Letter to my Estranged Child

As I wrote, I won't be contacting them. Relationships are reciprocal so I will match their energy by doing...nothing! Just wanted to explain that to any lurkers who may be EC to make them have a think and a look at themselves. I don't feel angry, but it's interesting that it read that way. It's probably best to say nothing at all as words can be misconstrued.

It was cathartic to write here, though.

Thanks for all the good wishes

Please don’t send that letter. It will only make the chance of reconciliation much less likely. Write as many letters as you want but don’t send them if they are full of anger and bitterness. I hope things will work out for you.?

Onwardand Upward ; I can understand your heartbreak over your estranged child and it is something hard to bear particularly if people have not experienced it.
I hope this is an open letter and you are not sending it only because it is not worth the heartache, and your child will only throw it in the bin. Enjoy your life with those that care and love you and are there for you.
Put this letter to the back of your drawer and read it once in a while and see how you progress over the months.
Take care.

I completely agree with the sentiment, could have written it myself Onward in fact have written several very similar over the past 9 years, but would never send them. I would read them over and then destroy them as just writing it down was cathartic.

This is such a difficult time of year, our 9th Christmas without our ES and only GC and for no particular reason, apart from the season I suppose, I am feeling weepy today.

So easy to act in haste when emotions are running high and do something you later come to regret. If you are thinking of sending this, give yourself some time before you do. Look at it again in a day or two and see how you feel then.

I'm so sorry, I know how heartbreaking this is x

^ I will not do is reward your atrocious behaviour by chasing you down or actually trying to contact you.^

You are contacting them with what comes across as an angry nasty letter. I don’t know what you hope to achieve by this.

Oh dear that's very sad OnwardandUpward I understand how hurt you are but please think twice before sending that letter. Maybe it's just an open letter to express your feelings, I'm so sorry it has come to this with your adult child.
I hope there is some reconciliation in the future for you.