On the last conversation I had with my son he ran down our family (a lot) in the most unfair and cruel ways but was saying how marvellous her family are.
I was stunned because I remember all the thing he said about her family. Three years ago he SAID that HER family beat him up. HE even asked me for help, which I gave generously. They even came to live with us to get away from her family- and now he demonises us.
He is vulnerable with his MH and has been brainwashed in the past, but he is also abusive. Life has been so peaceful since I stepped away from the conversation. I can't help him anymore seeing as I'm not a therapist, a priest or a Dr. His issues are too big and his abuse too much for me. My youngest son says it right, "he's very Changeable ". That's the polite way of saying that he will call black, white- and white, black but never at the same time and not interchangeably.
I don't know which mental illness this is, but it's too exhausting and upsetting dealing with his attacks. He is so paranoid that he reads books on war to try and outwit his opponents. Except we aren't against him and just want a loving family- or a peaceful one at least.
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