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Why are younger people on Gransnet now?

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Peonyrose Sat 28-Sep-19 19:15:40

I wonder why young people are joining in Gransnet forums, when there are other sites more suited such as Mumsnet.

jeanie99 Tue 05-Nov-19 19:28:09

I don't have any problem with younger people coming onto this site.
A good mix of age groups male and female surely brings support and experience with them.

petra Tue 05-Nov-19 20:07:41

I was on MN for some years before I joined GN. I was 65 at the time (2011) and thought I'd wandered into a parallel universe.

One of the first threads I read was on daytime TV. The general consensus seemed to be that you were one step up from the devil incarnate if you indulged in this heinous pass time.

I sometimes still feel very different from many posters my own age.

Naty Mon 16-Dec-19 16:52:22

I came to gransnet because I wanted help with dealing with in-law issues and a new baby. These grannys know more than me, having been moms and in-laws.

Elegran Mon 16-Dec-19 18:03:45

Rufus said "GNHQ is quite capable of "policing"; having drawn up the guidelines many years ago." but they don't actually do any policing unless the crime is pointed out to them by someone reporting a post - so if anyone is really upset by a post, so much so that they would like it deleted or modified or at least condemned by GNHQ, they have to refer it for moderation.

It is quicker to make a short sharp retort to the poster, if you don't mind running the risk of them reporting you for your reply, and HQ sending you a reprimand and making you stand on the naughty step.

FlyingFree Mon 16-Dec-19 18:17:09

I get it! Some people might not have good older role models in their lives otherwise x

Hetty58 Mon 16-Dec-19 18:52:29

The more the merrier, I think. Younger people can be just as wise, or even wiser, than us oldies. We need viewpoints from different generations, experiences and backgrounds to get a complete picture of situations.

Wheniwasyourage Mon 16-Dec-19 19:03:08

What Hetty58 said.

M0nica Mon 16-Dec-19 19:22:03

I think it is because we listen more carefully, give thoughtful answers and have more experience so understand.

Yes, now and again some one pops up who is downright unpleasant, but even when someone comes on full of woe and it is clear that she has caused all her problems, we tell her so, but kindly.

HolyHannah Mon 16-Dec-19 19:49:54

Hetty58 -- What insightful words.

I think that what some of younger people here offer is not just a different perspective but also mindset.

I would never say something like, "I will ALWAYS 'side' with..." I look at each situation and offer advice based on the circumstances and not just be an echo-chamber of blind 'support'. That really doesn't help anyone.

Framilode Mon 16-Dec-19 19:52:47

I am 73 and on Mumsnet and Gransnet.

bettydl Wed 18-Dec-19 17:17:31

I came here for exactly what M0nica describes - more careful listening, thoughtful answers and experience. In my 'real' life my friends tend to be closer to the age of a Grandma than my own.

I've very close with my own Mum, but she isn't terribly interested in children so Gransnet is the 'Gran' in my life.

M0nica Thu 19-Dec-19 15:25:49

bettydl what a lovely description of us.^being the gran in your life^ what a compliment.

PernillaVanilla Tue 28-Jan-20 16:11:29

I'm on both - at 63 and not yet a granny I sometimes feel a bit out of it on mumsnet, and I sometimes feel a bit too outrageous for on here. It is interesting to see how the same topics attract very different topics on MN & GN

DillytheGardener Tue 28-Jan-20 16:18:47

I’m not a gran yet but I will be later this year. I’m definitely not young though (although I don’t feel old!), and my babies are all grown up so here seems like the best fit out of the two sites.