In response to some messages I have received I would like to clarify I didnt go behind my d back. I messaged her to let her know I was fetching easter eggs for the children. Just as I did when it was my gd birthday in February. My daughter told me via text to leave the presents on her doorstep of which I did. She text me later to thank me for the gifts. As for my 12 yr old gs he was playing on his xbox when I went to the house. After I rang him he rang me back and came downstairs to open the curtains to talk with me. I never asked him to meet me at the window this was his choice. Regarding the sexual abuse revolving around my other gd I do keep mentioning this but I'll say it again, she has never been physically sexually abused, I'll say it again, physically, in her life. She did rude things with her cousin when they were 6 years old. She was given counselling for a couple of years through the authorities to teach her boundaries of which she had no awareness of, she was being suggestive in her actions such as drawings, words etc. which all stemmed from seeing her mother behaving inappropriately with boyfriends in front of my gd when she had custody of her. Hence why the courts gave my son full custody 5 years ago. My d has always been aware of what my gd went through when she was little. My gd didnt know what she was doing with her cousin, my gs when they were 6yrs old. My gd has no memory of what went on when she was little, she doesn't remember the abuse her mother inflicted on her either thank god. So for my d to behave the way she is doing towards me there is no excuse, accusing my husband of abuse for one, all claims being investigated and cleared. I wasnt guilty of anything here, my gd is a healthy 11 yr old now, I didnt place her in that situation with my gs to start with.
I have never been in denial regards what happened between my gd and gs. I acknowledged this when my daughter called me to tell me what my gs had said. I may have reacted wrongly when I said my gs must have overheard them talking which they have in front of me about my gd behaviour before the fall out but I did apologise to my d for not realizing to the full extent of what my gs had gone through.
But all that happened was a one off incident, there is no sexual abuse going on in my family period. All I could do was apologise profusely to my d about my gd actions of which came a shock both me and my d in January when it all came out. My son and his partner are completely supportive in my pursuing seeing my gc. They know I love all my gc, including their children. My dil has messaged my d telling her straight that all this had nothing to do with me. My daughter wants me to take sides with her, she has in past said that I am on side with my gd and not my gs. How on earth am I supposed to take sides between 2 children, 11 yr olds. Yes my gd did wrong, I just dont know how I'm supposed to put things right here, how can I. I love both my gc and it is so unfair that my d wants me to take sides. She wants me to disown my gd my son and his family, my husband, all for her which is ridiculous. So if anybody has any suggestions for me I would appreciate it, thankyou all...