It's already depressing me

Doorstop, don't apologise for posting, that's what GN is all about!
It's lovely to have new members with fresh ideas, welcome!

25Avalon Great reply. Thanks

Great reply

I agree with Monica totally

I have anxiety and depression and after counselling I had turned a corner, was looking forward to moving house and a Easter break both now are on hold until whenever.

My coffee shops buddies I have now swapped phone numbers with so we can phone and text once the coffee shops close as not knowing how they are doing would be horrendous for me as the laughs we have I will miss.

Feeling totally fed up. We were going to fly to Malta on Friday for a week. But Malta has said anyone coming into the country has to isolate for 2 weeks. And here lies the problem. Ryanair will not refund as they are still flying but will change our flights. The travel insurance will not refund or change the dates to another trip. The hotel was the best bit they just cancelled, no charge. If the government would advise us not to travel to Malta we could have our money backbit they haven't.

So now after being on the laptop and phone for over 3 hours I am going out for a walk, shop and coffee armed with gloves and mask.

By the time I've gone through ( tidied ) my photo's cupboard and reminisced in between, the 4 months will be up !. No kidding, there are hundreds and many loose which need putting into the empty albums.

In between, I can walk up and down the garden to keep the circulation going and get some deep breathing done.
I feel for anyone living in blocks of flats with no garden space/outlet or balcony, it would drive me mad.

I can't afford to get anxious or anything because it starts my A/F which can end up me being admitted into resus to be stabilized/cardioversion so I don't want that to happen. At least I have an emergency link which is like having another " body " in the home.

I am used to being on my own and it doesn't bother me unduly as D works and also looks after / fosters 3 of my GGC ( her GC ) so I'd never bother/worry her in any way. Whatever happens I will myself to remain well for her sake and so be it.

Thank you Alexa , I needed those x

I rang my sons to advise them to cancel Sunday visit. One of them turned up wearing disposable rubber gloves.

Now here's thing I had not known, which he told me ,and it is really useful to know:

Long enough washing with soap and water does not only get rid of dirt and sweat containing virus. It also actually kills virus by stripping off the fatty surface of them.

Dear Anniebach !

MawB
Don’t cry, you’ll make me cry too. Wish we could all escape this nightmare. DH is 73 and is at work, the mortgage still has a year left on it and DS lives with us. Both work in retail. I am not going out but they will probably bring it in. I am quite isolated as have no other family. How I long for a walk in the country. It’s true you don’t know what you had until it’s gone! Sorry I am a new to Gransnet so hope you don’t mind me posting.

Is inability to tolerate being alone a disability?

I'm hoping and praying that self isolation for over 70s (my husband) I'm still a youthful mid 60ish, will at least mean they, the over 70s, will be allowed outside for walks in open spaces, this is something we do often now, having a couple of the Royal parks on our doorstep so if that's allowed that would be something to hang on to. My husband's gone off this morning for one of his last few games of golf for a while. Everybody hates the thought of being shut indoors and usually once we emerge from the winter around this time of the year, the unfolding months of better weather are something to look forward to. As with everyone else, holiday plans are cancelled, we would have been in Seville in a week or two, other travel plans on hold. I know we can't obsess about our individual circumstances, it's not great for anyone and hellish for some, but yes the thought of what is coming down the line is depressing. My husband told me on the upside, the house will be decorated and he'll be fluent in Spanish, and well whilst I wouldn't like to predict being anywhere near fluent in French myself by the end of the summer, I'll certainly throw more of my time at improving it.

Maw these are for you ? x

I am more anxious than depressed but either make it difficult to concentrate on doing things, but it is doing things that will help. As Emerson said "every filled hour is a happy one" but how do you fill it? I am lucky as I have a large wilderness garden so plenty to do out there and get fresh air at the same time which is very therapeutic. If you don't have a garden maybe you could take a walk round the block when there aren't many about?
Otherwise how about writing up your memoirs - memories of when you were a child, or tales that your parents and grandparents told you that will be lost for ever unless you write them down.
How about taking up a new hobby? You can always order the equipment you need online and there are loads of instructional lessons that you can download from U-Tube.
Make use of the time that has been "given" to us. If you are religious how about reading the bible? Nothing that has ever happened is not in there somewhere, including plagues and wars and how people coped and survived.
Plenty of people spend years housebound with poor mobility and yet they are some of the most cheerful people. We can survive. Make the most of each day whilst still here.

Whitewave, my granddaughter come every two weeks, she lives 50 miles from me .

annie who does these things normally?

Hmm, I have been fairly philosophical about it up till now but the prospect of loneliness is beginning to get me down.
I truly thought I had turned a corner since losing Paw and while I still miss him more than I can describe, was finding a pleasant way through life with good friends, the freedom to go to London for a day, the occasional trip to the theatre or cinema, maybe a lunch, certainly a coffee.
The days on my own were the tearful days and now I fear a long succession of days like that.
Hmm. What can’t be cured must be endured, but it’s feeling a bit bleak.

I have problems, because I have little use of my hands.

Can’t wash my hair.

Can’t change bed sheets and duvet cover

Can’t cut finger and toe nails.

It’s very strange here in Spain on lockdown. We are in a small apartment. The door to the gardens is locked - no communal gatherings. Yes a walk to the supermarket or pharmacy is allowed. But once inside it’s strange.

TV, radio, reading. FaceTime yesterday to family in the U.K. phone calls.

Looking at one another 24/7 will be a test. If either of us coughs (and who hasn’t got an occasional tickly cough at this time of year!) the other looks over.... is this anything?

Measured eating. We don’t want to have to go to the supermarket unless we need to. Simple meals. Scrambled eggs on toast (for dinner haha! Not breakfast! - that was cereal to save on the bread, with a yoghurt and fruit). We only have a fridge with an icebox, no freezer - but a supermarket over the road out here is usually ‘our larder’.

I might learn to play cards. Or break open the Scrabble. Day 2 out of 15.

We have malt whiskey, gin, wine and beers.

They are necessary, trust me ...
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I self isolated yesterday afternoon and that was enough for me. I quickly became bored with the TV, radio, knitting, newspaper and my book.
I also became increasingly annoyed with our AC who texted us on the family whatsapp with a mixture of horror stories and "instructions/advice" for how we must stay in and yet somehow look out for their DGP who really are old.

I will go on the U3A walk as it's a lovely day and I am not unwell - yet.

So many plans have had to be cancelled, we will just have to make the most of what we are able to do. and hope it isn't for too long.
Some shops were going to open specially for us "elderly" for an hour or two, maybe first thing?.

There is nothing to stop flat dwellers going for walks, as long as they keep away from other people.

Doing this will be easier for those in rural areas, but with the days getting longer and mornings lighter, there is nothing to stop people going for a walk first thing in the morning, before 7.00am in most areas when few people will be up and about.

In the summer months when the light mornings wake me, I am sometimes up and out by 5.30. I rarely if ever see anyone and everything looks so much better in the light of early morning.

I have a crochet project on the go , but I am so jittery that I can’t do more than a few stitches at a time ?

There you are - a phone tree whatever that is - does it come with money?

I think that people will be surprised at how well they will cope and will have inner strength that they didn’t realise they had.

Mobilise everything you can think of to help you in this period of isolation including us on here?

We could set up a thread in particular for those who are on their own and we could all ensure that someone is always ready to chat etc.

I’m sure others have more imaginative ideas than me.

Maybe GN could set up a phone tree ( I believe its called? )