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WHY CAN'T I LOSE WEIGHT?

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Madmeg Wed 29-Dec-21 01:00:51

I grew up skinny. I was 7st 4lb when I married. I am now twice that. My first pregnancy left me 2 stones heavier that never went, and my second added another stone. That was despite no "eating for two" and attending exercise classes for 4 years afterwards. I've never had a big appetite - people remark on it - and eat lots of fruit and veg and few cakes or biscuits. We never have either a starter or a dessert for our meals. We do have a supermarket take-away once a week, but hardly ever eat out.

I am now trying to diet again. I did this 6 years ago and despite a calorie intake of no more that 1500 a day and walking 5 miles a day it took me 3 years to lose 35 lbs. 1lb a month. No alcohol, no sweet stuff, no fried food, no potatoes or rice or pasta. A steak once a week but otherwise fish or veg meals. Why so slow when all the advertised diet advice says 2lbs a week - why did I manage only 1 lb a month?

How on earth am I going to handle losing 3 stones to get into a size 14 or probably a 16? I am currently a size 20-22. It is soul-destroying.

Some of you might mention thyroid problems. Well I have no thyroid gland - it was removed 35 years ago and I take the hormone tablet daily.

Hope someone can help.

Meg

Doodle Wed 29-Dec-21 11:05:38

Very useful thread. I am like you Madmeg and put on a lot of weight through pregnancy and just continued over the years to increase.
I think I will try the 16/8 diet.

sandelf Wed 29-Dec-21 13:43:24

Is there anything here that you could use? www.weightwatchers.com/uk/weight-loss/science/facts/how-increase-metabolism

Dee53 Wed 29-Dec-21 13:54:03

Hi Meg I was in the same boat, I spoke with my GP and she put me on Orlistat, I haven't looked back, I lost 10 pounds in the first two weeks, and I've lost a total of 2 stone. I have a fitness app where you can log everything and as long as you don't eat more than 45g of fat a day you're fine, if you do the tablets 'evacuate; it from your bowels smile worth a chat with your GP...

hulahoop Wed 29-Dec-21 14:02:24

Smileless the principal is that you fast 16hrs and eat in the 8hr window ,I find fasting from 8pm to 12noon so my first meal is at 12noon and I finish at 8pm .in the fasting hours you can drink clear fluids tea and coffee no milk or sugar . I have gone off it at the moment but will go back on it has my health improves .

Kim19 Wed 29-Dec-21 16:54:18

Slass, thanks for your nurse friend's words on excessive consumption of fruit. I may be a little over indulgent there. I'm off to research the Mediterranean diet. I've a rough idea but seek specifics. Really constructive thread. Thanks for helpful tips and good luck to all 'indulgers'

PamelaJ1 Wed 29-Dec-21 16:56:53

There is so much information out there and so little time to read/watch it.
One tip…. Sugar substitutes can make it harder to resist temptation..

MiniMoon Wed 29-Dec-21 17:16:59

I have lost weight recently. About a month ago I was 10st 8lb. Now I'm 9st 13lbs.
I have gallstones, and to stop myself having pain, I put myself on a very low fat diet .

Barmeyoldbat Wed 29-Dec-21 17:35:51

I wash add in exercise, like running or cycling. Lost weight cycling, even if it’s just a few miles, and I have a thyroid problem and I take steroid. Just eat small healthy meals and get outside and exercise. Hope this helps

Flaxseed Wed 29-Dec-21 19:00:52

Photos of me over Christmas have made me determined to lose my excess weight.
The 16/8 sounds good but I start work at 8 a.m and think I would keel over if I had to wait until 12 noon to eat confused
I am going to try to limit my calories and move more.
Good luck to us all grin

mrswoo Wed 29-Dec-21 20:02:38

I am a member of Slimming World and I would recommend them. I joined just after Christmas two years ago and I am still amazed at the amount of food you can eat and still lose weight. I enjoy the meetings and no one judges you if you've had a bad week. I actually went to my local group meeting yesterday and have gained a bit of weight over Christmas but I know once I'm back on track I will lose it again. One thing they don't do is use the words "diet" or "calories". The support and encouragement you get from other members really helps.

urmston I did the pre-diabetic prevention programme - that combined with Slimming World means I am no longer classified as pre-diabetic!

Allsorts Thu 30-Dec-21 07:15:35

Madmen, I wonder if your body gets used to lower calories after a time, most likely it’s more difficult with your thyroid problem. On this forum a wonderful lady, Whiff, tells of her very inspiring weight loss despite medical issues, she is carrying on and is within sight of her target weight.
It seems whatever I eat I’m stuck at same weight, which is a stone too much, but I do sin a lot, I can eat a whole bar of chocolate once opened or packet of biscuits as I comfort eat. Yesterday everything sweet went apart from next years Christmas pudding, I soak two in brandy and put them by for the year, but they are safe from me.

Kim19 Thu 30-Dec-21 08:07:57

Flaxseed, on the 16/8 you choose your clock. It doesn't have to start at noon. You select the 8 hours of eating time to fit in with your lifestyle. It's a very personal thing totally regimented by the user.hi

oodles Tue 04-Jan-22 16:38:37

I'm a bit like you Madmeg, been referred to diabetes prevention which meant that I had to weigh myself, and oh dear, I'd crept up into the obese category. I know following an accident during lockdown I'd overeaten as was told I needed to eat plenty to help healing, so I did ad suspect my weight was higher, but once that healed I didn't overeat, in general, lots of things that I don't eat, I don't have sugar in drinks, I have either sodastream and sugar free squash as cold drinks, can't remember when I last drank alcohol, didn't even over Christmas, I did at a wedding a few months ago but that was all, I don't eat cream, or christmas cake or puddings, I was using butter on things like crumpets if I had one, and I guess some ice cream in the summer, but I don't go overboard
With the prediabetes scare and my high blood pressure and cholesterol news I have changed what I eat a lot to try and get the weight down and tackle the high blood sugar. This is what is working for me atm, I'm mostly on my own so it is a lot easier
I've really been watching the carbs I eat, and have been making sure that I have protein with any carbs, and minimal actual sugar. I had a couple of little cakes over the Christmas period that was all. Many more veggies, which is hard for me, as I don't like a lot of the green leafy ones, have been hiding ones I'm not keen on in homemade veggie soup. Also chopped up small in stir fries, made with minimal oil, and some sauce for carbs, with chunks of some sort of protein. I've a cheap soup maker I got from facebook market place, the blender doesn't work but I have a hand blender, I tend to make up enough for a couple of days, I can vary the taste by maybe having some bits of ham one day in it, another day with a scattering of cheese or nutritional yeast
Minimal fruit juice, as that is so sugary, one small helping is ok but so tempting, even though fruit is sugary I have some fruit as one of the 5 a day after a meal as pudding. Only plain yoghurt, no ready flavoured yoghurt. I have got some sugar free sweetener which I will use when the rhubarb starts coming through. I have got some pea pasta and some other non wheat pasta, have had one meal of that and it was good, less carb than wheat pasta
I was impressed by Roy Taylor's newcastle diet for reversing or preventing diabetes, and did like the idea of dropping a lot rapidly, but it is very low calorie, so although calories are out of fashion atm, I'm doing it just to shift some weight reasonably fast. His idea is that it can be easier to have a v ery low-calorie diet for a few weeks to shift a lot of weight rapidly, and then transition to a diet that keeps the weight off. than lose the same amount over several months. I am having a dinnertime meal replacement shake most days, not having bread atm, it means dinnertimes are a bit easier, so only have to think about one evening meal. I might do a few very low=calorie days, I guess this would be 5 - 2 fasting, and if I'm going to a meal with someone maybe, have been invited out for an afternoon tea in a few weeks, will have the rest of the day very low calorie and maybe the day afterwards, depending on what I've eaten. Getting from just turned overweight down to just at the limit of a healthy bmi will be tough, but have lost at least just over a stone so far, probably more as didn't have scales to start with. Unfortunately have only seemed to have lost weight on my face so far, but it's a start, hopefully the extra exercise I'm dong will help shift it from my stomach
The prevention programme talks a lot about the eatwell portion plate which is about a healthy balance of foods on your plate and less than you were eating before
Even when I was at my youngest and slimmest adult weight I couldn't maintain much less than just under overweight, when I did it was on a silly diet and always put it on again even with eating moderately and doing a lot of exercise, I'll do my best, maybe measure my height so I can make sure I'm using the right height.
If you know you are bmi 30 or above and have diabetes or high blood pressure you can be referred by a pharmacist onto a free nhs weight loss programme, if you think you might be at risk of being prediabetic you can assess your risk and self refer yourself onto the prevention programme here preventing-diabetes.co.uk/Know-your-risk-dtc/
the optician saw a bleed at the back of my eye and referred me to the doc, which led to the bad news, and the referral to the programme, I didn't know I had any problems at all, and it scared me to death, thinking my sight might be affected
I'm doing it for my health but if I look better with less weight that will be a bonus

VioletSky Tue 04-Jan-22 16:47:43

What are your thyroid levels? Maybe it isn't right for you and the doctor would let you up it a bit

VioletSky Tue 04-Jan-22 16:48:05

Thyroxine levels, without a thyroid

jeanie99 Fri 07-Jan-22 00:26:30

I eat twice a day, usually brunch at 11 ish I'm never hungry in a morning and evening dinner at around 6pm.
I was about 9 stone when I married I'm 9 and half stone now.

Only eat white meat and fish, lots of veg but am very careful of fruit this can raise my sugar level.
I've been prediabetic a couple of times so I watch what I eat and have a meter and check my blood sugar levels.
Rarely eat potatoes, pasta, rice, or takeaways.
I've had four pregnancies, exercised most of my life but don't now other than walking due to health issues.
I'm a keen gardener and can spend hours in the garden so I am not sedentary.
I don't know what the answer is to loosing weight but clearly it's different for each person, you need to find out what puts the pounds on for you and avoid it or have it rarely.
Best of luck you'll get there.

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ayse Sat 08-Jan-22 10:30:52

I love Michael Moseley. Visited the nurse for annual check up a year ago and I was pre-diabetic and 9st 10lbs. She said I was borderline obese!

Anyway, I took it to heart and followed MM’s advice and reduced visible carbs, cut down on fruit at the same time as increasing green veg and protein. Berries stayed. I lost my fear of fats and started having full fat plain yoghurt, more olive oil etc. plus at least 2 portions of fatty fish weekly. Also started to have 2 squares of bitter chocolate 85% daily and found more recipes for healthier treats eg. brownies made from sweet potato, cacao, stevia, ground almonds and egg.

Once I settled on this I had Friday as a treat day or bad food day as I called it and indulged in my ‘better’ treats.

After 9 months my weight had dropped to 8st 4lbs and no more pre-diabetes. I’ve eased up a little over the Christmas period but I’m back to my previous lifestyle now.

IMO, it’s all about changing dietary habits and seeing it as a new way of life. In any event the changes in eating reduced my calorie intake enough for me to loose the extra pounds. A great plus has been a huge reduction in itchy skin and eczema, possibly due to increased fat consumption.

Wishing you luck whichever way you choose to follow. As others have said find something that suits you. Nobody is the same.

Jerseygal Sat 22-Jan-22 15:33:53

Watch the Sugar in Foods. Walking 2 miles a Day. Hope this helps. I use a Walking Steps App on my phone. It really helps I lost 6lbs in a month.

Cherrytree59 Sat 22-Jan-22 16:02:13

Sugar free Chewing gum

Lost 3 and half stone during first lockdown ( (fear of being over weight, hospitalisation and ventilators)

I had previously done SW so decided to use the info I already had.
I also drank plenty of water
(easy as hot summer)
Like most in our area walked daily among for 10,000 steps

But I have to say that although possibly quite controversial, it was * sugar free chewing gum* that help me the most.
Due to high anxiety (re family members and covid) I started to unconsciously bite and chewing my tongue.
Result a very sore and swollen tongue.
Although initially having hated the idea of chewing gum, I came to the conclusion that it would help to stop the habit.

I found that chewing gum helped not only my poor tongue but also it completely stopped urge to eat anything sugary.
By October 2020 I had lost 3 stone and I join the gym (only doing aqua classes and yoga and now also tai chi ).

2022 weight still off smile

diygran Sat 22-Jan-22 21:04:57

dee53
Glad you lost weight with Orlistat. I also lost about half stone after Chemist gave me consultation and Orlistat.

Some time later I spoke to GP about my weight loss. She was horrified I had used Orlistat as its not suitable for those like me with high blood pressure.
(The chemist did know all the medicine I was on......???)

denbylover Sat 22-Jan-22 21:50:24

Recently I was part of a group of women when one said ‘I just have to lose a bit of weight’. Another woman said the answer for her was to ‘cut all flour’, she was a size 20 now a 10.

Jezra Thu 27-Jan-22 20:42:48

Since going through the menopause 14 yrs ago, I have put on weight steadily and none of the previous ways I had tried to lose weight has worked since then.
Enter - “Louise Parker” and Lean for Life.
Weight just falls off! No calorie counting just great, healthy recipes with the added benefit of three meals daily plus two snacks. Lost a stone in a fortnight. The new way of eating coupled with the exercises she suggests means that no muscle is lost in the process.
Try it. It worked for me.

Jezra Thu 27-Jan-22 20:43:36

Sorry - “hasn’t worked since then”