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What would you do?

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Luckygirl Thu 26-Nov-20 14:17:30

I was planning to go to my bubble family (about 10 minutes away) for Christmas. I now find out that on Christmas Day all my family will be there - 4 from one DD's family (they too live locally) and 5 from Cheshire (just outside Greater Manchester) - that is a total of 14 with me.

The ones from the north are out and about all the time - teenagers at college and socialising in Manchester and the surrounds - children at school. SIL is out at work and mixing freely.

The other local DD is working (at the host DD's) and they are in contact with loads of people for business reasons. They have children at school and SIL also goes out to work.

I have a house move (protracted) that I am hoping will take place immediately after Christmas and do not want to be ill or risk self-isolation.

So........what to do? If I say I will not be going, they will start saying that they will not go to make it safer for me and I do not want them to miss out.

FarNorth Sun 29-Nov-20 20:03:35

This has been a totally irresponsible act by a Goverment who when Covid cases and deaths rise in the New Year will not hesitate to blame the very actions that they instigated.

And the likely fact that people didn't stick to the rules, after the UK government creating huge confusion as shown in this thread.

kircubbin2000 Sun 29-Nov-20 21:45:33

I feel a bit relieved tonight. Had been worried about going to son's on Boxing Day ,just family but 3 households. He told his dad that in laws will be coming too and that they have not been taking things seriously so I definitely won't go now.

kircubbin2000 Sun 29-Nov-20 21:52:27

Also think the government has not taken into account the level of stupidity in the country. I was reading a comment on another site where the girls mother was planning a get together when hospitality reopens. Her attitude was that it must be safe if the government allow us to do that.

Iam64 Sun 29-Nov-20 21:57:09

It's reassuring for me to see so many posters saying they feel relieved to say no to invitations because the numbers of people seem to large.
I do wish the government had stayed with the tier advice. The same people who are ignoring the rules now would continue to do so. the majority would have settled for a quiet Christmas in order to continue attempts to lower the R. It seems inevitable that the R will rise in January

ReadyMeals Mon 30-Nov-20 12:14:10

Curlygirl that is the problem for many people - the social pressure "why won't you come and stay? the government said it's ok, you're making a fuss about nothing" I think they should have stuck to the tier system and just secretly told the police to turn a blind eye to rulebreakers in private homes over xmas. Because it's really only the existing rulebreakers who are likely to be happy to risk their health by having xmas full-house.

Mapleleaf Mon 30-Nov-20 16:44:22

I'm glad to read that you have reached the decision you have, Luckygirl and followed your instinct. There will be plenty of opportunities in the future, once a vaccine is up, running and delivered for us to meet safely and without worry.
I know that I personally would not be able to enjoy myself and relax if I met with family on Christmas Day this year, simply because I'd be wondering which one of us could be carrying the disease and pass it on, especially as some of us have health issues of one sort or another, and some of the family are still out and about for work and school. My DH and I have decided that we won't be going anywhere but home this year.