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Family Rift RE:Covid

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Meg54 Tue 27-Oct-20 15:02:34

Mum is elderly with complicated medical issues, and was sheltered during initial outbreak 0f Covid.

Sister A (Anna) lives with her, but has a full time demanding job as a care worker in a major hospital.

Sister B (Brenda) lives alone, about 1/2 hour drive from Mum, has a full time job, currently (mostly) working from home.

We are at loggerheads over the government guidelines as to what is allowable at Mums.
Sister B thinks she is allowed to stay at Mum's, and to take her out sociably to lunch, shop etc, and to have her stay at her home, as Mum is part of her bubble.

As Mum and I are in Tier 2, I think sister B (Tier 3) is not part of her bubble, as Mum is not a single household, she has sister A living with her, and cannot visit outside her household.
A is not classed as Mum's carer, as she works over 40 hours a week, so technically is a co-habitee.
This has caused a massive row.
If anyone can shine a light I would be grateful

PS. Mum is sublimely disinterested - as far as she has company she is happy.

Bu this is causing major fallouts between the rest of the family.

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Nannan2 Thu 29-Oct-20 11:38:44

Is it possible for your mum to go stay at sister B's home for awhile? At least for as long as they both wish? Would seem safest option for mum.Also, i may have missed it, but where do you fit in sister C, as just a visitor? I guess if your mum moved to live with sister B you and sister A could just do as we are all doing, and go by ' tier ruling' as regards visits etc.or rely on skype/facetime/phone calls etc.hmm

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Nannan2 Thu 29-Oct-20 11:44:19

Nothing scares me, im a yorkshirewoman! (well, maybe the covid 19 situation,? but nothing/no one else)

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Nannan2 Thu 29-Oct-20 11:48:55

Or can mum stay with you , as your in tier 2? Or do you not wish her to? It sounds to me more like a sibling rivalry issue than a genuine covid safety issue?

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Nannan2 Thu 29-Oct-20 11:53:37

Petra- do you mean 'life of Brian?'

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Nannan2 Thu 29-Oct-20 11:57:30

This has turned into one of the " Cant Be Ar**d situations as on a different thread.grin

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