My greatest wish is to see my granddaughter whom I still love despite everything.

Smileless2012

It is as you say DL unusual for GP's to go to court for contact and even if they're successful, where the parents dig in and subvert that contact for no good reason, it's very difficult for any court order to be enforced.

I agree that it's difficult to say if this approach is in the best interests of the child or not, having said that I fail to see how it is ever in the best interest of children to suddenly lose all contact with the GP's they've had in their lives.

Not sure why the original post got deleted (?), but, no, I agree, in general, it's not ever a good idea for adult rows to interfere with GP/GC relationships.

Unless there's harm/abuse, risking the children, I don't really understand it.

But, I suppose it's the same, sometimes, when two parents split up. Anger, bitterness, revenge and foot stamping impede normal contact, and the children become weaponised..🙁

Shame though.

It is as you say DL unusual for GP's to go to court for contact and even if they're successful, where the parents dig in and subvert that contact for no good reason, it's very difficult for any court order to be enforced.

I agree that it's difficult to say if this approach is in the best interests of the child or not, having said that I fail to see how it is ever in the best interest of children to suddenly lose all contact with the GP's they've had in their lives.

It's quite unusual for grandparents to go to court to try and get contact - it's expensive, and not many cases succeed. Some, with exceptional circumstances do, but it's quite unusual.

As part of a care plan, Family Court can put a GP contact order on it, but it's not the normal thing.

There have been a few campaigns over here for GP "rights", but it's difficult to say whether that's in the best interests of the child or not - fights over contact can sometimes make things worse.

Sad all round really - especially for the children, if it's just a case of parents digging in for no good reason.🙁

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Yorkslass23

I am so sorry to hear what you have been going through. . In some ways, I can identify with how you feel. For me, it is my youngest daughter who suddenly stopped returning my phone calls, and no longer calls. We used to do many things together (when I had a partner). We always shared Christmas together, myself, and my middle daughter, who lives with me. I have 2 lovely granddaughters, 9 and 11. I have not seen them in a long, long time. The parents are just 'so busy.' My daughter was always close to me. She would call regularly and talk for a long time. It took a while to figure out, she usually called when she needed advice or had a problem. It took me years to work through my emotions around that. Eventually, I stopped hurting. Every now and then it returns and I feel so abandoned. Is it just that they have no time for us, their lives are so interesting and full. Regardless, I believe it is about respect. Elders deserve it.

Well, as we have apparently have had kids to be such perfect parents (unlike us..🙄), hopefully estrangements/don't care attitude will become a thing of the past.

Hopefully, their kids will show them more respect and consideration.🙂

Yorkslass Thinking of you

It's as incomprehensible as it is heartbreaking Yorkslass especially when you were once so close .

💐 sorry Yorkslass, it must be painful, I can't see how anyone turns their back on a loving mother but try to think of things you enjoy doing and being with people that appreciate you.

I am so sorry to hear what you have been going through. . In some ways, I can identify with how you feel. For me, it is my youngest daughter who suddenly stopped returning my phone calls, and no longer calls. We used to do many things together (when I had a partner). We always shared Christmas together, myself, and my middle daughter, who lives with me. I have 2 lovely granddaughters, 9 and 11. I have not seen them in a long, long time. The parents are just 'so busy.' My daughter was always close to me. She would call regularly and talk for a long time. It took a while to figure out, she usually called when she needed advice or had a problem. It took me years to work through my emotions around that. Eventually, I stopped hurting. Every now and then it returns and I feel so abandoned. Is it just that they have no time for us, their lives are so interesting and full. Regardless, I believe it is about respect. Elders deserve it.

Thanking you all

That is good news. And full credit to her for recognising her part in it, and apologising.🙂

So pleased.
💐

That's great pinkprincess and thanks for letting us know.

well, that's a relief.
well done for no precipitous action.
onwards and upwards.

So happy for you!

A lovely ending.

So pleased for you.

Thankyou very much

pinkprincess I am so pleased for you - alls well that ends well 👍

I am so happy for you!

Thankyou all again
Yesterday received a text message from my granddaughter apologising for her part and what she said abut me.
I have replied back saying I am sorry about what I said as well
I am overjoyed and looking forward to seeing her again soon
My prayers are answered
Thankyou all again

An apology that might regain trust is never a negative - this is certainly my feeling violetsky

I agree that some people find apologising relatively easy, (knowing someone is hurt is enough for me too VS) - but some people do find apologising much, much harder.

We are all different- which is one of the benefits of Gransnet. We get to hear different views and start to understand something of how others think.

Ok Smileless

I didn't need too VS I said what I think, not what anyone or everyone should think. I don't understand your need to argue against my morals and values but you chose too, so I responded accordingly.