as they really cannot cope with reality
But what do we actually mean by this?
If you read my reply above you will see that I found the people you are saying are hiding behind a "false reality" actually know many facts. Facts that I did not know and found printed on public official documents such as The Office of National Statistics. Indeed, facts that made a very big difference to how things should be seen. Particularly when I looked at data from the government's own publications.
I think our "reality" is actually that which we want to believe.
We are convinced we are right. Remember how people greeted Darwin's theory of evolution. It wast not filled with universal support for his wonderful theory. Many were very scornful and no doubt he was disparaged by many high ranking figures. However now we respect him very highly. It may not be the best example but maybe we do need to be a little humble and not so ready to condemn some of the people who delve more deeply and do research finding facts that we find unacceptable.
I do believe everyone needs to follow the simple rules none the less. That is somewhat different.
I think it is generally accepted that most people want to believe the official line. We have always trusted our government, known we live in a democracy and we have always toed the line and done our bit for our country. So now we step up and support the Govt and do what they say. Unquestioningly. It makes people very uncomfortable to even try and imagine that the government may be wrong. People like to be led and not have to think about how to manage difficult situations. Indeed we need to have a consensus in our approach. But I do think some people are almost too ready to jump forward and display their strong adherence to the rules and belief in the official line. Look at the language in the replies here. The disparaging words for those who differ in their views. It's as if we need to wave a flag to show how strong is our belief in the official picture. So we keep to the rules and are good citizens.
Then - wham! - we are hit between our eyes by our loved one whom we trusted as being in the same mould as us and supporting all we held as right and true, as suddenly he spins around and says,
"No!" he will not accept the status quo!
He has been doing some personal investigating. He is a free thinker. He understands numbers. Maybe he says Ferguson is a disastrous and very bad modeller of numbers, has damaged the country many times already, does not have the right training/degree and with his contemptible, unforgivable damage in the past, he cannot accept his being used again! Maybe more recently he says, please listen to Desmond Swayne MP Cons, New Forest West and read the letter to which he refers, or look at the interview of that wonderful Cancer Doctor Professor Karol Sikora "Lockdown Was an Overreaction". youtu.be/jFRR58D1oW0
Because these facts are his reality.
You see, the term 'conspiracy theorist' has become synonymous with "crazy trouble-maker, spreader of misinformation". But literally and historically it is just a theory of a conspiracy, usually a conspiracy to do harm, but not necessarily.
Similarly I found that the "misinformation" I was asked to use as evidence a person was losing his marbles turned out to be scientifically or numerically, or officially published correct facts! Misinformation, in fact was more likely to be found from the mouth of the PM, the website of the BBC, and so on...
I must honestly say, in my research into the matters brought up by those upset because they have a 'Conspiracy Theorist' in the family, the things the theorist says have all been checked as facts. In so doing, I must add, I found that the BBC had done a long article about a 'fact check by our Scientists' in which they said the nasopharyngeal swab or any other thing could not get to the brain, among other reasons because the "brain is completely surrounded by bone" and" it would have to drill through bone." I'm a Neuro-Psychologist trained by leading Neurologists at the Institute of Neurology. What the BBC "Scientists" wrote was incredibly wrong. So obviously wrong a six year old could show why (and did). They ignored that the skull has holes in it, eg for the nose, eyes, ears, mouth. Indeed Surgeons sometimes perform brain surgery through the nose (endoscopic endonasal surgery). They ignored the cribriform plate which is penetrable with a quite soft instrument. It's another subject but again it tells you why the people labeled Conspiracy Theorists get so irked because a lot of lies like this have been blatantly purveyed by public entities such as 'Aunty' and the public are believing them. (Especially about masks - another learning curve the people took me on although I was a bit familiar with it.)
But here I am only saying, your reality is only valid to you. Another person may know something that has been demonstrated to be true and that is their reality. Which is as valid as yours. They are not "comforting themselves". Their theories are not "silly". They want people to look dispassionately at the evidence they produce and see what they see.
We do not have the right to judge them as silly, stupid or as "comforting themselves" because they are so scared. It is time we learned some humility and remembered how in the past most scientific facts we now take for granted when first discovered seemed impossible. In this vein I shall suggest that it could be possible that coronaviruses are not spread person to person but are created within a weakened immune system in the cells of the human body. They could be a response to an environmental agent, not discernible to the human senses which reduces the human immune system's ability and the body's normal equilibrium is put out of kilter.
I cannot describe this very well but it is a genuine theory which is taken seriously and is under investigation. I'd have to look up where I read it which could take me ages, sorry.
Concerning our desire to show we are in the group who agree with the Status Quo: In fact I feel that people here seem to want too much to express the wrongness of the minority different thinkers. Publicly and strongly in severely pejorative terms they discredit them as much as they can. It is as if by showing your utter disapproval of these ignominious people you can clearly be seen as a respectable and reliable good citizen. Why do we need to prove our superior worth in this? Well, considering the contempt hurled at those who raise a point of difference or mention something to discuss, it might be a self-protective device. "I am not one of them! I hate them! I disown them!"
Now when did we have that happen in a society before?
Which society/country stopped freedom of speech? Who burned books with knowledge they wanted to keep from the people? Just as here information and scientific papers have disappeared from the internet which is of course a big library to a great extent. When were people asked to tell tales on their neighbour and report misdemeanours?
All these things are making us depressed I think. Plus the massive numbers of deaths announced every day at one point, only to be proved wrong later.
I regard myself as a Watcher and a Thinker, with an open receptive mind. I do not have a position on either side. I think our government is probably lost. I think we all have to do our best. Stick together. Respect those with other views. Follow the rules even if we do not agree with them, please persuade people that it is distressing for people if others choose to break the rules. I do believe we shall get through this. Try not to get despondent. It's only a matter of patience and time and we'll be able to get together again.