Its Over Thank God - Who else feels like this

62dg 👆

Pammiel Best Wishes for a full recovery. Wouldn't matter what your Christmas was like really, you are what matters.

I am havingca lov

I remember childhood Christmases back in the 50s & 60s, many after an arduous train ride from Birmingham to Lincoln,initially by steam power then diesel. My brother & I ate bags of ' Niblets ' & cartons of Kiora. Christmas was a wonderful chaotic whirl at Gran's House then armed with our presents in sacks made from old green brocade curtains we walked from house to house showing them to aunts, uncles & cousins before tea with grandma, an enormous table groaning with home cooked meats, pork pie, tinned salmon ,bowls of salad & vases of celery, followed by her home made Christmas cake & cups of stro g sweet tea. Later Christmases were spent at home , parties with neighbours, church & Sunday school where paste sandwiches & stiff jelly were served. Very removed from today's quiet affairs, presents. a simple meal of nut roast & fresh vegetables & a walk along the beach as the sea ripples & the sun sets.

STRONG tea - growing up in Birmingham with soft water. the hardness of Lincolns water was particularly noticeable in their tea !

Thinking of all of you who are struggling with health issues, missed loved ones, being let down by others! It is a stressful time for all and , women in particular!!!
We are now back in our own home after three nights at my daughter’s where we were looked after and spoilt ! However, there is no place like home , the cat is happy to see us and , if you haven’t done so, watch Gavin and Stacey! Totally brilliant !!!

I think that is absolutely lovely, as Christmas or any change of routine can prove such an overload for anyone on the spectrum children & Adults.
So glad you all enjoyed the day.

No your certainly not the only one, it’s just became too commercial but your also right it’s definitely for young children.

Pammie1

I just didn’t do it this year. Was diagnosed with breast cancer in April and after the hormone treatment and lumpectomy I had in November failed to deal with the tumour, I opted for mastectomy and the only date the surgeon had for over a month was 18th December. I got through it fine but I really thought Christmas would be a disaster. We scaled back our plans and had a lovely quiet Christmas without half the fuss and marathon cooking, and it was really lovely - much better than I anticipated. I’m doing the same next year !!

Sending good wishes for a complete recovery🌸💐🍰❤️

Fae1

Nanato3 - you give, for the pleasure of giving, not to receive something back !

What a very unpleasant thing to say to someone who is simply feeling rather sad that no one thought to give her a gift at Christmas.

Agreed, far to commercialised now, seems to have lost the point completely

It hasn’t lost the point in my family or friendship group. I expect we all do more in many areas than necessary but there’s a lot of joy amidst the sadness, loss, ill health, hard times that we all endure every year.
This one is tough for me and many of my family and close friends. There’s something to be said for the power of positive thinking. Apologies to those who get irritated - for going Pollyanna

Iam, I am of a similar mindset.

Thanks Marydoll. Posters who ‘know’ us will recognise we know a thing or two about living with chronic pain, with the exhaustion that accompanies our auto immune conditions and the uncertainty about what tomorrow may bring.
I never expected to outlive my lovely, happy, healthy husband. But here I am -missing him constantly and especially during the festive time he loved. I’m living the best life I can and thanking God for blessings
Happy Christmas Marydoll and one and all

I don't understand why some of those on this thread, who have endured troubled times themselves in recent years and yet, are offering so much uplifting support to others, are the ones being by reprimanded by some for joyfully making the best of the time spent with their nearest and dearest at Christmas.
Yes, they are fortunate, as am I, but "please tread softly because you tread on my dreams". (Yeats).

Christmas has not lost the point for many. DH is a cathedral chorister and has sung at concerts and services for several weeks now, attracting huge audiences. Generous collections going to hospices and children's charities. Why is that meaningless?
He will be preparing for Easter services in the New Year, which I am sure many of you know is actually more important than Christmas, and when families will once again enjoy the festivities over 4 days. The point has not been lost completely.

Iam, 💕 Happy Christmas to you too!

I have been quite unwell again recently, now everyone in my family is ill with a bug, but I still love the joy of Christmas.
It does not have to be commercialised, it is what you make it.

There’s something to be said for the power of positive thinking. Apologies to those who get irritated - for going Pollyanna.
Good for you , Iam64
And you Marydoll
And you FGT
And you RosiesMaw
And you Oreo
And you Allira
And anyone else on this thread I've missed!

I have always disliked this period and have to fake false bon homie to keep the peace but I frankly wish they would all sod off somewhere and leave me in peace to enjoy mid winter alone

Thank you escaped.

We had a quiet Christmas this year, just the two of us. I’ve started taking shortcuts. I buy a small turkey joint and some ready prepared M&S vegetables and Christmas pudding for DH who is the only one who eats it. After over 40 years of slogging away doing huge family Christmas dinners from scratch I’ve decided to scale back and take an easier route. I still decorate the tree and house but not the outside lights this year. The family don’t live near so we had a Christmas get together the week before Christmas which was lovely. You have to work around what you have and adjust.

It's fine for some to acknowledge they have nobody who cares, and that they don't enjoy Christmas.
I hope we're past the stage of people having to keep unhappy feelings locked inside, like a dirty secret.

MissAdventure

It's fine for some to acknowledge they have nobody who cares, and that they don't enjoy Christmas.
I hope we're past the stage of people having to keep unhappy feelings locked inside, like a dirty secret.

I totally agree, and as we've seen on here no one wants to silence anyone facing challenges.

It's reassuring to hear that not everyone has a perfect Christmas, like in the adverts.

My Christmas is always troubled - difficult family and difficult people. It makes me cry.

What a hideous competition this has become. We are doing our best, all of us.
Whether alone or with family or grieving or celebrating.