Gransnet forums

Coronavirus

Anyone fed up with people not following the rules

(248 Posts)
Blue5 Sun 13-Dec-20 15:51:27

Do people not understand the rules . Am in tier 2 and the amount of people having visitors in my neighbourhood is unbelievable . Not seen my grandchildren for weeks or spending Xmas with them .Does anyone else think its selfish.

MissAdventure Sun 13-Dec-20 20:36:31

Only one thing annoys me, and that's everything!

Callistemon Sun 13-Dec-20 20:38:55

I'm shocked at how gullible people are in thinking they work. I'm don't think I'm invincible - I know I can catch covid as well as anybody else - by contact, rather than by not wearing a mask.

It's to protect other, not you, Twowolves.

Very irresponsible.

AGAA4 Sun 13-Dec-20 20:40:53

I would have done the same for my family. I hope things are better now.

GrannyLaine Sun 13-Dec-20 20:42:44

Maddyone I sympathise and I too have the dilemma of a close family member with a rapidly deteriorating mental health condition. Sometimes its not enough to simply follow rules but rather make a careful choice to do the greater good. And thus, I don't stand in judgement others. Until you've walked a mile in other peoples shoes, you can't know what goes on in their lives

Greenfinch Sun 13-Dec-20 20:51:38

I understand maddyone because I have been there myself. There are times when you just have to respond to a crisis regardless of the rules.The rules were made for us not us for the rules and there are times when they have to be superceded by common humanity.

Nadateturbe Sun 13-Dec-20 20:52:46

MissAdventure grin

Ellianne Sun 13-Dec-20 20:56:51

GrannyLaine you express it so well. How can people comment so harshly about all other people when they have no idea what is going on?
I'm guessing there are several posters on here who have to make decisions which don't always follow the rules to the letter. We do this to help someone else cope with their everyday lives. It's called having empathy.

Nadateturbe Sun 13-Dec-20 21:00:36

It's true of course, we don't know everyone's circumstances, so we can't assume they just don't care.

Kate1949 Sun 13-Dec-20 21:02:15

My husband had a hospital appointment recently. I had to collect him. The nurse who gave us the paperwork didn't have her mask over her nose.

growstuff Sun 13-Dec-20 21:03:22

Ellianne

GrannyLaine you express it so well. How can people comment so harshly about all other people when they have no idea what is going on?
I'm guessing there are several posters on here who have to make decisions which don't always follow the rules to the letter. We do this to help someone else cope with their everyday lives. It's called having empathy.

There have been plenty of posts on GN which show that the posters don't really care about others and think they are somehow exceptional.

growstuff Sun 13-Dec-20 21:04:50

I understand people who have to work because they need to put food on the table, but I have no time for the others.

humptydumpty Sun 13-Dec-20 21:13:02

*TwoWolves( masks are for the benefit of others, not the wearer - by not wearing them you're putting others at risk of catching Covid from you.

Ellianne Sun 13-Dec-20 21:20:40

What's all this about "personal exceptionalism" on this thread? I've not seen anyone thinking they are superior or above the law on here. People with healthy self-esteem believe in themselves and act accordingly. They are the ones with positive, caring feelings.

GrannyLaine Sun 13-Dec-20 21:29:15

There have been plenty of posts on GN which show that the posters don't really care about others and think they are somehow exceptional

If that is directed at me or anyone else who struggles with caring responsibilities Growstuff you are sadly mistaken.

MissAdventure Sun 13-Dec-20 21:48:43

There are extremes at both ends of the scale.

Those who flatly refuse to comply, and those who disinfect their husband and leave him in the porch for 3 days.

Most of us are limping along, trying our best.

maddyone Mon 14-Dec-20 00:05:23

GrannyLaine and Greenfinch thank you for your very kind words. I’m so sorry to hear that you have also had extra worries during this very difficult time. flowers for you both.

SpanielNanny Mon 14-Dec-20 09:29:18

That’s just the thing though, Blue5. There was no ‘reason’ for my friend not to stick to the rules. She followed them diligently, hoping for a vaccine or waiting for the spring when they could again spend time outdoors together. They had no warnings, the beautiful child just didn’t wake up. Those future plans will never be, and the months spent apart count for nothing.

Had she known that this was the awful hand they would all be dealt, I’m sure she would have made a different choice. The harsh reality is that we never know when the last time we see a person will be the last. Having seen the absolute devastation the family are going through, I can no longer be angry that people are struggling to remain apart from those they love.

BlueSky Mon 14-Dec-20 09:40:49

Germany in full lockdown over Christmas! Fancy if it happened here!

GrannyLaine Mon 14-Dec-20 09:44:56

SpanielNanny beautifully put and I completely agree with your perspective on this. I am so very sorry that your friend is going through this. flowers

Ellianne Mon 14-Dec-20 09:56:40

BlueSky

Germany in full lockdown over Christmas! Fancy if it happened here!

Are you sure?
A maximum of five people from no more than two households are allowed to gather in a home. But this will be relaxed from 24 to 26 December when one household will be able to invite a maximum of four close family members from other households.
That's a hard lockdown but not a total lockdown. Weihnachten can be celebrated with (small) family gatherings.

Ellianne Mon 14-Dec-20 10:00:28

Spanielnanny. I am so sorry. If other posters can't read your sad post without feeling great compassion, then I give up.

claresc0tt Mon 14-Dec-20 10:17:29

Tesco should throw them out if they won't put on their masks!

Mooney59 Mon 14-Dec-20 10:18:20

Think best to get on with your life and not stress about what others are doing. Stress and worry more likely to ruin your life than this thing.

Lazyriver Mon 14-Dec-20 10:22:23

I wear a mask out of respect for others, not because I think it will protect me.
I stick to the rules out of respect for others, not because I think they are sensible or make any sense.
To put myself at risk is to put others close to me at risk. I am cautious all of the time, and no I haven't shut myself away for a year, and yes I have worked through the lockdowns.
I don't expect rounds of applause, I just expect others to treat me with the same respect as I offer them.

sandwichgeneration Mon 14-Dec-20 10:22:35

It seems that some people who get caught out can get unpaid leave for 6 months and go on an expensive holiday abroad.