Bradfordlass, Your response reminded me of the New Statesman article referred to up thread (Isaid Spectator in an earlier post, my mistake). Saying things like We are gulible sheep who fall for every advert, every fashion, every little slogan which tells us we should be or buy a certain thing. And this includes being ashamed of your body, your conduct as a mother, wife or woman if you don't buy what they're selling. makes great feminist rhetoric, but, I think it is tosh. Some women may think and act like that, but certainly not all by a long way and I doubt any woman does it all the time
Nowadays when everyone is so media savvy. By that I mean capable of deconstructing any advert or recommendation by a celebrity, that they may see. Do you really expect us to believe that every woman is a sheep. That despite the evidence continually before their eyes that people come all sorts of shapes and sizes and achieve (or do not achieve) happiness and content, they all believe everything they read uncritically. Your opinion of women is very low.
I can understand the individual tales of having mothers obsessed with being slim (thin?) and critical of their daughters. My own ideas were formed by my own mother. She loved clothes, liked to look good – and did, it was partly a belief that dressing well was about showing respect for yourself, the exact opposite of body hating. And also, that if you are going to spend money on anything, clothes, furniture, food, get your value from your scarce money by buying something that you will always enjoy wearing/living with and makes you feel and look your best.
It is the same with keeping to a healthy weight, that has been happening for hundreds, if not thousands of years. The first self chosen diets were for men wanting to keep slim to be fit and able to take part in sports. The first ‘official’ diet was devised for the very overweight Mr Banting. It was a low carb diet and in his Letter on Corpulence, he 'accounted all of his unsuccessful fasts, diets, spa and exercise regimens in his past. My husband is currently successfully shedding a lot of weight because his excess weight has meant he has developed a medical problem that stopped him driving for three months and could have led to his licence being taken away permanently. Call it self-starvation, if you like, but that doesn’t mean it is anything bad. The evidence is there that being overweight can, and often does lead to all kinds of health problems and limits what you can do physically. It is not fat shaming to say that if you can keep your weight within accepted limits, you should.