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I completely forgot the pandemic

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kangaroo73 Sun 26-Jul-20 10:33:11

Yesterday after a long walk I saw my neighbour upon my return. She’d just been to pick up her little dog’s ashes with her son. She wanted to show me them so invited me in. She then offered me coffee which I accepted. We sat and chatted for about an hour. It wasn’t until I went back home and my granddaughter who lives with me asked if I’d socially distanced that I realised my mistake. I had completely forgotten about the pandemic, the rules - everything. All along I’ve been so careful to the point of neurosis. How could I have been so foolish. Now I’m worried. I’m 74, my neighbour is 81.

OurKid1 Mon 27-Jul-20 11:16:13

I wouldn't worry. Obviously the pandemic is dreadful, but sometimes other things trump it, purely in the interests of compassion and kindness.

Boris's latest buzzword is "Be Alert" - you were alert, but alert to your friend's needs, rather than this blessed virus - temporarily that's all.

It's done and I'd have done the same - maybe washing hands etc before and after of course, but I'd still have done it and I think others would too.

monkeebeat Mon 27-Jul-20 11:40:55

DON’T worry!!!
Your risk is minimal because most of the time you have followed the guidelines for 4 months 3 weeks, 6 days and 23 hrs and not followed them for a mere hour.
Just continue to follow guidelines again from now on.

Mapleleaf Mon 27-Jul-20 11:41:38

I think posters are offering good advice. I'm sure you and your neighbour will be fine, but as someone said, should you show any symptoms in the next couple of weeks, book a test and inform your neighbour if it proves positive, but don't lose any sleep over what happened. I'm sure you both benefitted from the social contact.

BassGrammy Mon 27-Jul-20 11:42:47

So are we not allowed to do that?? We’ve been in our daughters garden several times and had a drink there. I’m pretty sure that there’s very little risk. I have come to the conclusion that we have to take some risks ...we take risks in life all the time! However I’m feeling bad because my son and family asked to come and stay this week and I said I’d rather they didn’t. Mainly because they are both working and their girls are seeing their friends. I don’t have a problem having my daughters family here because I know they are not going anywhere else!

Jillybird Mon 27-Jul-20 11:46:30

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Suederlou Mon 27-Jul-20 12:13:53

Three weeks ago I had an appointment with a well known company to measure my suite for loose covers. I planned a safe route from the kitchen door and had mask and gloves to hand. A giant of a man arrived mask under chin. Yes I know what I should have done but I allowed him in where he measures then filled in forms whilst I stood outside choosing fabric. He had 2 enormous sneezes!
and used the downstairs loo twice. Unbelievable! Me not him.

Thecatshatontgemat Mon 27-Jul-20 12:31:39

You probably did a lot of good sitting and chatting.
It would seem that both of you were forgetful.
Keep a weather eye out for any symptoms, and if all is clear in a couple of weeks, put it down to experience.
Maybe even ask her round for a coffee later, but sit in the garden at a reasonable distance.
Enjoy your interaction, just take care in future.
It is very easy to forget, and l frequently do when l am at work.
It happens.

Craftycat Mon 27-Jul-20 12:35:14

I wouldn't worry at all. Have you actually known anyone who has had it?
I haven't so I am not worrying although it is sensible to wear a face mask in shops I suppose ( not that I have yet!)
I think we are all worrying too much & just take sensible precautions.

Candy6 Mon 27-Jul-20 13:19:18

Don’t worry, I’m sure you will be ok. I’ve been meeting up with sister in law for socially distanced walks (we drive separately) but there’s times when we’re together that I realise we are too close, it’s so easy to do so don’t beat yourself up about it. I’m sure you’ve both been careful at other times so doubt you are a risk to each other. Take care xx

Tweedle24 Mon 27-Jul-20 13:49:59

I bubbled with my daughter and her partner so, for the first time, they came to visit over the weekend. On Saturday, we decided to meet my sister in the park and do the socially distancing thing. Had she not been widowed three years ago, it should have been their Golden Wedding Anniversary. All went well until the skies opened like a monsoon and all four of were absolutely drenched through to underwear. She had parked her car half a mile away so we walked with her back to her car. We were all so cold and wet, to avoid another drenching, we all piled into her car to be driven back to our car.

When we got home, we all stripped off and jumped in the shower (not all together).

This morning, my sister rang, concerned that she needed to disinfect her car. She is not planning on any passengers for a while so we agreed it would probably be OK.

Too late now but, until then, we had all been very careful.

polnan Mon 27-Jul-20 13:53:38

I wish I had caring neighbours friends like this.

I have two grown sons, one no children but working wont let me visit him, other , with gks, I go there once a week
church friends just met with 4 in my garden for a couple of hours, other than that..

I am lonely!

CrazyGrandma2 Mon 27-Jul-20 13:55:00

kangaroo73 I don't think you should worry too much. The act of living is in itself risky. Evaluating risk has become a normal part of daily life if you venture outside, or if people come to visit you.

Today I went for my first swim in months. Extraordinary measures have been put in place to make it as safe as possible. I came away feeling both physically and mentally better.

Covid 19 isn't going anywhere anytime soon so we either have to learn to live with it or put severe restrictions on our life. Everyone makes different choices.

Stay well and try not to worry too much. flowers

humptydumpty Mon 27-Jul-20 14:07:01

I feel that this is where Boris's advice, which seemed woolly at first, is actually relevant: Be Aware. It's so easy to forget.

Lilyflower Mon 27-Jul-20 14:07:36

You have both spent the best part of three months isolated and socially distancedso that the chance that either of you have the virus is minimal. Your friend must have appreciated your company after the death of a beloved pet and so going into her house was a decent thing to do.

Bluecat Mon 27-Jul-20 14:47:21

It is easy to forget and then worry. You sound as if you have previously been careful, so you probably haven't passed anything to her. She sounds as if she is unlikely to have come into contact with many people, so you are probably safe too.

I don't agree with the poster who said that your granddaughter shouldn't have reminded you of social distancing. It was a caring thing to do. The young ones want us oldies to take extra care because they love us and don't want to lose us.

justme2 Mon 27-Jul-20 15:55:09

We need to assume and act as though everyone is contagious but, in actuality, everyone is not. It's only a small percentage. Mistakes will happen. It's good that gd knows the importance of distancing.

Toadinthehole Mon 27-Jul-20 16:35:43

Even if you catch it, and it’s no where near definite, you’ll most likely be fine. Most people are. You’ve been very careful and so has your friend, so it’s highly unlikely. Probably won’t stop you worrying for a few days though. All the best to you.

Illte Mon 27-Jul-20 16:46:15

I'm quite taken aback at all this "Oh I forgot" or "It rained" or "Oh we all worry too much"

I hope nobody on this thread grumbles or moans about the government when the infection rate rises.

It's this attitude that is keeping my son doctoring on the Covid ward instead of practising his specialism. So don't grumble that you can't get an appointment in that either.

I'm a bit cross.

Lesley60 Mon 27-Jul-20 16:55:32

Franbern, Kangaroo was genuinely concerned I don’t really think it helps anyone to be nasty

Aepgirl Mon 27-Jul-20 17:47:42

Now we know why one of the rules is 'STAY ALERT'.

Illte Mon 27-Jul-20 18:05:19

Absolutely. Learning to live with it doesn't mean putting it out of your mind.

It means learning to live differently. Consciously. Responsibly.

4allweknow Mon 27-Jul-20 18:49:00

You can go into a pub, cafe or restaurant without a mask and only 1 mtr distancing. Sure you had the distance between you even in a house and if anyone was coughing or sneezing this would have prompted you about social distancing. Don't worry, if you do feel ill in next 3 or 4 days arrange a test though sure you will be fine.

BettyBoop49 Mon 27-Jul-20 19:31:04

I saw two of my grandchildren (3 and 5)
today and we were hugging snd kissing like before lockdown. I could not have made them stay at 2 metres distance even if threatened with jail!!

Illte Mon 27-Jul-20 19:40:49

Or a really nasty illness, apparently.

Don't worry. People like my son will risk their lives to treat you, no matter how silly you've been

2mason16 Tue 28-Jul-20 06:21:18

Please try not to worry you both must have enjoyed getting together.
I met up with my sister after 6 months apart last week. We were so good keeping our distance at an outdoor cafe. As we said goodbye we both forgot and gave each other a big hug. It felt natural and so good and I'm not going to feel guilty!