Madgran -- I agree that there are many causes of eating disorders. With what Lavazza1st said and added to with, 'she divorced the father because he was abusive'... It's very easy to see the progression of, mom admits there was abuse in the home when the child(ren) were young. Child develops self-harming/dysfunctional behaviors...
After that I see the, "We tried our best/We listened to the 'experts' etc." but there is no... "Okay... I 'get' it. Even when 'trying my best' and listening to experts, We were the adults and in 'control' of You and how you were treated. So whether it was one of Us or a combination/group of Us adults that failed You... All the adults in your world carry some responsibility for the pain you feel now."
But I see none of that attitude from Lavazza1st... Instead she said, "I do really question myself if I should have maybe got them adopted as it just seems like too much pain after so much effort thats effectively unrequited love and a one sided relationship." This parent seems more concerned about her 'situation' then the screaming pain of her child's behavior.
Which accent do you absolutely love?
Weight loss pills and injections.
Spade or shovel?Light hearted.
Head teacher kills herself over OFSTED