Neighbour breaking lockdown

If they are 2 isolating families I suppose the risks are small. At least it is on their own property and not a public place. This thing isn't going to stop anyway, all we can do is slow it down and protect the vulnerable. Keep yourself safe and try not to let it stress you out.

I would suggest you dont report your neighbour. Any viral illness is very obviously going to go right through the whole population anyway despite the best efforts of social distancing.

It's very difficult isn't it ?Our DD was seeing this and it was really upsetting her as she leaves her family to work in ICU.They finally seemed to stop.Apperently one of them was admitted to hospital and had a fever.Turned out to be something other than CV but gave them a scare.In her words they are just some of the many idiots who think they are a special case,and appreciates the vast majority are doing their bit.And focuses on the job in hand.
And a friend is shocked at how neighbour -also a friend of both of us- has found it impossible to stay in using any excuse to pop to a shop ,and having family call in.Even all chatting together in the front garden.I know one thing it certainly changes your oppinion of people even if you don't say anything.

Meanwhile the Swedish experiment of not lockdown chunters along. It will be interesting to compare results in due course.

Personally, I wouldn't say anything.

I would report them every time. This kind of thing makes me really cross. We are all having to stay in and doing our best while others think the rules don't apply to them or maybe they are just too stupid to understand what they are doing.

Who cares what others do, that is their responsibility. It only matters if they are putting you at a risk or someone who is vulnerable. Then you need to take proper action.

Life is too short to be a snitch or neighbour-from-hell.

It a complicated situation we are in now.

Of course we need to limit the number of cases to prevent the NHS from being overwhelmed, but until a vaccine is produced herd immunity is the only answer.

Therefore allowing a small proportion of the population to get it will help us all.

M0nica Thu 16-Apr-20 14:10:13

Thoroughly agree with you.

This bug is changing our behaviour and thought processes in so many ways, on so many levels. It's hard for perhaps a lot of people to be sensible when they're scared.

It's also bringing out some people's true characters, unfortunately. I've seen this already in only a few of my neighbours.

I wouldn't snitch on anyone though. I just keep my distance. And always bear in mind that we're still going to have to live with each other when we emerge the other side of this crisis!

My stepdaughter just rang to wish her father a happy birthday. She works on the very front line (intensive care)in a London hospital, and was feeling quite depressed by the number of deaths she is dealing with. It makes me really angry that people think the rules don't apply to them.

OP you are exactly the kind of person that snitches or you would not be considering reporting them. I do not see how they could possibly be putting you at risk if you are sticking to the rules. M0nica is right.

It is annoying that there are some who are not complying with the rules. Just let them get on with it. As long as they are not close to you there is no problem.
I have had to revise my opinion of some people but I would not report them.

Coronavirus has turned too many neighbours into curtain twitchers and nosey snitchers. Fully expect to see a ducking stool and a set of stocks set up outside town halls soon. Mind your own business Bluenose10; just so long as you're following the rules, that's all you need to worry about.

We keep ourselves to ourselves and ignore anything the neighbours are doing.

So long as they stay away from us, which they do, they're not harming us. Same for you. Anyway, the more people who catch it while we're in isolation the better off we'll be if we do catch it later, with more medical support and knowledge available.

There always have been people who think of no-one but themselves and there always will: looters taking advantage of every disaster, the black marketeers during each war, the people who stockpiled everything they could with no thought for anyone else during this emergency, the scammers who take advantage of the naive... the list is endless.

There are too many people letting a bit of jealousy get the better of them. Reminds me of children all clamouring to have what everyone else has without considering whether it is good for them.

That said, there are definitely people who are off my Xmas card list after this.

As Monica says it is their responsibility.Some of our neighbours aren’t sticking to the rules,it’s annoying but they will still be our neighbours when this situation ends so no I wouldn’t report them.You have probably changed how you feel about them but I wouldn’t risk a major fall out.Also,we don’t know other people’s circumstances.

I agree with MOnica we can only take responsibility for our own actions, even if we feel very annoyed with others.
I know some who are mixing within families, under the pretext that they are all isolating individually anyway. If that was in fact safe, many in my street who are oldies, could all get together as we are all individually "self isolating".

I would ignore them and get on with your life and continue to do what you are doing,I have a neighbour who I always ask if he needs shopping when I go out and he always gives me a list saying he has no friends, this past 2 weeks a trail of visitors have been going to his house and they have been in the garden drinking beer there is no way when this is over will I ever so much a buy him a morning paper when I go to the local shops he can get one of his best friends to go for him.

I disagree with you all.
I'm not advocating snitching, which sounds like something from school days, but I would be angry.

An earlier poster said ‘Who cares?’. I do. I care for all those medical staff who are working so hard in extremely difficult circumstances to save the lives of people like these tossers!!!! Let’s hope they’re in a minority!! ?

There is nothing to suggest that these people are other than a minority and frequently they are in groups that are least likely to get the virus, so some how miss it.

The thing that worries me, is the health and welfare of all those who seem to be in a high state of anxiety all the time about Covid, whether they are in the high riskgroup or not and seem to grab every negative point and become more and more anxious.

I am not saying that the current situation is not worrying, especially for those who are most at risk, but there comes apoint where for the sake of ones mental and physical health you need to stop burdening yourself with everyone elses actions and disengage from what does not affect you and your loved ones immediately. Yes, if your neighbours action put people already at risk at greater risk, then report them, but if they are only putting themselves at risk, step back. For your own sake.

Who cares ?I do. I wouldn't snitch but the nature of cross infection means you have literally no idea how many people you may be infecting if you meet others outside your own household and are positive but asymptomatic. Therefore those who increase outings and contact unecessarily are putting others -not just myself -at greater risk and directly increasing the death rate.And will never know if someone in their chain of infection is going to have a mild dose or be seriously ill and die. I can't stress about what others do endlessly but I do feel frustrated on behalf of everyone doing their bit.And like all of us want some return to normality soon.

God grant us the serenity to accept the things we cannot change, the courage to change the things we can, and the wisdom to know the difference.

I have just quoted this on another thread. It applies here as well. If there is something you can do do, it, but if you can't, but we all cannot take on all the problems of the world, that way lies madness.

We need to know when we can take action and do so, but accept that what we cannot change, we must accept.

I long ago accepted that some people are arses.
Having a moan is important in my acceptance journey.

Of course those who are keeping to the rules are affecting others.
They are the ones who will cause this to go on longer. They could affect everyone who they are in a shop with and if through their own fault they get the virus the affect all the medical staff and hospital workers.
Selfish through and through.