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Why are younger people on Gransnet now?

(140 Posts)
Peonyrose Sat 28-Sept-19 19:15:40

I wonder why young people are joining in Gransnet forums, when there are other sites more suited such as Mumsnet.

paddyann Sun 29-Sept-19 14:56:07

I/m on both too.I have a 10 year olf GD who has lived with us for half the week for 9 years ,The attitudes towards raising children is very different nwo to how some here raised theirs and I like to make sure I'm not too far in any direction with our girl .
I do find some on GN are very firmly stuck in the past on a few things so a modern perspective is very welcome .I'm happy to have younger folk here .

Rufus2 Sun 29-Sept-19 15:09:43

I wonder why young people are joining in Gransnet forums
And a good thing too! smile As someone once wrote; "The old order changeth yielding place to new, etc and "Don't look a gift horse in the mouth"
I've been hereabouts for over a year so still a "newbie" but noticed a significant increase in new names and less so of what we called "the old guard". Wasn't there a mass migration from MN not long ago(? ); although some of them seem to have moved on also, including my Mam, "Rufussmum". sad

Starblaze Sun 29-Sept-19 18:24:13

I will always be on the side of their mums/mils

How could anyone take the side of a stranger over the hurt human being in front of them without evidence they are out of line shock

notanan2 Sun 29-Sept-19 18:30:11

Do you mean non grans like me?
I am gran aged having had my own children relatively late. My peers are grans.

I came to gransnet to lurk and learn on the menopause threads, then found that the financial threads were more appropriate to my stage in life than the typical ones on "younger" forums so stayed.

Or do you mean "adult children" who have problems with their parents? Whose to say theyre not grans? Plenty of grans own parents are still alive (making them the "AC"). Heck I know a gran whose own gran is still alive!

That doesn't make us green nippers!

notanan2 Sun 29-Sept-19 18:33:03

P.s. I read MN as often news/events break there before mainstream media (e.g. Manchester attacks, Grenfell)

But I can't keep up with the chat threads they move too fast and get too long.

ayse Sun 29-Sept-19 18:33:43

I don’t mind who comes to this forum. Maybe they come here to get away from nastiness and see what older folk think of all sorts.

notanan2 Sun 29-Sept-19 18:37:57

P.s. AC are by definition adults. Not youngsters.

Kandinsky Sun 29-Sept-19 18:45:18

Maybe they’ve grown out of mumsnet?
It’s core audience are young mums, so when you’re in your 40’s you do start to feel a bit past it.

Gonegirl Sun 29-Sept-19 18:51:14

I used to be able to waste just as much time on Mumsnet as I now do on GN. Mind you, it's a different place now.

Gonegirl Sun 29-Sept-19 18:55:23

Tbh, I don't actually care who comes on here and who doesn't.

I'm just a bad girl. ?

Gonegirl Sun 29-Sept-19 18:55:41

I like that emoji.

notanan2 Sun 29-Sept-19 18:56:55

Grandchildren (which I dont have) aside, GN fits better:

The property threads arent full of first time buyers. I have bought and sold several times and the process has changed quite a lot in ways that other GNers are more likely to understand. GNers can also empathise better with things like leaving the home you raised your babies in, or downsizing a lifetime of memories

Financial threads: MN financial threads are either (immature) stealth boasts from go-getting 20 somethings that havent hit any bumps in the road yet, or compeditive poverty. GN is more pragmatic on financial topics.

Friendship threads: making and keeping friends is DIFFERENT as you get older! I may not have grandkids, but I am also not just a few years out of school or uni, so the dynamics are different!

Health: well your health doesnt care whether or not you have GCs (unless you do heavy childminding) so that is also not something I have in common with 20somethings!

notanan2 Sun 29-Sept-19 18:59:14

The downside of GN is that if you empathise with milleniums, some posters assume you are one and talk down to you accordingly! (Even though you may even be older than said posters!)

notanan2 Sun 29-Sept-19 19:30:30

I would also like to point ou that there isnt a gran generation

There are grans in their 30s and grans in their 90s and everything inbetween!

Some GNers can be a bit "them and us" as if "grans" = a homogenous demographic. It is not.

Hetty58 Sun 29-Sept-19 19:58:15

The more the merrier and age is immaterial, I think. We need a variety of viewpoints, from people of all ages and backgrounds for a balanced debate.

Gonegirl Sun 29-Sept-19 20:09:08

Nice to see a triple run of posts there notanan.

I am not alone. smile

LondonGranny Sun 29-Sept-19 20:11:26

I do that too....I think of one thing, post, then something else pops into my brain etc etc etc

notanan2 Sun 29-Sept-19 20:15:30

I should use the preview function more! grin

Gonegirl Sun 29-Sept-19 20:17:07

Nah. Just keep posting as it comes. grin

Starlady Wed 02-Oct-19 13:58:51

LOL! I do some serial posting, too, when I think of other things I want to say. IMO, this just shows we're taking these issues seriously and giving them thought (not saying those who don't serial post aren't giving them thought). And maybe just as well, so no one post gets too long.

I imagine some of the young mums come here b/c they want the perspective of GPs, and some to show us that they can be hurting, too. But I don't care why. We can learn from everyone, and as long as we don't hurt each other, I think it's ok. Also, I know, as some say, that some grans are younger than others and some older women are not grans.

Smileless2012 Wed 02-Oct-19 16:41:55

"as long as we don't hurt each other" that's the most important thing isn't it Starlady especially with any of the threads on the estrangement forum, where there's enough pain alreadysmile.

pinkquartz Wed 02-Oct-19 18:37:48

gonegirl

I can't make out what that emoji is......I can't see it on my list.....can you tell me what it says please

SirChenjin Wed 02-Oct-19 19:22:21

It’s not on the GN list, it’s an emoji on the iPhone smile

Millie22 Wed 02-Oct-19 19:23:06

I'm on mumsnet also but it has changed so much over the years since it started. Some of the current topics would never have been discussed in a very open and aggressive manner. I think there are some good things about both sites.

Starlady Wed 02-Oct-19 22:03:31

Agreed, Smileless.