I’m at my wits end !

I think I’d say if he goes to the pub he can stay there.

He sounds quite selfish, sorry if you think that’s harsh.

Good luck.

I would leave him, or more to the point ask him to leave - the past few months have laid relationships bare and we see the whole spectrum of abuse from physical to mental and your husband’s falls into the latter. He is placing you in a state of fear and the least he could do is ask for your opinion on how you would feel if he went - by simply telling you he is showing a lack of care and recklessness in his endangerment of your life - I have no confidence in the ability of pubs to enforce social distancing - if the police can’t do it in public spaces then I don’t see how a bunch of very young adults which is what the hospitality industry’s bar personnel comprise can ensure social distancing - this is purely an economic measure to appease business and totally against scientific advice - so have the serious conversation and then take a serious move.

I'm beginning to think my husband has secretly married you and set up a second household with you .....
Seriously though, I have already moved to the spare bedroom, the house, especially the living areas, get sanitized several times a day and I'm now paranoid about what he's touched or used, from the we to the pepper pot.
I'd have to travel 250 miles to move in with my daughter.
He doesn't think he's being Sufism or uncaring, he honestly doesn't think he could possibly catch it or spread it .... I know he thinks I'm over reacting. There's nothing we can do to change them so we either live with the constant fear or move out.
I'm living with it.
Good luck

Ask him directly whether he doesn't care if he gets it, gives it to you and then you die. If he pooh poohs that or laughs it off, then he's just an idiot and you are better off without him. Does he know how many people have died? And if not died, been through an awful ordeal and been left with long term consequences? Specially older, overweight men.

Your husband is being a selfish prick. If he cared about you at all he wouldn't risk your health.

I would tell him to go and stay at his mates house.
Or let him sleep in a tent in the garden.
I definitely would not let him back into the house
You only have one life and you need to put yourself first

Perhaps if he has to prepare his own meals, do his own shopping and washing, he might see things differently.

Your husband is most selfish! Could you ask your daughter to have a word with him. If this doesn’t work move in with your daughter and maybe he will come round

I don’t get why men can’t have a drink at home instead of the pub. They could ask a couple of friends round and sit at a distance in their own garden. It’s the pub mentality! Never understood it! If he insists on going move in with your daughter is she will have you.

O P-Yes, make him move out instead then.i know its sad as you've been together a long time etc.but really, if he thinks so little he would risk you too then it might be the end of the road? I don't think i would think twice to be honest about putting myself first in this situation.

There are 10 days to wait yet aren't there?
I'd suggest dropping the subject for a bit. He won't want to lose face with his friends by staying away because you suggested it. And the friends themselves are prob facing home pressures as well.
He might be more inclined to be sensible if he decides for himself.
Or is your daughter especially vulnerable? None of us at our best with two -2s of course, but I may have missed something.

I feel for you, only you can decide what you will do,, I hope it doesn`t cause you too much anguish whatever you decide.

Just know that we all care for you and yours, so please let us know what you decide..

I really don`t know what I would have done under these circumstances...

lots of prayer and cyber hugs for you.

Tell him if its so rare how come so many have had it already? And how many are dead the world over from it? And even nearly 50,000 in Britain? Theyre catching it from someone arent they? The bloody gov't are all just for the money- yes its for peoples livelihoods but what good will that be to them if they caught it from a customer anyway & died?

are people when they have had a few too many keep to the observancies? i doubt it, move out ! or into a caravan in the garden.A tough situation for you i hope it gets sorted out.

My vote is also move in with your daughter and grandchildren.

Classic selfish signs that the relationship is all about him with absolutely no regard for your feelings. Get rid of him because your feelings are equally as important as his.

Move in with your daughter or tell him to move in with one of his drinking buddies...simple

Flakesdayout- I would have thought going out to test a bike would be safe enough? Bike ridings been allowed a while? So long as you're 6 feet apart from others? Wouldn't a shower & a change of clothes be enough?its not any different to going out excercising/walking.

I agree, move in with your daughter.

Move in with your daughter, remove all the food and leave his washing for him to do.

That's really tough for you. Yes, he is being selfish .
Does he have any children/siblings that you could speak to about this? Would he listen to them?
It might be fairly easy to move in with your daughter if you knew how long that would be for. If you usually help to look after the grandchildren and would be doing so in the long term anyway, you may have to stay with your daughter for many months/ over a year which could obviously have consequences for your marriage. It's a very difficult decision and I think we all really feel for you.

Move in with your daughter. I moved in with my son-in-law & small grandchildren when my DD was dreadfully ill in hospital with cancer, it's the younger generation who needs you....not your selfish OH!

Most certainly move in with D.As long as it takes as H is only concerned with himself and his drinking pals..

Yes, i thought that, that drink & remembering to social distance dont mix well, but maybe thats why there was talk of 'maybe only being allowed 2/3 drinks?' Or only allowed so much time? Or some such? Theres been no real 'rules' allowed out yet has there, only about distancing?

I have had it and I am a fit person much older than you. My husband who lives with me, didn’t get it. Most of us, I am assured by my children, will survive. They are Doctors working with C-19. But they have also told us not to go anywhere.
However, if you end up on a ventilator, you have a 20% chance of dying.
Separate everything out, plates knives, sleep separately ( no sex ? He won’t like that will he), wear a mask...if you leave home, you may be away for months.