Daughter needs help with young children

@Txtquiltz: playdates are off. The message is simple - do not mingle with people from other households. Keep your germs to yourself, and let them keep theirs.

Her husband will not be returning to work for 14 days as he cannot return. Your daughter needs to go off sick too. You will be putting yourself at risk and would have to stay there for a minimum of 14 days, longer if any one else gets symptoms. If daughter well enough to return to work after 7 days and you become I'll who will care for you. A lot to think about, but the decision must be yours as long as you understand the implications.

I know how you feel. I ache to help my daughter too because I know she is struggling and she looked exhausted when I saw her on face time. But really you can't go. It sounds as though she should skeg isolate and so should her husband. Chances are it will just be a cold but it might not be an did her husband works in tbs NHS he could pass it onto vulnerable people

Since hubby is with NHS he may have colleagues with spouses at home that might lend a hand. The 3 year old might go for a "play date" while infant stays with mom. I am assuming she is nursing. Protect yourself...a sick grandmother would be bad for all of you. This silly little virus is one mean enemy to everyone. Best wishes.

Please don't attack me as I know you will .
We've all got our reasons and needs .
Love to all .

I think that it's her husband who should stay at home , all under isolation .
I've been helping out my daughter , as per usual , with dashes with toilet rolls , cash etc in emergencies that this virus has created .
I'm going again tomorrow as it's a birthday . There's 5 kiddies in the house , no daddies, no other grandparents in contact just this old loving donkey .
We're all well but if one of them contracts the virus I will happily square my shoulders and move in with them .
Love is the drug .

Thanks for all your comments. I think I was just panicking. It's a no brainer!

I feel for you but when most of us look back we had to look after young children , three under three in my case while husband went to work and no family support. Plus feeling ill . Not Cv but colds, sinusitis and mastitis. I had them all

The message is so clear: stay away to help the NHS and to save lives.
But it is so hard and I sympathise. One of my daughters has had some pretty awful news today and under normal circumstances, I would have called in with flowers a long hug and a listening ear. My heart breaks but we have to do the right thing.

Children are super-spreaders so you would be at risk. We don’t suddenly become vulnerable the day we turn 70.
Stay away, your daughter will cope as mothers do.

So her husband is there to look after your daughter and the children? There would not seem to be any point, in fact it would be reckless to go and expose yourself to the virus and all that entails. Under other circumstances of course you would go, but we have been told to stay at home and save lives.

Sorry I wasn't clear in my earlier post. I meant that as she is showing symptoms that could be the virus, her husband can't go to work and should stay to care for her and the children - 14 days minimum

What about if you went to help her , caught the virus yourself with worse symptoms than your daughter? She would then be left looking after her children and yourself while not feeling very well herself. Perhaps better for everyone if you follow the official rules and stay at home.

According to government guidelines, if your daughter is displaying any of the covid 19 symptoms the whole family should isolate themselves for 14 days.
You should not go anywhere near.

Forgive me if Im wrong but isn’t she displaying corona virus symptoms? So if you go and risk it you must stay.
Why was her husband away from work? Did he have symptoms?

No, I would not go in your position.

Personally I wouldn’t risk it but it is an option at some point in the isolating process.

Could you go and help her, and stay for several weeks, meanwhile her husband go and live in your house? He could and should isolate now but could do it there and then return to work and if willing live at yours for several weeks. I know other families who are doing this.

What if the you are carrying the virus, but not showing any symptoms yet?
Your DD might even have it!

So many Grans on here asking if they should go and help out,

NO.

What is so difficult about the information that is on every page, every TV Channel every Newspaper ?

I think her husband should stay at home. She may or may not have the virus.

www.gransnet.com/grandparenting/grandparents-and-grandchildren-during-coronavirus

I wouldn't risk it

As much as you want to help I would say its too risky, you dont need to have underlying health conditions to catch the virus!

If her symptons could be the virus, her husband should be staying home for 14 days anyway

As you aren't in a high risk group you could go but you'd have to stay there 14 days. good luck

No. Much as I sympathise with your situation. You don't have to have underlying health problems to catch this virus.