Help Please! Grandchild being taken to live abroad

Flowerette

I am so sorry .. I am distressed with a similar situation… I feel sick most of the time .. I’m trying to keep busy .. I have sleepless nights
It’s awful … nobody understands unless they have grandbabies and even then unless it’s happening to them it’s difficult to articulate just how heartbreaking it is .. my world has turned upside down and I’m considering counselling

You might be better starting a new thread, as you’ll probably get more advice.💐

I can't begin to imagine how distressing it must be Flowerette. If you think counselling may help you then I hope you'll give it a go .

Firstly check your son’s name is on your GD birth certificate and secondly get your son to see a very good family solicitor, who can give him full legal advice about his parental rights and what kind of court orders to apply for, also family mediation might prove very useful. If he can talk to his partner and just persuade her to wait until at least some formal custody is in place, that would be helpful. There are several websites online giving very basic free legal advice on UK family law.

You have to take a back seat and let your adult son and the mother of his child sort this between them It would be helpful if you tried harder to disguise your clear dislike of B

This thread goes back to October of last year.
I wonder if OP is still around to tell us how things developed?

I am sorry you must go through this trauma but that is what our children do to us with their relationships. The child's mother is choosing not to live with a man who has no job and is being supported by his parents. She has to figure out a way to support her child since he is not.

My gd came back after 12 years, but her family come first, she was cut off from both sides of family, she was told lies about me, she knows they were lies but loves her mom and dad, so although I will see her now and then, I have lost her. She is a beautiful, clever woman who has led a life I have been no part of. The parents make their choices and we have to live with them and live the best lives we can as we cannot change anything,
I would love to know how Tattie is.
Flowerette, try counselling if you think it will help, it dudn5 me though, I understand completely your distress but all you can do is change your attitude to dealing with a situation you cannot change, I made myself so unwell I considered the unthinkable. It has scarred me and I won’t ever be that person I was, I’m different now and it’s destroyed a lot of my confidence but I have a good life with friends and I know my gd was looked after and was happy.