@Chestnut, I can sympathise with you and your daughter but I don’t like the way you say she should hate herself as she is. That is so negative. I have two medical conditions that cause weight gain and, if l were not careful most of the time, I would be stones heavier than that am now. As it is, I will never be the ideal shape or weight. Should I hate myself? Please don’t mention it to her - she is very well aware of the problem. If she has mental health issues, weight gain is often a side effect, unfortunately. I agree with Smileless - your daughter needs love and acceptance more now than ever. I would imagine by the way you have written here that you have made your disapproval extremely clear even if you have not said anything. Also, we do not need to be size 10 to look good. If she is wearing a nice outfit one day that really suits her, please tell her. She needs compliments now far more than when she was slimmer. If you show her that you accept her and love her as she is, then she may very well open up to you about her feelings on the matter. Then you will be able to make suggestions and help her.