Grandson has failed his Degree

Update
My GS did his re-sits and has now got his degree. Yesterday, we went to his younger sister’s graduation - she got a 1st. He is very proud of her.
Petra- yes we were disappointed at the time.. *Ofcourse we told him “it wasn’t the end of the world “ *- the very same words, but we also encouraged him to re-sit and we’re glad we did. . In the meanwhile, he had one or two great holidays with his golfing friends and is, as we speak, preparing a CV, to send out to prospective employers. Fingers crossed, he will find a job soon.

The point of university isn’t’t to enable you to earn a lot of money. It’s to enrich your mind and therefore your life. Should be, anyway.

My mother told me it was a way to pass the time for three or four years, and meet a man who ought to end up earning enough to keep me and a family.

Yes, really. This was in 1975.
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Fabulous news all round crazyH 🥰

Well done to your DGS for persevering, crazyH, well worth it.

Also congratulations to your DGD.

Great news

Well done both!

Thank goodness he is with you. Try to tell him that it isn’t the end of the world and there are so many other options. The world is his oyster. I have two grandsons. One had no interest in university and the other did and came out with a first. Both earn the same kind of money and both are successful. His parents should be grateful that they did not attend a degree ceremony,like parents at my grandson’s graduation,in order to receive the degree which their son would have had if he hadn’t committed suicide.

Concentrate on one thing at a time. The first thing he needs to do is go and see his tutors and find out what he failed and how he can retake it.

Forget about his sexuality, that is just a diversion and is nobodies business but his.

His mother should be ashamed of herself.

Primrose53

University education is not essential for getting on in life. Today I have been to a funeral. It was a huge church and packed.

Family members read out their memories of X who they said was not academic but was very bright and could turn his hand to anything. He started from nothing, leaving school with no qualifications but a drive to do well.

With his brother they built up a coach business and now employ loads of people, and take thousands of people all over the country on luxury coaches and on holidays abroad. He has a lovely family, beautiful home and all the trappings of a fine businessman.

Indeed.

Well done them.

crazyH

Update
My GS did his re-sits and has now got his degree. Yesterday, we went to his younger sister’s graduation - she got a 1st. He is very proud of her.
Petra- yes we were disappointed at the time.. *Ofcourse we told him “it wasn’t the end of the world “ *- the very same words, but we also encouraged him to re-sit and we’re glad we did. . In the meanwhile, he had one or two great holidays with his golfing friends and is, as we speak, preparing a CV, to send out to prospective employers. Fingers crossed, he will find a job soon.

All's well that ends well!

I agree with M0nica. His mother should be truly and utterly ashamed of herself. My son (my only child) is disabled. Tell her to count her blessings and thank god every single day for a healthy and happy child.

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It is all very intense in the family situation, and whilst you can understand the disappointment it is not helping your grandson. Is there a way that he could volunteer with something he is interested in, or possibly help at some sort of camp such as scouts or possibly some overseas charity where he could get a wider view of life and come to see that however difficult a situation is it is only part of life and not all consuming. His life at the moment is rather looking into a mirror and not liking what he sees. By focusing on something totally outside of his own situation, he could learn quite a lot and also get things into perspective, whilst possible finding that there is another area in life that he can enjoy and be good at. You are doing a great job in supporting him, and I think less concentration on the failure and looking around at other things should help to take the pressure off and allow him to think where he wants to go next.

Congratulations to your grandson (and his sister) crazyH and good luck with the job hunting. My oldest granddaughter graduated in July and starts a post grad job in the city on Monday, working towards becoming a Chartered Accountant. 😊