Is there anyone here whose estranged adult child re-established contact?

I salute your strong boundaries Sugarpuff?

My friend didn’t hear from her son for years . His wife apparent,y would t let him have contact with his family ,. One day he knocked on his mums door saying he had left his wife ,. It was a long wait but when the chips were down there was only one place to go .back to mum.

Smileless2012 I stay away now and I am safer because the AC can be violent and that is even worse than a husband who is violent.

Ex husband's, your son's wife or your daughter's husband. It's shocking how the most obvious of lies can be believed.

You are safer away from it all Sugarpuffairy; safer and I hope happier, I know we are.

As Chimera said the ex husbands can do a lot of interfering and lying. This has happened here too. My AC have believed his lies despite proof to the contrary being seen and still available for them to re read. His lies seem to be believed no matter how easily proved wrong.
I had the ex pils, the exh, the AC and now DGC all being the same sort of nasty. I don't need it. I don't want it. I don't deserve it. I am not taking it.
I am safer away from them all. They cant access my bank account or expect any child minding.

My daughters cut me out of their lives when I remarried after divorcing their father. They didn't approve as he's younger than me and they will have to wait longer for their inheritance! That would have come from their father, who has 'encouraged' them away from me with money and holidays - he remarried into money. The youngest married without inviting us and both have had a child. They haven't spoken to me in almost 11 years now - emails and texts go unanswered so I have given up, they have both moved house so no idea where they are. They have also cut off all other family members - I expect they will be in touch if anything happens to my mum though!

Starlady, I think discussions need to be ongoing in order for healing to continue in some cases while in other cases ongoing discussion isn't necessary because the parties have reached an understanding easily-

As a parent I owe my children not only the wholehearted truth but the time involved to talk about anything they might inquire about-

My mother was different- My sister similar- Despite their responsibility in the train wreck- My sister's make-up is perfectly applied- Mom's butterfly brooch perfectly centered on her sweater- I've crows-feet and my heart on my sleeve-

Yes, my husband reconnected with his father and we invited him to our wedding and they continued to be in touch for many years. Not always an easy relationship but then........

Sorry Paarklife1...its heart breaking isn't it?

Sorry here is

Nearly three years now with minimal contact. I send cards and presents, but that’s all we have. My youngest grandchild is four. I have seen her once since her first birthday.

sparklygrandma….How lovely for you! For them to explain why they were thankful is so nice. Not just a blanket Thanks!

Hears hoping for a better future.

Yes. Me and my mum. I didn’t speak to her for two years after she did something very mean. It took me that long to get over it.

How wonderful SparklyGplease let this be the beginning of better and happier times.

Yes that is awful marionk, you poor DH.

I suppose it would to a certain extent depend on what went on during the estrangement Starlady. Far more difficult IMO if there had been an attempt by the EAC to come between their siblings and their parents and/or other family members. Even if they didn't succeed, a very difficult thing for the parents to come to terms with especially if the relationship with other child(ren) had been put under intense pressure.

marionk that is awful. Estrangement is so sad. After a long ongoing estrangement from an adult child, I recently had a lovely kind email from them thanking me for being persistent and loving in spite of being CO for years.

It made my heart soar when I read those words.

I am open to more but expect the CO will continue.

Beautiful to hear the stories of reconciliation here! I'm sure they provide a note of hope for those who are currently estranged. Sorry to hear of the situations where reconciliation wasn't possible or didn't work out. I guess it shows it can go either way.

I'm wondering if, in the cases of successful reconciliation, the past issues were discussed or the relationship just moved forward from the point at which the parties reconciled?

Starlady - what was that all about?

Marionk...blasted phone!!

Marion’s...that is the situation I would be most afraid of, I think.
You both have to be in the same frame of mind at the same time with consideration and forgiveness flowing in abundance both ways, for it to stand any chance of working out in the long run.

Duvet diva...well if you look at the top of the home page you can click on ‘acronyms’ and that should tell you all you need to know.

My DH is estranged from his youngest son and has been for over 15 years, so imagine the surprise when he arrived at the hospital after his father had a heart attack telling us it was time to forgive and move on. Fast forward 3 years and we are back to 0 contact so can only think he was looking for his inheritance ? well I have news for him!!

Me too!

I also find comments slower to read due to the annoying acronyms!

Yes, my son had no contact with us for three years, we have never really known why, although he does have a very controlling wife, new baby born who was very unwell, he got in touch with us & thankfully we now have a happy relationship with him & our grandchildren. Wife still very controlling but he is obviously happy with her & she is a wonderful mother.

I have had no contact with my youngest son for over 5 years now since I divorced his father I found out on facebook 6 months ago from one of my daughter's posts that I have a new granddaughter and I got his address and sent a couple of knitted cardies. I got a thank you from him via Facebook so I guess this is a start.