Anyone else waiting for a very elderly abusive parent to go?

In my book the parent who has plenty to spare and decides to spend it all on themselves is publicly telling the world how little they care about others.

This mother is spending her own money on making her final years as comfortable as she can, somewhere where she is well looked after. I would guess the care will increase as and when she needs it. By doing this she is actually reducing the responsibilities of her AC, whether that is her intention or not.

Should she sit at home needing help, needing care, putting pressure on her daughter, getting inadequate care ...just so that she can leave her money when she dies?

I don't agree that her actions are publicly telling the world how little she cares about others.

I wasn't actually replying directly to the OP, but to a previous poster, and several others, who used the 'it's her money, she can spend it how she wants' argument.

I was careful to say 'the parent who has plenty to spare and decides to spend it all on themselves'. We have no idea of the OP's mother's financial situation.

MargotLedbetter

I wasn't actually replying directly to the OP, but to a previous poster, and several others, who used the 'it's her money, she can spend it how she wants' argument.

I was careful to say 'the parent who has plenty to spare and decides to spend it all on themselves'. We have no idea of the OP's mother's financial situation.

Oh sorry Margot I thought you were commenting on the OP. Apologies.

I can only speak for myself but I personally don’t want and wouldn’t accept anything from my parents. We are estranged. I don’t need their money and wouldn’t take it if I did.

I didn’t have a neglectful or abusive mother so I can’t put myself in your shoes, but I did look after my mum for 20 years, and it’s to be commended that you looked after your mum as I did too, but you are saying you can’t wait to be done, and you seem resentful that she’s spending her money on her care, you do sound bitter and saying there will be no inheritance for you, but if she’s been as bad to you anyway why would you want inheritance, go live your life

In case my post was misinterpreted I didnt inherit a penny from my mother.

Thank you for your kindness Margot.