Why do I always do this?

I wasn't criticising anyone's OH. I was pointing out that men, in general, don't seem to be concerned about their shape. Many men develop what used to be called, 'beer guts' and their trouser belts have to be worn lower to accommodate the burgeoning bump. We've all seen it at some time or another.
Meanwhile, many women beling to slimming clubs, shave, wax, have pedicures, manicures, threading, hair treatments blah blah...
It just seems a bit one-sided.
I'm 2" shorter than paddyann's OH and 4lbs heavier but I bet our figures are (apart from boobs) totally different.
It depends on where the weight is and men have heavier bones than women.
I'm not one for watching my weight and, although I have scales which tell me my BMI and every other measurement, I haven't stood on them for years. I eat what I feel like eating and don't feel any guilt about munching my way through 3 packets of crisps or a box of Maltesers.
Agonising about eating a piece of cake and trying to repair the 'damage' by eating lettuce leaves for the next two days is plain silly.
Your life then revolves around counting calories and counting steps which is no life at all...IMO.

My other half was NOT very active, ate far more than me, including cakes and chocolate, and never put any weight on. I only have to look at unhealthy food to feel my waistline expanding. Now that a can't walk as much, due to osteoarthritis I am finding it ever more difficult to lose weight.
Two of my children take after their father, and two, like me, put on weight very easily. Genes definitely have something to do with keeping a healthy weight.
As for cravings - I find that having a glass of water can often stop them in their tracks.

Oh I feel your pain Dearest. My Achilles heel are Ginger Snaps. I can terrorize an entire bag. Now they just don’t come home with me.

If anyone is like me I get cross and feel that I deserve a treat and then reward myself with something that makes me even more angry but with myself. It’s totally predictable and self-defeating! Also when I lose weight and people notice I tell myself that one little treat won’t hurt but it always does.

You have done very well, don't worry about a packet of biscuits. I think the trick is not to have them in the house when you get the munchies. A packet of rice cakes are a good thing to have around, they taste alright, they are crunchie and just smear a bit of jam on the top and the damage is not so bad. Keep going, very impressed.

Well folks, I'm going to make myself a pile of home-made pancakes (not the thick rubbery pre-made supermarket ones) and will enjoy them with caster sugar and fresh lemon juice. 6 might be enough as they're only for me.
Read this and weep. ???

Yawn...

An early night for you Anja
You've been burning the candle at both ends. ??

I'm the same - I do well for so long on a diet, but if I'm lonely, sad or bored, I scoff chocolate, sweets or biscuits - I've stopped having them in the hose, but then when I wanted something sweet, I ended up having Weetabix with a few spoonfuls of sugar on instead...

More than one reason for yawning.

Whatever you do, don't give up. Carry on with the diet as normal and, perhaps, throw all the temptations away.

When shopping replace calorific treats with low cal options:- fruit, sugar and fat free yogurts and so on.

The actor, David Niven, had to maintain his weight for film appearances. He weighed himself every day and, if he had put on a pound, skipped a meal. This is very strict but you could replace a meal with an apple or a couple of Weetabix with skimmed milk and sweetener.