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MawB Thu 30-Apr-20 19:02:44

Does anybody else find their emotions are that bit closer to the surface these lockdown days?
I have just watched the evening news and the item on Captain Tom - and the duet with Michael Ball - had me sobbing my heart out. I could feel the tears at the flypast this morning too.
Tonight’s Big Clap will see me choked and seeing my grandson on FaceTime likewise!
I honestly feel I could snivel my way through the weather forecast. Look out Tomasz Schafernaker.
Some days a sad news item or even a sad post on GN sets me off and don’t mention music!
Please tell me I am not alone in this?

cornergran Sat 02-May-20 11:24:49

I have a little weep most nights before I go to sleep. It’s a bit of a release and doesn’t worry M C as he is asleep as soon as his head hits the pillow. The rest of the time I’m Oscar worthy material with my cheerful face on. It’s an emotional time for many of us I think so no, you aren’t alone maw.

Knittynatter Sat 02-May-20 11:24:56

Saw my eldest son very unexpectedly irl yesterday - I was walking and he was driving past so stopped to chat through the window. It was so lovely to see him and he looked so well that I just cried and cried. I felt so bad for him afterwards. I do try to walk around with a smile on my face.

lincolnimp Sat 02-May-20 11:31:13

I really thought it was only me.
I try blaming my leaking eyes on hay fever---to my DH anyway, but anything can set me off.
Those little acts of kindness we hear about are the worst and phonecalls and messages full of kindness---and dont mention books I read. I don't chose teary books, something inevitably jumps out and makes the eyes leak

Mimigirl Sat 02-May-20 11:38:46

I can relate to how you are feeling. I’m constantly tearing up over everything. I’m normally an emotional person but this is more extreme. I put it down to the uncertainty of life we are currently facing. Lockdown is taking its toll on a daily basis. Constantly reminded of the fragility of our lives with many untimely deaths is heartbreaking and scary. This is leaving everyone feeling vulnerable missing loved ones. It’s unprecedented so coping is difficult. we must keep positive stay at home and look forward to hopefully better times ahead....

inishowen Sat 02-May-20 11:42:17

I have just had a good cry, the first since lockdown. My husband made some comments about me planting stuff in the garden without a proper plan. I went to the bathroom and just bawled. I feel less stressed now. It really started building up a few days ago when I saw a picture of my 7 year old grandson and he had changed. His front baby teeth had fallen out and adult teeth were appearing and his normally short hair had grown long. It made me realise what we're missing with all four grandchildren.

Dancinggran Sat 02-May-20 11:43:20

I think most people's emotions are very close to the surface. Every evening after work I Zoom call one of my grandson's, he chooses one of his books to read to me (the only way he will practice his reading) and then I read a chapter of a book to him. Last night his sisters aged 13 and 11 (birthday yesterday) jumped in on the call it was very emotional seeing them altogether, chatting and being able to sing Happy Birthday. Its not that I haven't spoken to them over the last few weeks but coupled with more changes at work this week (I am an admin and working with District nurses at present), I think it just tipped me over the edge last night.

Purplepixie Sat 02-May-20 11:49:34

MawB - I know just what you mean. I was doing some knitting the other day and did a mistake and I sobbed for ages over something so menial and simple. Also when Captain Tom was on TV we had seen the aeroplanes earlier as they headed for his house, I cried as well.

Then two of my grand children have just got mobile phones and I thought that I would hear from them and I didn’t, so I text them, still no reply. This is a petty thing as I know young teens are busy but it really upset me to think that they could just drop a text. Another tearful event.

Take care all my lovely friends on this wonderful site and try and stay strong, it isn’t easy but I am sure we will get there. Wherever there is? Xx

FarNorth Sat 02-May-20 11:49:45

I've been feeling less able to cope with ordinary routine things. Just as I have been before, when something serious has happened to me, and I've been in shock.
Although nothing awful has actually happened to me or my family, it's the whole situation that's preying on me and on so many others.

I think the person who mentioned PTSD, upthread, is spot on.

constance Sat 02-May-20 11:53:24

It's reminding me of being pregnant years ago and crying at Andrex puppies on adverts. Do miss the grandbabies and keep replaying the tiny video updates I get sent.

GabriellaG54 Sat 02-May-20 12:02:53

No. I'm not the emotional type except where my children GC and GGC are concerned. Mostly my own children to be truthful.
I do feel for children in unhappy home situations and there are odd things which tug at the heart strings but crying...rarely, very rarely.
Sympathy does nothing. I prefer to take some kind of action if I feel I can help anonymously.

GabriellaG54 Sat 02-May-20 12:05:59

Yeah...I'm the most solid, unflappable, resourceful, positive person you're ever likely to meet (or not on GN)

Noreen3 Sat 02-May-20 12:07:29

yes,definitely more emotional at the moment.Colonel/Captain Tom's birthday really got to me.I was in tears watching the flypast,My husband,who passed away nearly 2 years ago loved the Spitfire and Hurricane,it brought back memories of him.And I was in floods of tears at the little girl,Harmonie Rose,who lost her limbs to meningitis,wishing Tom a happy birthday.Also,my husband was in a care home,so the thoughts of all the poor people who are dying in them,and the relatives who can't see them,and the carers who have to cope with them makes me so sad.

dragonfly46 Sat 02-May-20 12:14:20

Yes my tears are very near the surface all the time.
I get away with tears streaming down my face as it is also a side effect of the chemo so no-one really notices.
I think all our emotions are heightened at the moment especially for you dear Maw and others who are alone at this time for whom it is especially hard.

vickymeldrew Sat 02-May-20 12:33:54

Maw - of course everyone is ultra emotional ! We are all in difficult circumstances unique to each of us. I don’t think you expected anyone to say “no we’re all fine and it’s just you who is feeling low”.

grannybuy Sat 02-May-20 13:00:38

Emotional indeed. DH developed C Virus in nursing home, and is now in hospital. I've been thinking so much about happier days.

Joesoap Sat 02-May-20 13:07:11

I thought I was gong mad, but I realise we are all the same,tearful. I am tearful just reading this thread, as for the lovely videos of Colonal Tom I havent cried so much for ages.What will we be like when Lock Down stops, there will be flooding, with so many tears of joy.

sarahanew Sat 02-May-20 13:10:54

Yes, more emotional, but I don't think that's a bad thing. I would say more in touch with our emotions shows empathy

3nanny6 Sat 02-May-20 13:28:24

So pleased I am not alone in feeling more emotional than usual. To be honest I found the first weeks of lockdown fairly easy to deal with and just got on with it. The things that upset me were the families that came on T.V. talking of the lost loved ones, and the reality of how many had lost their lives to the coronavirus. I started to watch less news as it would get me upset. It's only this last week that tears have been near the surface although I am not sure why but I will cope and can cope. The best news I have heard is that Boris wants to bring the country out of lockdown by 26th May and get the country back at work. Hopefully we will all be crying tears of joy and celebration when we can at last have some normality.

Pinkrinse Sat 02-May-20 14:11:20

No you’re not alone I’m the same. Last weekend there was a little girl on the radio, from Spain, and it was her first time out of her apartment for 6 weeks, and she was talking about how nice to feel the fresh air on her face. I was off! I cry at the slightest thing. I think it’s a combination of low level constant stress, a bit of fear and frustration at the situation.

Nanevon Sat 02-May-20 14:16:01

My DH died at the end of January and I was doing ok. I was able to drive over to my daughter's house and she could come and see me. Since lockdown I have been very lonely and the smallest things have me crying. But I try to look forward to better times when it will be safe (we hope) to go visiting again. I think anxiety about the present situation can make us more weepy than usual.

Tweedle24 Sat 02-May-20 14:31:40

No, Maw. You have plenty of company. As a retired nurse I was always able to ‘keep it together’ for patients and relatives but, a sad film and I am off!

Nowadays I usually have Classic FM on the radio during the day and sometimes have to turn it off. I can guarantee tears for Elgar’s Nimrod or Tchaikovsky’s 6th or any other slow music.

Missgran Sat 02-May-20 14:51:51

I find that my emotions are very near the surface.just thinking of my 2 grandchildren who live down the road makes we want to cry at not being able hug them

Alioop Sat 02-May-20 15:04:18

Captain Tom has been the thing that has been setting me off too. It normally takes a lot for me to have a good cry, but watching that brilliant man and what he is doing raising millions has me sobbing.

skunkhair63 Sat 02-May-20 15:05:44

I love to see my daughters when they do a joint Zoom call (I don't even know how that's possible grin ) I'm absolutely fine, love seeing their beautiful faces and chatting away to them. But when it comes to say goodbye I have to fight to stop my voice from cracking, somehow force my face into a cheery smile, as I wave a jolly "Goodbye". Then I press the off button, and the tears come. How much longer is this going to go on? Feel I'm running on empty already! (((Hugs to everyone))) sad

mbmb Sat 02-May-20 15:30:16

Yes I too am on an emotional roller coaster. I swing from optimism to despair in an afternoon. I would love to have the release of tears but somehow I just can't cry. My eyes fill up and that's as far as I get.

It's good to know there are so many others feeling ultra emotional at the moment. I try to live in the present moment but it's very hard to do that. We are all having to cope with fear, stress and uncertainty - no wonder we feel all over the shop - and we are denied the comfort of being with others that usually helps such a lot in difficult times. I try to remember that this will end.