Letter to my mother

Yes, and I need to get of GN this morning and get my breakfast!

That comment was made almost 2 years ago .

eddiecat78

I'm sure you do not mean to but you do appear to be trying to provoke a negative response purely in order to be able to say it doesn't bother you!

So if you just don't rise to that, then there isn't a problem.

Yes I am also blessed with a good man, my best friend and rock in life. 46 years now, can’t imagine being without him but to those who have lost their soul mates will say that at least you were lucky to share your lives with the love of your life.
Not everyone is so lucky.
🙏🏾🙏🏾❤️

Fartooold

Thankyou ladies! Despite my “family” I was so lucky to have the best husband ever I miss him so much.
DL I know exactly where you are coming from although it is 2.5 years I still think he is with me, who do I rant about politics!
A good happy 2025 to all you lovely ladies
Forgot to mention my father was fantastic teaching me morals.

And you. I miss him so much after nearly two years, But, he told me to get out and find my light, laughter and joy again, because that’s how I do best, and I’m getting there. 🙂👍

Very best wishes,🌺

As mentioned earlier "not everyone should have children"

Sending hugs and strength to keep going xxx

Thankyou ladies! Despite my “family” I was so lucky to have the best husband ever I miss him so much.
DL I know exactly where you are coming from although it is 2.5 years I still think he is with me, who do I rant about politics!
A good happy 2025 to all you lovely ladies
Forgot to mention my father was fantastic teaching me morals.

I can't even begin to imagine how hard it must be DL .

I wouldn't change a single thing either. If I could turn the clock back and marry someone else therefore avoiding being estranged by an AC, I'd still marry him in a heart beat .

Smileless2012

I agree with everything that Babs has written Fartooold. Your mum and half sister will never know how lucky they would have been if they'd had you in their lives .

Mr. S. and I have unconditional love for one another. Aren't we and everyone whose been blessed with a happy marriage, so lucky .

Yes, I wouldn’t change a single thing of our life together, Hard when it ends though.🙂

I agree with everything that Babs has written Fartooold. Your mum and half sister will never know how lucky they would have been if they'd had you in their lives .

Mr. S. and I have unconditional love for one another. Aren't we and everyone whose been blessed with a happy marriage, so lucky .

Fartooold

Another one here who had unconditional love from the best husband in the world.
As for my mother she left me on Paddington Station when I was 6 (no jokes please) my father picked me up after only probably 5 minutes. When I was about 40 I wrote her a short letter telling her about my life, address obtained from her brother. Had a reply telling me not to contact her again I reminded her of the worst time of her life!!
Also contacted her daughter my half sister who has also blanked me…am I that awful!
Thanks for reading.

Am so sorry you were abandoned like that and then rejected in later life, and ‘no’ you are not that awful and had the love of your husband to prove this.
Please don’t think for a second that any of this is your fault. Think only of those who love or have loved you.
Wishing you all the very best 🙏🏾🌺

Another one here who had unconditional love from the best husband in the world.
As for my mother she left me on Paddington Station when I was 6 (no jokes please) my father picked me up after only probably 5 minutes. When I was about 40 I wrote her a short letter telling her about my life, address obtained from her brother. Had a reply telling me not to contact her again I reminded her of the worst time of her life!!
Also contacted her daughter my half sister who has also blanked me…am I that awful!
Thanks for reading.

I have had unconditional love, from my husband, my mother and father and my best friend, now dead. It must be very sad not to have had that. You do have to be the person to give it too though. To have an open heart.

Whiff

flappergirl User is right that was unkind. I had unconditional love from my husband until the day he died . We went through a lot together but he was always there for me and I him.

So did I Whiff - DH loved me, unconditionally, until the day he died. As I did him. 🙂

But, you and I both had wonderful marriages, and, obviously, not everyone does. 😉

flappergirl User is right that was unkind. I had unconditional love from my husband until the day he died . We went through a lot together but he was always there for me and I him.

Seems like an unkind thing to say, flappergirl. The OP is probably long gone but you still got a snide comment on so good for you.

The OP says she has found "unconditional love" with her husband. Personally, I don't think there's any such thing. Unless possibly from a dog.

Let's hope that 2025 brings all who are peace and happiness.

I totally agree "not everyone should have children "
What a lovely, positive, supportive post
Thinking of everyone coping with estrangement on the first day of this new year xx

Hi Helen. Thank you for being so transparent and brave to share. You have no idea how helpful your letter has been helpful and validated my own experience and some of the choices I have made. I wish for you continued peace and happiness. I totally understand why you had to let go. That step couldn't have been easy for you. Peace and Safety can not be understated. Emotional welfare and health is important. You did what you had to do. I do not understand some of the hostility directed at you by some in this stream over a letter that was not even sent where you were simply sharing your own experience as an abused child in an adult voice. Not everyone should have children. Your letter is an important pov and has nought to do with intolerance.

I think that the Mum's response to the letter would be interesting.

Fleurpepper

I've read it with tears in my eyes.

And with huge gratitude, that this a letter I would never have had to send to my mother, and that my daughters will hopefully never send to me.

So much pain and sadness, I can't possibly imagine. I won't comment further.

Totally agree with your comments Fleurpepper. It ade e cry reading it, and made me cry thinking of the Mum

Thank you Urmstongran for your understanding. You've summed it up very well and yes we were crushed but we're OK now, well as OK as we'll ever be.

I’m beginning to understand what happened to you and your husband Smileless (such a poignant user name). Your ES and you were very close. Happy. Until he met his wife who was jealous of the relationship you had with your son. She even admitted that to you? Wow. Slowly it seems she pulled him away. If that’s a fair assessment of what went wrong then you and your husband weren’t at fault.

My god that must’ve crushed you. Who’d have imagined one could love one’s own children too much? Beyond sad. I think the more people that love and care for one another in a family the nicer it is. Seems my views are naive at best.

VioletSky the OP was the only person who put their opinions and "need for attention" before the feelings of others