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Looking after Grandkids dilemna

(30 Posts)
Gran32 Wed 08-Jul-20 12:05:25

Hi all. I'm new here. I feel very confused. I've been shielding until recently as my steroid course ended so now my daughter is putting me under pressure to start having the kids again. She's never taken covid19 or me having rheumatoid disease seriously. Doesn't socially distance but expects help now. If I don't, she'll lose her job so I'm losing sleep. I know the rates are dropping but its still out there. 3 if my family members were very ill with Covid so I know how nasty it can be

Esspee Mon 13-Jul-20 23:55:45

The kind people who cared enough to give you advice have wasted their time. I think they are due an apology from you OP.

Esspee Tue 14-Jul-20 00:09:50

You have three identical threads running with lots of kind advice and support. What a waste of our time.

Madgran77 Tue 14-Jul-20 07:18:20

Gran32 you say you lost the argument. The real issue here is the relationship with your daughter/the attitude of your daughter towards you OR it is your own view of yourself/your fears about your relationship with your daughter. I dont know which but my advice would be to think carefully about it and what YOU want in the future for YOUR life , within the constraints of your illness. You dont sound at the moment as if you are in charge of that flowers

FarNorth Tue 14-Jul-20 09:44:49

There shouldn't have been an argument.

Apparently loads of grandparents are looking after their grandkids now!
If loads of grandparents were jumping off a cliff, would you do it too?