WHAT’S ALLOWED?

I would like to care and provide schooling for my disabled granddaughter one day a week. She is 14 and home schooled. Can I to do this in tier 2. It is obviously unpaid.

I omitted to say congratulations in my previous post Lood1.
While the baby is small I prefer the word babysitting, and I wish you and your husband many hours of joy sitting with your new little one.
As Charley said earlier, do try Good Morning, and The Kitchen. You will get to know friendly people, and they you.
Lots of good wishes for the future.

Congratulations Loodl. ?
I’m not a grandparent so won’t offer advice, but Franbern your care for your DD and GD was invaluable and you can take credit and feel proud that you have helped both ladies to achieve their potential.
Inspirational story of their lives so far , and I’m sure many grans/mums have done similar acts of maternal kindnesses.

Loodl firstly, congratulations on becoming a grandparent, it’s precious, enjoy your new world.
I went back to work p/t when my son was three weeks old, he thrived, I suffered, but it was necessary at the time, he’s 30 in January and fine.
If you are careful it will be a pleasure for you and a respite for DD.
Welcome to GN ?

When my eldest g.daughter was born, her Mum was in the middle of taking her degree and working part-time (NHS). Babies, dad was still living in their house, but was unemployed, clinically depressed and drinking a lot. No way would my daughter let him (and he agreed) have sole charge of a small baby.
So, it was down to me to provide that care for a couple of days each week, when she had to return to work. From six weeks old, bottles of breast milk in fridge. From three months this also meant that baby had to go to child minder for a further two days each week (I also had a part-time job).
It was hard (not for baby who thrived) but for Mum.
Research has shown that Mums usually need their babies, more than babies need their Mums. Babies can happily make good relationships with several adults.
Sadly, the Dad died a few years back (alcohol related cancer), but my daughter went on to gain a first class degree and has a very excellent career in the NHS. Her daughter is in final year of A levels, planning to go to Uni to take a Social Worker degree/qualification. She is a happy, healthy, extremely well adjusted teenager. It has meant that I have a wonderful relationship with her due to the fact that i was her second carer right through her childhood.

I think it has always been important to give new Mums and Dads, sometime away from Baby. More than an hour or two they are likely to find difficult, but to have freedom to get a long shower, a pampering time, an 'us' time can be beneficial to them and to baby.
So Loodl my suggestion to you, is to thoroughly enjoy your new 'grandparent' status, and enjoy your g.child. Give what support is required, when it is required to your daughter and look forward to many, many years of child sitting and have fun.

lemsip

her we go! here we go! here we go!..........

Best to leave it now, don’t you think? Stop poking.

her we go! here we go! here we go!..........

lemongrove

suziew I think the best thing for me to say to you is that I won’t engage in your games.

Oh dear. Oh dear. Oh dear.

suziew I think the best thing for me to say to you is that I won’t engage in your games.

lemongrove

My comment was in answer to what the OP wrote, it wasn’t harsh either usually or unusually.It was surprise that in this pandemic a grandma was going to do ‘childcare’ ( the wording the OP used) for a three week old baby. A few posters were equally surprised.
This is an opinions forum after all.

If you think some of us will believe that, you need to give your head a wobble. If you didn’t have information to give, then why say anything? Your post was horrible and not at all kind to a new poster with a problem. Opinions weren’t asked for - information was.

unlike them, I’ll give information as well and not rush to judgement

Please check up to date information for your particular area, Loodl.

Loodl I think you really need to check the rules for the area in which you live as they can vary from country to country, area to area and can change as infection rates vary.
Don't just take what is posted on GN as absolute as much is opinion only.

No offence was meant, and no innuendo intended and I'm sorry if you have been led to believe otherwise.

Good luck.

My comment was in answer to what the OP wrote, it wasn’t harsh either usually or unusually.It was surprise that in this pandemic a grandma was going to do ‘childcare’ ( the wording the OP used) for a three week old baby. A few posters were equally surprised.
This is an opinions forum after all.

Charleygirl5

Welcome Loodl rather an unnecessary first entrance for you. I agree with LauraNorder the good morning thread is totally different. Those who like to cause a scene stay away from that thread.

Another one is soop's kitchen. People there are very supportive and you would soon get to "know" them.

Who are ‘those who like to cause a scene’? Come on spit it out rather than heavy hints.

LauraNorder

Crikey Suzie I don’t know anything about codes. You were very helpful. I did think Lemon was unusually harsh hence my comment that others were usually kind and funny.

Well thanks for that because the comments were all getting very barbed and pointed but no names were being mentioned and no one acknowledged that advice and information was given very quickly by a couple of us. There was absolutely no reason for lemon to jump in as she did or for Call s comment to me. I’ll give as good as I get in response to posts like that but unlike them, I’ll give information as well and not rush to judgement

Crikey Suzie I don’t know anything about codes. You were very helpful. I did think Lemon was unusually harsh hence my comment that others were usually kind and funny.

Loodl

Suziewoozie - Very much appreciated and apologise if it seemed I was - definitely not - your support brought me back!!! Many thanks for that!!!

I appreciate that - when you need factual information, there’s several of us who really know our stuff and if we don’t, we know how to find it. So don’t hesitate to ask again if necessary. You should be able to help out with your dgd and hopefully things will settle down soon .

I minded one of my grandsons from the age of 6 weeks, as my daughter had to return to work to safeguard her job, not through choice. He survived it, and is now 25 with 2 children of his own.
Welcome Loodl!

I’m not sure what people are trying to say on here - but where’s the criticism for lemon whose post was horrible and then for Call who repeated it? Then the ‘welcomes if you’re a new poster‘ which rang pretty hollow and are often code for something else ? The IP was treated absolutely fine to start with and helped which is more than some of you wanted to do.

Suziewoozie - Very much appreciated and apologise if it seemed I was - definitely not - your support brought me back!!! Many thanks for that!!!

What Charleygirl said

Loodl two of us immediately gave you advice and information and I researched further for you. I also sent you a PM. Don’t tar us all with the same brush. I helped you with up-to date and accurate information . I immediately believed your post and didn’t for one minute wonder why you might be needed to look after a 3 week old baby. I then defended you against a totally unnecessary judgemental criticism of you. Welcome to GN.

Welcome Loodl rather an unnecessary first entrance for you. I agree with LauraNorder the good morning thread is totally different. Those who like to cause a scene stay away from that thread.

Another one is soop's kitchen. People there are very supportive and you would soon get to "know" them.

Glad you came back Loodl. I’m sure if you’re all very careful and not mixing with others the new Mum will be very grateful for a bit of support.
Can I suggest you call in at the good morning Saturday thread tomorrow for a gentle welcome. Bit unfortunate you had a baptism of fire as all the posters who commented are usually kind and even amusing.