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It's not always that easy

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Lizbethann55 Sat 21-Mar-20 16:48:44

But aren't you all missing the point. You all mention people who do have other people to do stuff for them or who are just being awkward . And of course they should stay in. Although how many of you have been to the shops today? I know I have. But my concern is those who genuinely do not have anyone. And, tragically, in this day and age, there really are some very old, extremely isolated people out there who are totally on their own. They have to go to get their own food in. Or, literally , starve. Also let's not forget that isolation is used as a form of punishment in prisons and even as a means of torture in some countries. By the way Hithere my own personal situation could not be more different. I am fit, well, was working until my place of work was closed yesterday. I have a loving husband and children who all live very close. But I do see in my work some very lonely and isolated people. And I worry about them.

SalsaQueen Sat 21-Mar-20 15:45:44

I work as a Warden at a sheltered housing scheme, and whilst SOME of the residents are staying in, most of them are going to the shops, church, and hairdresser......and most of them have got families who could do errands for them.

Hithere Sat 21-Mar-20 15:02:16

Your DDs are right.

This is not easy for anybody. Young and old. Parents, children, grandparents, etc. This is very hard and this is only the beginning.

Using your own personal circumstances to justify that the rules don't apply to you is putting everybody at risk.

Life is not easy. Yet, we cope, adapt and make it work.

I wish people who claim that are older and wiser would understand that.

You are not the titanic.

Hetty58 Sat 21-Mar-20 14:46:44

I totally agree with your daughters Lizbethann55. There are a lot of very stubborn old people who are so set in their ways that they still get the paper and a few items of shopping each morning - every day!

Very few of them have no living younger relatives, neighbours or friends willing to help. The either won't ask, or refuse offers of help.

Other people can get things for them and deliver to their doors. They can still go out for a nice walk but should be keeping away from people and shops!

EllanVannin Sat 21-Mar-20 14:38:22

Surely those who've bled supermarkets dry and there have been hundreds, won't be wanting the same amounts again next week ??

Luckygirl Sat 21-Mar-20 13:19:51

I do not think it is easy for anyone.

I am hoping that the wonderful volunteers in many localities will be able help people like those you describe.

I am deeply confused by supermarkets having early morning slots of time devoted to those who are on social distancing - surely the point is NOT to go to supermarkets!

Lizbethann55 Sat 21-Mar-20 13:05:03

I have just had a row (on line obviously) with my DC. My DD has just said how surprised she is at how many old people are out shopping when they should be staying in. Another DD agreed with her and said they "don't get (understand) it". This was my reply " what do you suggest they do? There are a lot of people out there who have absolutely no one. Who live entirely on their own. Who don't have/ don't use computers (who couldn't book a food order even if they knew how because there aren't any). They couldn't stock up earlier because they couldn't afford to/ don't have the space/ don't have the means of carrying. I know we should all be staying in but it really is not easy for everyone. If you were really old and totally, absolutely on your own,would you rather die of Corona or starvation?" They probably won't speak to me again! Was I justified?