Neighbour breaking lockdown

I don't advise reporting them or allowing yourself to become angry about it. Instead, my advice would be to concentrate on what your own family are doing during this lockdown and lead by your own example. It's possible these people are being selfish but it's not your place to report them and you may find yourself regretting it long term.

Hang on .... what about all our NHS staff who are risking their and their precious families’ lives to treat these people? Would you like to do that? Come on!!

Its very difficult we have a daughter who is a key worker and single mum. We have helped with child care as we are always together.
Distancing for other family while helping with ponies and shopping. As we are not in a vulnerable group we are just t doing our best. Can understand ithers getting upset about things like this

I live in a small community in sheltered housing and the number of people here flouting the rules is appalling! I mentioned this to the manager here and all I got back was 'I cant force people to stop indoors'.

Well perhaps my neighbours will report me
My daughter and her husband are key workers, yes their young children have a place at school but who do you expect to look after them at 6 in the morning, 10 at night or at the weekends???? They come to me, they will continue to come to me. I see no difference between this and children going between duvorced/separated parents.

I would have a 'friendly' non confrontational word with my neighbour either over the fence or the phone. If she takes offence then she's obviously a very insensitive and not very understanding neighbour that I wouldn't want to be friendly with anyway. If she and her family think their behaviour is ok heaven knows what other rules they are flouting. IMO they are no better than the groups of teenagers ignoring social distancing and meeting in parks etc with no thought to anyone else.Doing nothing is being complicit.

Don’t do it

M0nica I'd also agree that your words are sensible...I've been reading about people who live in motorhomes or another type of live-in vehicle because it's their only option. Many have had the police called on them, been threatened, etc. Some of the stories were heartbreaking.

While I have no time for parties etc, we need to remember some people's circumstances.

Mind your own business. So long as no one infects you taking their own chances is their affair. The nation's mental health is important too you know - and this lockdown will have very very long consequences in that area, especially for children who must nowcquestoon what 'normal' behaviour is ! Herd immunity ( letting about 80% of the population get the virus ) is the only way forward anyway long term- otherwise we shall all be living (or dying)!with this forever ! I'd say stop curtain twitching, live and let live. go and find something more worthwhile to do. . Stay well. Stay kind.

Mr Northern is currently having radiotherapy and has to go to the hospital daily to have his treatment, he started the second week of lockdown, the couple who live in the bungalow opposite who normally keep themselves to themselves, and cut anyone dead who speaks to them on the street, watched out of their front window as he left every day , he had been out the house about 40 minutes on the 4th day and i had the police knocking on the door asking where my husband kept going every day, i must admit i was abit short with her and told her exactly why and asked her to tell who ever it was to mind their own business, and to tell them he had a valid reason i then watched her walk to the bungalow to speak to them so i know its them, its a good job we are on lockdown or mt northern would have told them in a manner that would have caused terrible offence

I only report stuff which affects me. Anything else is up to the idiots people who decide to do their own thing as they have to live with the consequences.
I've no time to waste on people who flout rules.

Difficult one. Over Easter the house behind us definitely had a barbecue party with visitors. Got me very very cross and had to come indoors out of the sunshine in the back garden to calm down. My son's advice was leave them to it if they are nowhere near you and if they want risk themselves so be it.
Luckily we live in North Devon with only a handful of cases but even so when we stick to the letter of law in an attempt to get through this nightmare it is very tough.

Greeneyedgirl Thank you.

MOnica Have just seen your post Thurs 16:36 and I think it is one of the most sensible posts I have seen on GN on this subject for weeks.

Look at it this way, would you tolerate somebody putting your family's and other's lives at risk?

They could, for example be a speeding drunk driver, arsonist, armed raider, mugger or terrorist. What's the difference?

Would you mind your own business and look the other way?

Perhaps, instead, you'd feel duty bound to report them in the interests of public safety. It's not 'snitching', it's being a responsible citizen.

The police will call round to have a talk with them. They won't know who reported their behaviour.

Thank you all for your responses. There’s a good mix for and against and I respect that. I understand that people have different opinions and, most of you have expressed yourselves in a friendly and informed way; and for that I thank you. Stay home and stay safe.

Sorry that should say NOT keeping to the rules.

Of course those who are keeping to the rules are affecting others.
They are the ones who will cause this to go on longer. They could affect everyone who they are in a shop with and if through their own fault they get the virus the affect all the medical staff and hospital workers.
Selfish through and through.

I long ago accepted that some people are arses.
Having a moan is important in my acceptance journey.

God grant us the serenity to accept the things we cannot change, the courage to change the things we can, and the wisdom to know the difference.

I have just quoted this on another thread. It applies here as well. If there is something you can do do, it, but if you can't, but we all cannot take on all the problems of the world, that way lies madness.

We need to know when we can take action and do so, but accept that what we cannot change, we must accept.

Who cares ?I do. I wouldn't snitch but the nature of cross infection means you have literally no idea how many people you may be infecting if you meet others outside your own household and are positive but asymptomatic. Therefore those who increase outings and contact unecessarily are putting others -not just myself -at greater risk and directly increasing the death rate.And will never know if someone in their chain of infection is going to have a mild dose or be seriously ill and die. I can't stress about what others do endlessly but I do feel frustrated on behalf of everyone doing their bit.And like all of us want some return to normality soon.

There is nothing to suggest that these people are other than a minority and frequently they are in groups that are least likely to get the virus, so some how miss it.

The thing that worries me, is the health and welfare of all those who seem to be in a high state of anxiety all the time about Covid, whether they are in the high riskgroup or not and seem to grab every negative point and become more and more anxious.

I am not saying that the current situation is not worrying, especially for those who are most at risk, but there comes apoint where for the sake of ones mental and physical health you need to stop burdening yourself with everyone elses actions and disengage from what does not affect you and your loved ones immediately. Yes, if your neighbours action put people already at risk at greater risk, then report them, but if they are only putting themselves at risk, step back. For your own sake.

An earlier poster said ‘Who cares?’. I do. I care for all those medical staff who are working so hard in extremely difficult circumstances to save the lives of people like these tossers!!!! Let’s hope they’re in a minority!! ?

I disagree with you all.
I'm not advocating snitching, which sounds like something from school days, but I would be angry.

I would ignore them and get on with your life and continue to do what you are doing,I have a neighbour who I always ask if he needs shopping when I go out and he always gives me a list saying he has no friends, this past 2 weeks a trail of visitors have been going to his house and they have been in the garden drinking beer there is no way when this is over will I ever so much a buy him a morning paper when I go to the local shops he can get one of his best friends to go for him.