grandmother was alive) they all died within a year of each other the last one dying 4 years ago. It just brakes my heart xx

I feel so sorry for you, NannyKisses, that you will be alone over Christmas. You say you have friends. Why not invite some of them for an evening at your house? A few bottles of wine, a few nibbles ...?

What about your daughter and her family? Regardless of what your son-in-law thinks about you, you could offer the same invitation to them.

Think about it!

Hi to all that are reading this. Christmas is coming & I’m so sad that I will be alone. My Daughters Husband doesn’t like me & couldn’t care less if I was alive or not.
The friends that have asked me what are you up to over Christmas, haven’t even given the slightest concern or care when I reply with I will sadly be alone.
I don’t do things for people to get anything back, although I have done so much for friends recently & in the past So it hurts that no one seems to care about me.
Am I a bad person? Why don’t people want me around?
Sadly I have illnesses which stop me being able to volunteer anywhere, although I do give money toys presents & food to my local charities
Has anyone gone through or going through what I’m going through? Xx

Very funny and clever ... Thank you MawB for starting our day with a smile ?

Haha brilliant Maw. I hope you enjoy your cruise

Love it!

It reminds me of the Christmas that started out with mum, DS, DH and me. Then MiL, FiL and BiL were added. Next I was informed that SiL, husband and 2 children were coming. Mum and I had to go and buy another turkey! At least she and I shared the cooking.

Excellent! How long did it take you to compose?

Brilliant maw.

That's a good idea MawB Can I join you please? ????