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Estrangement

Trying to cope and do the right thing.

(30 Posts)
Germanshepherdsmum Tue 09-May-23 16:20:51

I would find it pretty difficult to show love and concern towards a daughter who said she wished me dead and forced my grandchild to say goodbye to me. The daughter is not acting in the best interest of her child, Nana is trying to give the child the stable and loving home she clearly lacks at present.

DiamondLily Tue 09-May-23 16:20:03

If you think she's in any sort of danger, phone the duty social worker, where she lives.

Other than that, phone and ask hey key-worker to phone you.

VioletSky Tue 09-May-23 16:14:58

It really concerns me that your daughter has been in several abusive relationships and you feel she is struggling to cope, that your answer is to try and take her child away from her.

If she knows you are calling the authorities on her and planning to get custody of her child then, after everything you have said she has been through you have fully taken away any love and support from her and instead of focusing on getting her help, you just want to take your grandchild away.

If the child protective authority where you are go in and do not find cause for concern you may lose your daughter and grandchild. At the very least you will lose your daughter.

Are you sure this is the right approach here? I'm just not getting much in the way of love and concern from you towards your daughter in your threads and I imagine she is hurting knowing this

Germanshepherdsmum Tue 09-May-23 16:04:18

It would be best if you added your post to the last thread so everyone understands.

Nana5150 Tue 09-May-23 15:54:40

This is so hard and im so scared i'm not doing the right thing to protect my DGD, we had another incident of abuse over the weekend where my D wished me dead ;-(. My D has torn my GD her away from every member of Family she has and has made her say she hates us all and doesn't want to see us. She's 9 and we have been her safe place for years and looked after her fr the 1st 4 years of her life. My previous post gave a bit of an insight I just feel so alone and waiting for professional help is so time consuming and painfully slow.

Just reaching out really as I've nobody or feels it, I miss them both desperately.