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Socksandsocks01 Thu 16-Jun-22 07:59:23

Would using street drugs affect the mind of my EAC. I've heard on the grapevine son has moved to other end of the country. I'm just trying to understand why he feels the need to inflict hurt on me. I wasn't perfect but I always put my kids first as a lone parent. I rarely socialised I stayed at home with my kids. Yet I'm a bad mother. I don't care apparently. I did refuse to take him in when he was separated from his wife as I feared for the safety of my other adult child. They don't see eye to eye. His wife said he took cocaine and other drugs and his interests were terrible. This wasn't the person I knew any more. I didn't want him in my house when I was out at work. He wasn't on the streets and to be honest they both made the mess they were in with their lifestyle choices. Obviously they reunited and have now up sticks.

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Chewbacca Fri 17-Jun-22 15:04:06

Agree with you again DiamondLily! Blaming mothers, wives, siblings, the vicar or his dog for one's own crap life choices demonstrates a low level of emotional maturity - it's all her/their/his fault my life is going awry. No. It really isn't.

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DiamondLily Fri 17-Jun-22 15:17:19

Chewbacca

Agree with you again DiamondLily! Blaming mothers, wives, siblings, the vicar or his dog for one's own crap life choices demonstrates a low level of emotional maturity - it's all her/their/his fault my life is going awry. No. It really isn't.

We live in a "blame culture" where it's always someone else's fault, and everyone needs counselling...?

Adults need to take responsibility - if you lash it up, then own it.

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Chewbacca Fri 17-Jun-22 15:21:41

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Smileless2012 Fri 17-Jun-22 16:40:22

When it comes to adults making mistakes, we do seem to be living in a blame culture I agree DiamondLily and Chewbacca and parents do seem to be the easy target.

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Madgran77 Fri 17-Jun-22 17:54:22

*"I rarely socialised I stayed at home with my kids"
That was not a healthy decision, sorry to say*

Eh? Dear me!

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Madgran77 Fri 17-Jun-22 17:55:30

Socks I think it was obvious what you meant re socialising! And your choice to do that hardly has bearing on the problems your son is experiencing now! flowers

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