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Christmas break?

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Daisymae Wed 18-Nov-20 09:18:23

The government seem to be putting signals out for a possible 5 day lifting of restrictions over Christmas. Can't see this being a good idea bearing in mind the situation that the country is in at the moment. What can possibly change over the next few weeks that would make this government policy? I can see they are in a very difficult position but I would have thought that there's a need to keep a lid on things until the spring. The idea of a near normal festive season doesn't seem reasonable.

BusterTank Wed 18-Nov-20 11:43:54

I don't think it's a good idea either are people willing to be seriously ill or even die for Christmas . It's absolute madness but there be so many idiots out there who will say it okay , the government said it's alright . Boris needs to grow a back bone and say I'm sorry but because of covid there's no mixing . He wouldn't be popular with alot of people but it's the right thing to do .

Riggie Wed 18-Nov-20 11:43:11

I have no plans to change how we do Christmas - basically dh, adult ds and I!!

(DS lives with us and has SN and is in the extremely vulnerable category, so we plan to keep him safe)

SillyNanny321 Wed 18-Nov-20 11:34:44

Hoping to go to my DS & Family for Christmas Day as we are in a 'Bubble' if this is still allowed. Otherwise will just be me, my cat & my tortoise. No different from what life has been like since first Lockdown when all my activities had to stop. At least the radio (Planet Rock) keeps me slightly sane along with my cats help.

poshpaws Wed 18-Nov-20 11:29:42

ajswan

Oh bah humbug, I do not believe the figures for deaths. I saw a graph somewhere that showed that the majority of deaths were aged over 80. Also if someone for example had terminal lung cancer and had tested positive just before they died, they would count as having died of Covid. This lockdown is unreasonable and unworkable. We have people still going to work and children still going to school. My bus was full of teenagers and hardly any of them wore masks. I also saw figures that more people are dying of other untreated conditions such as heart attacks and cancer. The economy is shot. I feel so sorry for small businesses. I think that people calling for more lockdowns especially over Christmas are totally selfish. If you are that worried then stay in and let the rest of us get on with a normal life. Oh and let’s not forget get the young who are suffering with mental health issues who are isolated from their friends etc.

As one whose beloved husband died in May of Covid-19, despite having taken all the precautions against it, I'm completely unable to resist telling you that I find your stance incredibly foolish and selfish. Covid is not going to go away over Christmas, and letting you as you put it "get on with a normal life" simply means allowing you to continue catching and spreading the virus and making a mockery of the sacrifices of others and the grief of those of us who have lost loved ones to this overwhelming disease. As for the young "suffering with mental health issues who are isolated from their friends etc." would you rather that they died or got "long covid" rather than wait a few more weeks and months and received psychiatric or psychologist help? Because however much you choose to not believe the figures for deaths I can assure you no government - even one as incompetent as the current Westminster one - would willingly decive their citizens whilst tanking the economy. For goodness sake wake up and get real.

Gwenisgreat1 Wed 18-Nov-20 11:23:02

If we are allowed a Christmas break, our break is normally fairly quiet. We'd go to DD1 Christmas eve, (we, being myself, DH, DD2 and DGS, have our christmas meal, DH and I would come homed, then return next day to watch the children opening Xmas presents and polish off the Xmas dinner. After that just the 2 of us, probably bored out of our eyeballs!!

arosebyanyothername Wed 18-Nov-20 11:21:03

Much as we’d like to there’s no sense in us mixing as a family over Christmas.

Covid will spread with or without the government’s blessing.

We’re planning a quiet day just the 2 of us and as the hosting usually falls to us we’re looking forward to a relaxing day.
People on their own can still ‘bubble’ but I do feel for those who will be on their own.

Lazyriver Wed 18-Nov-20 11:20:24

The fact that we are on this website means we are older and maybe wiser. What would you have thought about all this when you were a child or a teenager? I know full well that at 17, I would have met the 19 year who would one day be my husband, wherever and whenever we could. That was our 'time' and we would have taken it. Can you honestly say you wouldn't have too?
I hear what you are saying and believe that you must all do what is right for you, but don't begrudge others who decide to meet their families.
We cannot go on like this as human beings, without social contact we wither and die. To live in fear is not to live at all.
How much damage has been done to our next generation already?
They have a right to live their lives as much as we did when we were their age.
No I don't think mass gatherings are a good plan, but there needs to be a sensible, individual approach. It is your choice to remain separate from others, but don't let the fear culture drive us mad.
My own Xmas is always close family and quiet, as we all work right up until the last minute anyway ( not me this year)
So this year will be much the same.
Just for the record, I do follow all the rules although live in a rural county. Mostly I'm fed up with being told endless lies by politicians and the press, and seeing how frightened everyone is.

Nannina Wed 18-Nov-20 11:18:48

I’ve been following the government shielding advice for most of this year due to a health condition. I have no intention of throwing all that away by having open house for 5 days over Christmas as if the virus will be off having its own holiday! I will have phone/video contact and we’ve planned an Australian style celebration later in the year virus permitting. I hope those intent on a usual Christmas will be just as keen on a January lockdown

Grandmabeach Wed 18-Nov-20 11:17:19

Just been listening to someone on a phone-in who said, whatever the rules, she was going to see all her family for Christmas (11 including other halves) even though they live all over England and Scotland and she was at risk. She said she would rather die than miss Christmas with her family! She went on to add why should the Government stop her freedom. No thought of what her families 'freedom' would do to anyone else they met while travelling home or what pressure they would add to the NHS. Some people are just unbelievable.

JenJenT Wed 18-Nov-20 11:12:34

Winterwhite, “carrots about being sensible” haven’t worked so far. We wouldn’t be in the mess we are if people had been being sensible. I very much hope sufficient restrictions will remain in place up until just before Christmas to enable us to have at least a low-key family Christmas this year. We have not visited our daughter in France for nearly a year, and we obviously won’t see her this Christmas either, other than on FaceTime. We have left things open with our son, DIL, and little granddaughter. If the rates have gone down, and rules permit, we really want to spend the day with them. The GD has been going to nursery, but both parents have worked from home throughout, and we are retired, so not too much risk if we mix, but only if allowed. We will combine Christmas dinners if we can, but stay on our own if not. Son has asthma, as do I, and DH is 73, so we are all in the moderate risk category. There will be other Christmases. We only have one life.

Kim19 Wed 18-Nov-20 11:12:05

Well.... if the virus agrees to go into lockdown for the specified 5 days, I'll consider partying.

Theoddbird Wed 18-Nov-20 10:56:09

NO NO NO. Just be thankful for any time you can spend with family. Does it really matter what the date is. I think not...any family time is precious

scrapgran Wed 18-Nov-20 10:37:07

Who wants a covid christmas? That's what we will get if people chase all over the country for a few days. Yes its very sad for families not to be together but the reason is a good one and it is in everyone's interests.

eagleswings Wed 18-Nov-20 10:32:33

A compromise. Would it work if we asked any visiting relatives to isolate for a week beforehand..? A student I know is doing this before she returns home to parents.

Applegran Wed 18-Nov-20 10:28:58

We will not have our usual large Christmas get together whatever the rules are - the virus will still be there. I read somewhere a public health expert saying that more people will die from the virus if there is a let up on regulations at Christmas. We have the wonderful prospect of a vaccine - next Christmas should be fine and safe for us all to meet again.

winterwhite Wed 18-Nov-20 10:27:15

Shops and pubs need to open in December or face bankruptcy.
Those of us facing only disappointment and inconvenience need not be too quick to pour cold water on the hopes of others.
Carrots about being sensible and considerate may be more effective than sticks and prohibitions. And those unlikely to be sensible and considerate are the very ones likely to ignore any new rules.

4allweknow Wed 18-Nov-20 10:27:01

An awful lot of people are already doing what they want, Christmas will be no different for them but for the government to sanction it is madness. Christmas is just a big meal, chance for some alcohol to be consumed with family members some of whom others can't stand, all cam be done any time of the year. Given the empty churches there is vety few who actually celebrate the meaning of Christmas. For the none believers who celebrate the winter solstice that takes place before the 25th.

GrannyGravy13 Wed 18-Nov-20 10:20:40

Even if the rules are relaxed over the Christmas period, we will continue to be careful.

We will hopefully visit AC in their gardens (weather permitting) for gift exchanges, and zoom overseas AC.

The decorations are going up early inside and out, although the real tree will not be here until 15th Dec.

The virus has no idea what the date is!!!

Missee Wed 18-Nov-20 10:19:25

@Froglady I totally agree with you. I live alone and would love to see my GC (not seen since July) but I know we have to sacrifice this year for everyone's safety. I have formed a bubble with a friend & her husband and we will spend the day together and the rest of the time I will be safely at home. What is the matter with people that they can't adhere to the rules for theirs and everyone else's sakes.

olliebeak Wed 18-Nov-20 10:18:58

Surely the point here is - should COVID give us all a '5-day Break for Christmas'?

We know darn well that Covid won't do any such thing - so no point in Boris - or anybody else - announcing a 5-Day Break!

YES I would love a 5-day break to be able to see my grandchildren, but I will remain 'distanced' - enjoy a Screen Call with my children and grandkids - and get on with Christmas as best I can.

Lives are still at stake - including my family's - not just Christmas Day jollies!

Lindaloulabel Wed 18-Nov-20 10:17:57

No decisions yet. papers stirring the pot

readalot Wed 18-Nov-20 10:16:32

Me and my hubby have been self isolating for month's because of our ages and health problems. We will be on our own Xmas day which we usually are anyway. I do think a lot of families will ignore the rules and have Xmas together.

MissAdventure Wed 18-Nov-20 10:12:08

It's a disaster in the making, because we aren't on top of things yet.
Still, it will go ahead.

icanhandthemback Wed 18-Nov-20 10:09:49

We won't be celebrating Christmas with family this year. My youngest might be home from Uni and that will be enough for us this year. I don't want this lockdown to go on forever but I do think we need to be sensible. We missed Christmas one year because we were ill. It wasn't great but we survived and the following year seemed even sweeter.

Mollygo Wed 18-Nov-20 10:08:44

I don’t see the point. If infection rates are high, why would you risk being ill for a few days of celebration?
Those who would meet will do it anyway and allowing an easing means that some folk will multiply the allowed numbers and we’ll see huge gatherings again.