Oh my! Such a tirade of abuse...

I naively used to think that sites such as GN were a forum where issues could be discussed sensibly. My expereince has now shown that some people are very agressive and abusive if they disagree with a post. I have friends who have left MN for instance. It's such a shame that people feel like that.

so why is this under coronovirus ?

keepingquiet I’d just rise above it, unless it was personally abusive, we didn’t clap for him either, nor did any neighbours.

lemsip

the OP is Not a new poster!

I've been here about a month- feels new to me!

I’m confused “keepingquiet “. Where did you get the tirade of abuse? On another thread or not on gransnet at all ?

As to hiding behind a user name. I think I can safely say I have never said anything on Gransnet that I wouldn't say to someone's face in the context of a friendly argument.

My friends often think I am a bit too forthright!!!

keepingquiet Fri 13-Nov-20 20:20:19 'my support bubble burst'

is that someone else. hope you got support for that on here.

Yes, Lemsip- that was me- I forgot I came here back then in the mists of time lol. Must be Alzheimers creeping in...

Dear Keepingquiet so sorry for your experience yesterday. I too wouldn't have wanted to clap either though yes an amazing Gent.
By the looks of things on here I wouldn't report just step away.
I wonder are people just less tolerant than usual.

I'm sorry people up this thread got the wrong end of the stick - I can see where you're coming from.
I'm fairly new too.

Tomorrow's another day.

Look forward to seeing you around?

Still don’t understand where the tirade if abuse was !

Lucca. The OP said it was on another site when she responded to a thread about Captain Tom.

I don’t understand the confusion. The OP was quite clear that she posted on a thread elsewhere (Facebook maybe, as she refers to ‘friends of friends’), and was surprised by the response.

OP - I see no reason to report people simply for disagreeing with you. I’m very uncomfortable with the amount of ‘reporting’ to various authorities I’m hearing about lately - Coronavirus (or maybe lockdown) seems to be bringing out the worst in people.

Do we really need to be policed in this way? What would you hope would happen to the miscreants?

People disagree, and we still have freedom of expression within the law. Unless the ‘tirade of abuse’ was actually threatening, just accept it as a difference of opinion.

keepingquiet

No but don't understand why it is misleading as I never claimed it was this site. I'm new here so maybe mentioning other sites is a no-no?

Sorry about the slightly snappy replies on this site, keepingquiet. Welcome to Gransnet.

Don't worry about the angry mob keeping quiet, here or elsewhere. They're just using your post as a vehicle to vent their frustrations. It's nothing to do with what you've said, or your opinion on clapping for dead people and it's all to do with their frustrations and fears. Mature people respond, immature ones react. They're just letting you know who to ignore/block/mute (depending on which site).

Captain Tom wanted to do something to acknowledge and celebrate his 100th birthday last year and either thought up himself, or, it was suggested to him to do a 100 laps of his garden to raise a thousand pounds.

The media picked up on this story, publicised it and it caught the imagination of the public at a time when so many people felt so very cut-off and unable to help. So, the money poured in. Not really sure if it was anything specifically to do with him. Some such story was likely to appeal at that time, could have been to do with a child, with a dog or cat or whatever.

So, he became the catalyst. And then the honours poured in on him, and rewards for him and his family.

Wonderful that so many people wanted to help the NHS - perhaps in the future all those people would insist that this is properly and fully funded and, instead of clapping for its staff, insist to governments that they are all receive the pay increases they have been continually denied for past years (including 2020).

I am not denigrating the man, but neither am I will willing to sanctify him!!! I still feel that if it had not been him, it would have been something or someone else. It was just what the public needed.

No clapping please, just everyone insisting that there MP votes for proper funding and pay for the NHS.

I can’t understand the confusion on this thread either. The OP seems clear enough and I’m puzzled by the abrupt responses.

In reply to the question, no, I don’t see the point of reporting the posts unless they broke the forum guidelines re discrimination, threat, etc. There are many benefits of social media, having responses from people who might be a lot more forthright than you in their vocabulary/manner (or just plain rude or angry in general) is one of the downsides. Just scroll past or block them.

I did not understand the confusion either as the poster was quite clear.
Ignore those people on the other site you are entitled to your opinion.

Welcome keepingquiet

I’m not sure what the rules are on GN when talking about other sites, though I don’t see a problem with your post because you don’t mention the site in question anyway. I’m sorry you received abuse from some on that site because of your point of view. Perhaps it might be better to leave them to it.

Things can get pretty robust on GN at times, but don’t let that put you off posting here.

I also believe the situation we are living through has some part to play because we generally have more time to be on sites than would normally be the case and maybe pent up frustrations are being manifested anonymously as our normal everyday life is being curtailed to such a high degree. I’m not excusing such behaviour, but suggesting a reason why it might be this way at the moment. There always has been such behaviour, but there certainly seems to be more of it about at present.

Take care.

Thanks everyone! I've been here long enough to know this has advantages over other sites:

no 'like' button-no 'Friending' -no sharing -no visuals

I'm thinking you have to have a certain level of literacy and so debate is more grown-up. Plus if we are all as old as we should be we have some life experience.

Everyone should be free to disagree without abuse so I will bow out now gracefully...

Tiktok of one of those sites where you can get paid to be outrageous, so in encourages extreme comments. Nothing to do with Captain Tom but today Gordon Ramsay had a thread, it had 227 million likes, easy money if you are offensive enough.

If you’re referring to me about snappy replies.... I genuinely didn’t know what op meant as sometimes there is confusion over words like thread or site or forum.
I just said I did not understand, is that not allowed now ?

I didn't see your name mentioned Lucca, why did you feel it was aimed at you?

Oh I do not agree Hurdygurdy; It was important that I explained exactly what we were clapping for, the importance of decency, determination and giving back to others, to my 5yr old grandson ( in my bubble) when I took him out to the doorstep, we looked first at Capt Tom online . A valuable lesson hopefully learned.

Keeping quiet is very correct in her alerting us to abuse on other websites.
Internet use has many unpleasant effects one of which is is open to rude people.

I myself do not mind strong language if the tone is inclusive. Strong language is not nearly as offensive as management excluding a member for any thing except a recognisable crime.
Keepingquiet has begun a worthy discussion and I am very interested in continuing the discussion on Gransnet.

I'd not bother to report any rudeness , only report illegal stuff. Nobody on the internet is real. Like in Facebook, we are all personas. Therefore nobody can insult you they can insult only your website persona.