It sounds as if you've been to hell and back Whatdayisit. You got your son back because thank goodness he was eventually able to see what his wife was really like.
I don't know if son's are "more likely to estrange to keep their partner quiet" than daughters. Both I'm sure are not adverse to cutting out their parents rather than stand up to their partner, that said maybe son's fear losing contact with their children if they refuse to go along with the wishes of their children's mother, especially if they're given the 'it's me/us or them' ultimatum.
The "suspicion and disbelief of others" is a bitter pill to swallow and having been estranged for more than 8 years now, experience has taught me that that response tends to come from those who are not estranged or who have taken the decision to estrange.
Where as I've always found here on GN, an understanding of and sympathy for those who estranged abusive parents, it is not always reciprocated in relation to EP's who lose their child/ren through no fault of their own.
A row would be awful wouldn't it, especially one that is then blown up out of all proportion with an AC saying they never want anything to do with you again, but when there's nothing, and despite seeing subtle changes in your relationship, the estrangement comes totally unexpectedly, it's impossible to out what that's like into words.
I seem to have hit a new, unexpected and rather unpleasant 'bump' on the road to living with estrangement which your post 3nanny has prompted me to talk about on here.
For sometime now, years TBH I haven't thought about buying things for our GC which is to be expected after so long, and never having had a relationship with them.
What I was not expecting though, and first noticed a couple of weeks ago, was my intolerance to the sound of children in cafes, restaurants, shops etc. They seem so loud and it's akin to that awful noise the chalk would sometimes make on the blackboard. It sets my teeth and my nerves on edge; I can't stand it.
We're at our lodge having arrived Saturday, and our neighbours little 3 year old GS was here outside. A sweet little chap but I had to come inside and close the door to get away from the noise.
I was not expecting this especially after so long and feel as if I'm rapidly turning into a grumpy old woman before my time.
Scottish political mess. Is Devolution working?
Good Morning Sunday 28th April 2024