I did get along with both girls. I want to correct that impression, LiveLaughLove. Very well indeed. And I do care about her, but I have to respect the choice she has made, and it's one that only she can reverse, should she wish to, one day. And I would just hug her. I hear a few bits and pieces about her and am hoping that the idea of university I planted the seed of, will take fruit, and I would be delighted. We don't know why she cut off her father. She just met him for coffee and told him, later texting me the same message. She said she was sorry but that was what she wanted to do. We were not in a position to discuss it with her. As for her mother, why do people say I am evil towards her? Ridiculous. I funded part of their flat purchase, bought them household items, always sent birthday and Christmas gifts, and (I am a genealogist) even found her unknown father. Part of her bitterness is never having met her father. And he didn't know she even existed. I paid for the DNA proof too. Evil or what? But it explains some of her attitude. Unfortunately, six months later her father cut off contact with her as his wife was beginning to think he was still in a relationship with her mother. Only case that has ever happened to me and it had to be to her. She was beyond upset and was on the phone a lot to me then.
So please don't assume things about people being 'evil'. If it was kinder not to see my granddaughter, believe me, I would live with that.
I have two other granddaughters from my other sons, aged 4. They are horrified at the situation and have promised me if anything ever happened they would never ever stop us seeing our grandchildren. One of them also reported to me only this month about a visit to them from the son in question, then wife and daughters, and how horrified she was by the extreme rudeness both mother and elder daughter displayed to my son. Actually, elder daughter actually raised a fist to this DIL. As a wider family, we are all pretty shocked.
But the 13-year-old in question is very big-hearted, so different. Her older sister shares a bedroom with her but refuses to speak to her (for the doubters I know this as it gets told by her to her father who tells me and she is as honest as the day is long). A caring listening grandparent would enrich her life.
I hope that clears a few misconceptions up.