"Actually I am going to now shame those kids. Because it's the loving parent that is often left feeling shamed. But likeSmileless2012says it's not theirs to feel.
To every adult child who has abandoned their parents and not even made the effort during covid to contact them and see if they are OK,SHAME ON YOU! You will regret this, see if you don't. More. Fool. You. You only get one set of parents. If you do not forgive, you are harming yourself and youWILLregret this to the end of your days because your bitterness will destroy your happiness.ALLyour adult relationships success or failure comes back to that parental pattern, so if you don't make peace with your past, your adult relationshipsWILLbe impacted. You may think it's your parents you're punishing, but you're punishingYOU.
(rant over) for now."
I can read the pain in your post.
I have a different concept of forgiveness.
It is a personal decison that does not mean contact will be made with the other party z it may or may not.
Personally, my relationships with other people have improved after I cut off my parents.
I am happy and loving life now vs unhappy, depressed and anxious before.
Yes, we only have one set of parents and I got a very bad assignment- they are not fit to be parents and responsible for any human beings or animals whatsoever.
For my narc parents, a message from me saying "hello, I hope you are doing well" means for them:
"we will be best friends again, we will talk daily on the phone, go and you will host us for 3 months to make up for lost time and we will take our grandkids to Europe with us for the summer to give you guys a break"
No no no no no..... an inch is a 1000 km for them
So as a person who did not open pandora's box to check on my parents for covid - I am very much at peace with my decision