Grandaughter being alienated

Regarding child development, (of which I also have a detailed knowledge) a 10 year old is likely to be well capable of interpretation and nuance and will be aware of being fobbed off or of interpreting an answer as fobbed off.

Again child development is an area where there are standard expectations of stages of development which will differ slightly on an individual basis and only the OP can consider the best way for her own relationship with her GD.

I dont think there are any posters who have given the impression that they are not aware of the importance if protecting the relationship between GD/GC. Absolutely, going home and stating "Grandma said this" if Grandma was trashing the parents would be wrong/unwise but the suggestions of responses that acknowledge the childs thinking and keep the focus on all the people who care for her do not suggest that scenario being a problem.

PS I really am not trying to enter into a tit for tat competition on knowledge and expertise here by the way. I only mention my own experiences in this field because CAFCASS and child development were mentioned ...I think advice can be appropriate from life experience as well which may or may not include qualifications and training in a relevant area

I'm really not interested in arguing this point, it isn't helpful to anyone to colour official advice with personal feelings or opinions...

As Madgran posted earlier, the suggestions given have not gone against CAFCASS advice and it's up to MyHeart to decide whether or not to take on board any of the opinions she's received.

VioletSky

I'm really not interested in arguing this point, it isn't helpful to anyone to colour official advice with personal feelings or opinions...

I am not interested in "arguing" either but I am interested in accurate representation!

It's not "personal feelings", its interpretation and nuance in a given situation using official guidance to inform decisions on a way forward.

I struggle to interpret CAFCASS advice as "change the subject" to something irrelevant to the given subject raised by the child, like "what do you want for dinner!" But I suppose there might be a circumstance where someone night feel that is appropriart; just not sure how it helps a worrying child.

Keeping the focus on the child and alleviating potential concerns ..such as how much they are loved ...that is clearly represented in CAFCASS advice.

However we each have to use our own knowledge, professional experience and life experiences to interpret and use advice in a given situation. I expect you do that and I know I do.