Thank you 3nanny
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It's not something you expect even though you've been estranged, that the child you were once so close too no longer has any interest in you whatsoever.
It comes as quite shock when it happens. It's inconceivable to us as their parents, not to enquire after them if we heard they were unwell, even if we believed our enquiry would be ignored, we would ask.
I'm glad you've had some warm
to enjoy and relax in.
It sounds as if your weather has been the same as ours hugshelp, lovely and sunny but a decidedly chilly breeze; a good drying day though
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We took our lovely dogs out for a walk in beautiful seclusion, along a river bank. We only discovered it on Friday, less than a 10 minute drive from our home and no one else about.
Arrived home to the lovely aroma of our chicken roasting in the oven. I remember a couple of years ago we went for a lovely walk later one Sunday afternoon and when we got home, I couldn't understand why the house wasn't filled with the aroma of our chicken roasting.
All was revealed when I walked into the kitchen to find the oven on, but the chicken still sat on top of the cooker
. Thank goodness our cat hadn't realised it was there.
Hope your shopping trip went OK 3nanny, if you're anything like me super market shopping has never been my favourite past time; even less so now.
I'm glad I'm not the only one. The really annoying thing was having to wait for our meal.
It's incomprehensible to me how much and how quickly they can change. Mr. S. has a card our ES sent him about 10 years ago when his health problems first began, he wrote such a loving and caring message; he always did.
Oh that's a shame hugshelp especially when it's a walk you enjoy.
Our chicken story has raised a few chuckles over the last couple of years.
"The sudden change, oh yes..." Yes indeed. It has to be seen to be believed doesn't it, and even then it doesn't seem possible.
Well I've managed to occupy myself for another day. Exercises done and then an email from our accountant requesting information for our tax returns
boring but it filled an hour or two.
Mr. S.'s flowers arrived this afternoon so he'll be busy getting them planted tomorrow. The roof terrace already looks lovely and will look even lovelier when he's finished .
We are retired agnurse but had our own business which is still in existence but is dormant so we still need our business accountant who also takes care of our personal tax returns.
I'm glad your shopping trip went well 3nanny. Your GC will be thrilled with their crayons, pencils and paper not to mention the extra Easter Eggs.
I'll have to resist that temptation when I go on Friday; I love chocolate.
Mr. S. has spent the morning planting the pansies we got yesterday in tubs and hanging baskets and the roof terrace looks really lovely. We didn't think we'd be able to get anything as it was only last week that our local garden centres were open for deliveries. They must have been waiting for bedding plants to be ready.
Have you checked to see if any in your area are delivering? Mr. S. also got some much needed compost.
It must have been very tempting to accept your D's invitation so well done for resisting; better safe than sorry even though you must be missing them dreadfully
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Just got back from a lovely walk with the dogsit certainly lifts your spirits getting out in the sunshine and enjoying the fresh air.
Just waiting for the macaroni cheese I made earlier to heat through for our evening meal; one of Mr. S.'s favourites and enjoying a 
while we wait.
Not a bad day; hope you're all coping x
Morning ladies.
Another day to fill and apart from taking out cockapoo to the vet this afternoon nothing else planned.
She's scratching at one of her ears pretty consistently and is a bit subdued so better to get it checked out. We have to ring the door bell and then stand 6 feet away from the van so the vet can come to get her and take her in for an examination.
When the vet appears at the door we have to repeat the procedure so she can out her back. All sounds very well organised and I'm just relieved that we've got an appointment for her.
So that will be our bit of excitement for day.
I hope she makes a good recovery Smileless.
Our cat has a bit of a cold which isn't going away, so our vet kindly hand delivered some antibiotics. This was the only way we could get treatment, as we are shielding and couldn't take him to the vet.
It was the second anniversary of my daughter's marriage a couple of days ago, the one she didn't tell us about for over a year, as well as not telling us about the birth of DGD1 until she was 14 months old. All of these special events were shared with her MIL and, when we went to visit last month, there was a picture of her with her MIL on her wedding day, which had pride of place. It hurt like hell to see it.
We met DD's MIL and PIL separately for coffee, at their invitation - although SIL didn't want us to meet - and they are really nice people. The MIL kept telling me how she regarded DD as a daughter. Funnily enough, that hurt like hell too, that MIL is the one DD chose to spend these special occasions with rather than me.
DD is in almost daily contact now, sending photos and videos etc, but the hurt runs so deep that I don't think I will ever get over it. How do you ever reconstruct a relationship after that? I mean, obviously you can, and we are, reconstructing a relationship of sorts, but the pain and feelings of betrayal and rejection still run so deep that sometimes I struggle. I don't have the feelings of living bereavement any more, but the part of my heart with her name on it sometimes feels like ice or just a husk - maybe a mixture of both.
Enjoy the Martini, Starblaze. Apparently you can make very good Martini cocktails with basil .
Have a good day, everybody!
It's a shame your D didn't think to put that photo away while you were there. I'm not surprised it "hurt like hell to see it there" PF.
I know how much I dislike seeing photo's of our ES, our GC and his wife when we visit DS. There are only a couple but I'd prefer not to see any at all TBH.
It's nice that your D is close to her m.i.l. but again, understandable that you find that hurtful too. I'm glad you liked you D's p's.i.l. but again, a little sensitivity from her m.i.l. perhaps would have been better.
Don't be hard on yourself. I'm not surprised you struggle. To have gone through all that you have, to have thought you were reconciling but weren't told that you already had a GD was a huge obstacle to overcome and you've done so well.
I'd like to think that anyone in your D's position with all that's happened, would be thankful that their parents were able to try and put the past behind them, and rebuild the relationship.
Trust once broken isn't easily repaired.
Not everyone could PF. "but the part of my heart with her name on it sometimes feels like ice or just a husk - maybe a mixture of both". You have a wonderful way with words and have just described my heart to a 'T'; the love somehow survives though doesn't it.
That was good of your vet. I suspect our cocka will need ear drops; now that's going to be fun.
Best wishes to your DH and love and hugs for you x
Hi Rhinestone, seems as if your weather is even more changeable than ours.
How are things over there? Are you managing to get everything you need when shopping? The ridiculous panic buying we had here has abated thank goodness; we even have plenty of toilet rolls now.
Ooh 'Happy Birthday' to Mr. h. for tomorrow hugshelp 
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Mixed news from the vet. No ear mites or infection but her ear is inflamed
so she's had a steroid injection and needs drops twice a day for 7 days.
The not so good news is, if it hasn't settled down in a week's time she'll have to go in, be sedated and have fur in her ears plucked!!
Her breed has narrow ear canals and excess fur in the ear which can lead to the current problem. Poor baby was very upset to be taken away by a stranger when she could see her dad stood at a distance, watching.
"There's always room for more people to love in a family, without pushing some out". You'd think so wouldn't you; if only that were the case in every family, and if only there weren't some who have to be the centre of attention and cannot stand the person they 'love' having love for others.
That must be hard, being so near yet so far but great that you saw her. As for those starlings, I hope they were from the same household.
Afternoon ladies.
Another lovely sunny day but still chilly. We administered the ear drops this morning but it wont be a easy later as she'll know what's coming. She's stopped scratching which is the main thing.
Finding it difficult to get motivated, that's the problem with too much time on your hands, it's easy to put things off until later, tomorrow or the day after.
Think we'll have a Chinese takeaway this evening, something different and I'm fed up with cooking and really missing not being able to go out for a meal. Still mustn't grumble, she says as she grumbles.
Take care everyone.
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