Why do I always do this?

Dear Loretta, so glad I am not alone. I eat too much for comfort, because I am bored, tired, annoyed and so on. Other people can be disciplined and tidy and organised. I am none of these things.
But don't beat yourself up about biscuits. I do think control over the kitchen is important. No temptation but OH doesn't help. If I were living on my own I would not have any cheese or biscuits or icecream in the house.
But I'm not so must develop strategies.
Good luck to you all.

I was tempted yesterday when I went out to buy a magazine. The treats were right beside the magazines and somehow the two things go together. I resisted and bought a pot of fresh fruit. These little pots may work out expensive but they're so handy for a snack.

Being 'on a diet' makes people obsessed with food. We're always thinking of our next meal or whatever we're 'allowed'. It just doesn't work. Weight goes back on. It's how all these slimming organisations make their money. and

Tomorrow is another day. You feel annoyed with yourself but on the days when you follow the rules you feel good. Bet those far outweigh (no pun intended) the bad.

Could be your addicted to sugar, and its a comfort food like smoking, try keto diet no sugar low carbs. Sugar , palm sugar and frutose are addictive sweetners and added as a preservatives. and the body will store as fat and not burn. Once off sugar habit which may take sometime you will not be tempted.

Thank you Jenechka! I have just installed Nutracheck on my phone and it is just the kind of thing that will be very helpful for me!

As a Diabetic I follow a healthy diet although I do need to lose weight I refuse to go along the SW other diets are available route preferring to follow the advice given by my Diabetic Nurse.

Be wary of replacing biscuits/cakes etc with fruit as they are also high in sugar, I'm allowed 2 portions a day. Now veg apart from parsnips/beetroot/sweetcorn are good substitutes.

Cheese is my Achilles Heel

It's a new day -it's a new dawn - start afresh. Don't worry about things you can't undo but learn from them. Think of the compliments you've had. You can do it!

Firstly congratulations on the weight loss. Slimming World never worked for me neither did other weight loss programmes or diets so now when I want to lose weight I eat healthy food and restrict calories, not having breakfast works for me. I have one day a fortnight when I allow myself to have treats but always feel bad about myself if I over-indulge.

I think it all goes back to how we were rewarded as children. Rewards were always in the form of sugary, fatty, things, especially children of my generation who experienced sweet rationing. I don’t recall my mother ever saying I’d been good and rewarding me with a stick of celery! So we are conditioned to think of such foods as a way of rewarding or comforting ourselves. It is hard to change that mindset but it can be done if we substitute other things such as a new item of clothing or makeup as a reward.

Some Psychologists say that there are restricted eaters and non-restricted eaters and non-restricted eaters are more successful at keeping their body weight in check. At first thought this seems illogical because you’d think a non-restricted eater would be eating cakes, biscuits, chocolate and crisps all day long but because they haven’t been restricted they do not view such foods as so desirable as restricted eaters because they have always been able to have them if they want and sometimes they just don’t want them. Eating regimes place restrictions on us and I personally think they are doomed to failure because as soon as the restriction is lifted you over-indulge in what you have been denied. In fact slimming clubs make their money by people not being able to stick to their regime.

Just my opinion and if Slimming World works for you it’s all good.

Loretta Am in identical position, and have had a peanut feast today .

bUT I needed it...just a short break,as I am fed up with constantly needing to control food. So today is now a diet holiday...won't pigout too much . Afterthis evenings dinner , my holiday STOPs and I ambackhome to the diet! Planning another short break on Easter Sunday
Once the short break is over I return to work ( the diet) .dont beat upon yourself, tomorrow this biscuit feast will be Be behind you . Good luck fellow food a holic.... we are doing well! ?????

I've had a bad couple of weeks on mine. I've lost 23lbs since mid September. Just a l lb or so per week calorie counting. It's been really difficult because I'm not as active as I used to be.

My nemesis is white wine. I love it. I've been trying to have a little at weekends only but past two weeks have occasionally 'snapped' (we're all upside down due to building work) and slugged down a bottle. So weight has remained static. If only you could buy willpower in a bottle

This comfort eating - it's really discomfort eating isn't it. Anyway - forgive yourself, done now. Dodges - don't go toooo far with the cutting down - if you get absolutely starving - this is just going to happen sooner or later. If you want to eat but know it's not big hunger - try a slice of orange, celery stick, even chewing gum. If it is stopping that is the problem - make yourself eat an orange after half a packet.

I use the Biscuit Tea from Yorkshire Tea. The taste and smell satisfies my craving. Give it a go but don't buy biscuits xx

I have been doing the 16/8 diet and discovered something amazing - food actually tastes better if you eat when you are hungry!! I am so used to eating simply because it is breakfast time, lunch time etc. which has meant I never get really hungry. However, since starting this regime I do get hungry (but cannot snack as it is too close to the next proper meal) so when I do eat I enjoy it so much more. Plus I'm losing weight - superb!

I have rejoined slimming world after putting half weight back lost since getting to target. I follow it loosely with healthy meals but also now have a basic fit bit I enter everything I eat into and it records my pre set calorie difference between what I’m consuming and what I’ve expended in order to lose a steady amount of at least a pound a week, I can view all this on my iPad or phone. It’s changed my whole thinking and really helps, as my walking exercise has increased as a consequence and I feel so much better. It sounds complex but I find it very easy to use.

I wonder how many of your husbands or OH are overweight.
Are they worrying about their weight or shirt buttons/jackets straining over their bellies?

I’m doing sw too and sometimes have day like this but find it best to draw a line under and start again. After all sw is more about healthy eating education than a diet and we all slip and slide from time to time.
Keep going you’ll be back on track don’t beat yourself up any more x

Simply draw a line under it and move on straight away. Don't beat yourself up.

And if you do it again, make sure you bloody well enjoy them and then move on.

It's unrealistic to expect to 'stay on track/resist temptation /be good' all the time. You're human.

So long as you eat healthily most of the time you'll be fine.

My DH got up this morning and announced that he would be back on the low carb diet by the end of the month (meaning he wanted to use up his sweets first) and not to give him any potatoes at dinner. When I said we were having liver, bacon and onions with mashed potato he said well just a tablespoonful then. But we both must do something about our weight. Although for myself I am thinking carrying some extra weight will be helpful when having chemotherapy. Am I right or wrong?

No big deal in the grand scheme of things. Just try particularly hard next day and, amazingly, the balance will redress itself, I have found. I weigh myself every day and I have found this works a treat. Nature is a pain in the way that it so quickly puts on the lbs but removes them ever so slowly. I had a family celebration session last week and managed to gain 3lbs in 4 days. Easy when you're eating in congenial company. Managed to lose it now that I'm back home and into my own regime. No pain. Just back to my normality. Such a relief that I now know how it can work for me.

Being 'on a diet' makes people obsessed with food. We're always thinking of our next meal or whatever we're 'allowed'.

I completely agree Jane10

I also dislike people saying they are being good about food. It implies that eating things they really want and like makes them bad

I think it's an unhealthy mindset.

I cannot follow diets and I know myself well enough to know they don't work for me. Tell me all the things I like to eat are forbidden or restricted and I crave them!

I am losing weight slowly by way of a healthy (ish) diet. I think we all know the theory. It's the practice that's hard.

I had a day last week when I constantly craved something sweet. Oh I knew a dried apricot or a banana would curb the craving but my mind was leading me to a room full of doughnuts, and I was going to dive in and stuff as many into my face as possible. I was almost tempted to go out and buy cake, but I didn't. I had to stop the thinking so I distracted myself but being no saint, that in itself didn't work. I think I was hungry (or even had low blood sugars) so I spread Nutella on a couple of oat cakes and my doughnut brain vanished.

I'd say damage limitation is the way forward. I knew with friends visiting this weekend we intended to have a fish and chip supper after a long day out on Saturday, and I went for it - no holds barred - and thoroughly enjoyed battered cod and a portion of chips. I know I undid calorie savings I made during the week but life sometimes gets in the way of a limiting eating regime.

I keep biscuits and cakes out of the house, and crisps and chocolate and otherwise plan to eat home cooked, proper food, but less of it.

It seems to work for me, because diets don't. I suppose I could call it "The Little of What You Fancy" diet. Not the quickest way to lose weight, but my mind isn't screwed up by it either so I can go on indefinitely. I lose about 1lb a week.

On Sunday Brunch (Ch4) this morning, Dr. Giles Yeo a world class Cambridge university scientist explained the ongoing research he and his team are doing into obesity. He stated that obesity is not a choice, each of us have a predisposition to fatness or thinness based upon our genetic makeup. Up until about thirty years ago we did not always have enough to eat so fat had to be stored for survival. Recently we have had too much food yet our evolutionary process has not caught up. He said fat storage occurrs differently in different people, he stated shortly a gene test will be available which will indicate which foods should be consumed individually to maintain a healthy weight. He said some tests are available at the moment but dont waste money on them because the science has not yet been fully concluded. He also stated that society must stop the blame game and also targetting specific foods i.e. Sugars etc. He concluded that this is wrong because a one solution fits all doesn't work for everyone. Some may be able to effectively metabolise sugar but not fat etc.
His book Gene Eating has 5* reviews.

Gabriella my OH is under 11 stone and 5 foot 9 ,he walks at least 15000 steps a day and is active doing other things as well.He eats like a horse ,doesn't deny himself the stuff he likes even sweet stuff. He has never complained about my weight even though we both knew I needed to lose a couple of stone.Losing this weight has helped my back problem and I intend to get back on the calorie now I'm not feeling so cold .I didn't lose weight for my OH and he wouldn't have expected me to

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Gabriella I appreciate what you’re saying but my OH is very active and maintains a healthy weight. I wanted to lose weight purely for myself , as I couldn’t walk a hill without being breathless, couldn’t get on the floor to play with my granddaughter, and things like that. However, like the other poster my bad back has now also improved and I have more energy. My OH has never criticised my weight.