6 sources of tension between adult children and parents

Smileless2012

Oh yes Victor Mildrew. Me and the boys always laughed at the lyrics of the song, we would sing along and look at Mr. S. and that was way before he was old.

There used to be light hearted programmes on TV called Grumpy Old Men/Women.

I think we realised we were getting older when we agreed with most of the "moans" lol ?

Remember that one too DL and couldn't believe how much we had in common with them.

Americans are exceptional at sarcasm.

I’ve always found the UK does better at so called “dry wit”.

I wonder if this is a case Of translation gone wrong

It was definitely sarcasm in our experience.

Lowest form of wit right?

The American colleagues I worked with just couldn't understand British irony; it took some explaining!

Strange isn't it Chewbacca when we appear to have so much in common with our American friends.

We share a language and lots of history. Our cultures are different in many ways. I’ve always felt more at home with Europe than the USA. Sorry I’m going off piste
Night everyone, sleep well and here’s hoping tomorrow is an ok day for all x

I think Reginald D Hunter (American comedian) explores the difference in UK and US humor very succinctly.
It's all about self deprication versus self confidence. That's where the irony comes in.
He does make it funny, a brilliant comedian for my tastes.?

I'm a fan of Reginald D Hunter too Namsnanny, I like his wry way of looking at life. Rich Hall is another who highlights the subtle differences between British and American humour.

Rich Hall is very funny, and Reg D Hunter is too, and he's got a wonderful; voice, like honey.

They've lived over here for many years, so they have adapted to a very British way of looking at life.

The other person that makes me howl with laughter is Bill Bryson, the author. His travels around the UK and America do make me laugh. He's married to an English woman, and he understands the humour comparisons between us wonderfully.?

There's nothing like humour to quell angst and gently move to understanding.

I love laughing at us Brits.?

We all have habits that could do with a blast of fresh air blown through them now and again.

Yes, humour often reaches the parts, at times, that anger and stress never can. ?

Another source of tension I have recently noticed is putting opinions before someone else's feelings

But I think that is deliberate so I'm not sure it belongs

Two vastly different cultures (Roe v Wade and guns are 2 current prominent differences) separated by a common language. We own a vacation home in America, the people are nice but decidedly not Brits.

Norah

Two vastly different cultures (Roe v Wade and guns are 2 current prominent differences) separated by a common language. We own a vacation home in America, the people are nice but decidedly not Brits.

Yes, my son found it a real culture change, in many ways, when he moved out there to live.

He loves it out there and has a great lifestyle, but he does notice the difference in a few things.?

Can I ask what the general opinions are of your American neighbours regarding abortion and gun laws are Norah? My colleagues from Utah were vehemently against abortion, long before the recent changes in law across states, but they envied the UK having strict firearm laws and virtually no shootings.

Oh good. I can't wait for this to turn into a Xenophobic thread.

My son and family are in Illinois, and support the right to abortion.

They are also concerned about guns - but, they live about 40 miles away from Chicago, where unfunding the police has led to a massive increase in robberies, violence and murder.

So, it becomes a bit "chicken and egg" - they don't like having to possess guns, but are too (rightfully) concerned that the violence is spreading, and there is a need for protection.

Luckily, they live in the suburbs, on a gated estate, and this estate has private security.

But, sometimes, they have to drive into downtown Chicago, for work, and it's apparently very foolhardy to venture there unarmed.?

Chicken and egg situation DiamondLily and one I'm very glad we don't have here. Yet.

It's a British pass time imaround to pretend to be superior

Please don't think we are all like that

Chewbacca

Chicken and egg situation DiamondLily and one I'm very glad we don't have here. Yet.

I hope we never do as well.

I'm ok with just my cricket bat - I'd never want to own a gun, and would hate to feel I had to.

I don't like the thought of my son and adult grandson being armed, but nothing I can say.?

Chewbacca, Our neighbors, friends from Church, and friends are somewhat split on Roe, with a larger number believing SCOTUS made a mistake overturning Roe. Gun rights seems clearer, we've never met anyone who approved assault weapons for other than police or armed forces. They mostly all apparently own small guns, "for protection" - I'd ask "from what?" but I feel that might begin a debate, I'm not interested in debating guns.

Only 32% of Americans own guns

Only 33% of Americans claim to be anti abortion

What percentage of the UK voted in the tories again?

Roe v wade

Plenty of british grans feel abortion is wrong

There are a hell of a lot more guns in the uk legally than people know with many who would like the same gun laws as America.

Only difference is how we are set up politically and through courts of law.

We ever give control of the courts to politics, people will suddenly realise they know very little about each other in this country, which is a lesson things like Brexit still hasn't taught us

It's all about the demographics, and crime rates:

worldpopulationreview.com/state-rankings/gun-ownership-by-state