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Comparing how much grandparents spend

(105 Posts)
Daisymae Sat 28-Dec-19 21:56:47

Well he just commented on the facts, can't really see a problem. You seem to choose to spend less so it's inevitable that he will notice.

SirChenjin Sat 28-Dec-19 21:39:59

15 year olds can be notoriously thoughtless and I’m sure he didn’t mean anything by it - it was probably, to him, a simple comparison. I’d just have a quiet word with him and say something along the lines of ‘everyone spends different amounts on Christmas presents but every present you get comes with much love and thought’ and leave it at that. Don’t be pressurised into spending more (or less) - spend what feels right to you and what gives you pleasure and his other GPS will do the same.

GagaJo Sat 28-Dec-19 21:09:06

I'd have a word with either him or his parents. My limit of what I'll spend is low. My bloke frequently comments on how little I spend on my daughter, compared to him with his adult children. Whatever. Greedy is an unattractive look.

Sussexborn Sat 28-Dec-19 21:03:43

Stick to your decision. It’s so easy for Christmas to get out of hand.

Cabbie21 Sat 28-Dec-19 21:00:59

My 15 year old grandson is lovely but has some less endearing ways. This year I overheard him openly comparing how much we had spent on him, compared to his other grandparents. Fortunately I did not hear him say anything nasty, just factual.

Neither set of GPS is hard up, but we set lower limits of what we consider reasonable. We have no intention of trying to keep up, but it is a bit embarrassing to see the difference in our gifts.
I hope we are not being mean. Any thoughts for next year?