Support and friendship For Those Estranged

Just a quick one very tired today . Happy birthday to someone very special on this thread . 🥂🎁🎂🥳.❤️

Smiles you and Mr S are better than any removal company. Have fun unpacking today making your new home yours. 🏠❤️

Sorry to hear about your surgery Smiles and Whiff not speaking shock

New hose coming today from Amazon, bought the same type , it was the best Amazon had, and had 5*, so I'll tread carefully with it.

Had a lovely afternoon * evening in London with family yesterday, pain getting home on the M25!

Stopping to take off my hood hairdryer, getting a bit overheated!

Yogin hopefully you new hose wouldn't wet you. I stick to watering cans I would be a liability with a hose with my trembling hands.

Loosing my speech was awful especially as I am a chatterbox or as my brother calls it verbal diarrhoea 🤣. But the Clonazepam has changed my life for the better. So I have no limb jerks or seizures so it's been bliss . My body still does what it wants but I understand why now . I am not alone having this condition our Facebook page now has 1,021 members was just over 800 when I joined it April 2022.

Just had a thought does Joey like the hose ? Friends at craft group said their dogs love a shower on a hot day problem is they then roll in the dirt 😭 so then need a bath. Like young children really.

Nice to hear you've sorted yourself out with your meds Whiff

I've never taken meds in all my life, till I took those for acid indigestion and I think they caused havoc in my body, so I'm now scared of taking anything. Think they caused scalp sirisis, I will go to the pharmacist and ask if he can give me something, I hoped it would just go of its own accord, but still have it.

Smiles My AC were always telling me to get a new mobile, so when the Tesco provider said your mobile is so old, I will have to send you a new sim to sort out your problem After that I looked at some new mobiles and bought one .
Added problem on getting my new mobile was; after managing to set it all up, my new sim for my old phone arrived [even though I'd asked for it to be cancelled] I was then afraid to take out the sim in my new mobile and replace it with this new one, meant for my old mobile, [hope you're all following this]. When my mobile stopped receiving calls, I had no choice but to 'do the dastardly deed', but all was well. So, like you Smiles I was very relucted to upgrade!

As for my new hose Whiff, it arrived yesterday, so quick! Haven't opened it yet, but it feels so big and heavy, unlike my first one that went into a little bag and was light. Lidle HQ have said I can have a refund, so hope the store manager obliges.

No Whiff Joey doesn't like water, he will paddle on the seashore on occasions, but no more than that, he hates the bath too, which between you and me he is due one right now!

What syrgery Smile's. I missed that. I would be lost without my mobile its got my life on it..

Good evening everyone.

Back home after an exhausting day with mixed fortunes .

I spent 6 hours unpacking and moving my Christmas and 'best' dinner service from the cupboards I'd selected on Sunday to two different ones.

So many cd's and dvd's to be sorted and put away plus more kitchen stuff and 95% of our glasses. Moved the dining table and chairs to a different place, having already moved it once and happier with where it is now; all good.

Mr. S. and M. started assembling our 7' x 7' shed; going really well until they discovered that we had two metal bars we don't need, and don't have four that we do need.

The roof is on but not totally water proof and the doors have been assembled and the hinges in place but we can't hang them grrrrr. So change of plans tomorrow as we can't take through what needs to be stored in it, but at least we can take through 4 large steel shelving units to put inside because it wont matter if they get wet .

Our little poodle Pip, was due to go into the vets tomorrow for a scan because the vet we saw last week said the heart murmur is now a 2 and not the 1 originally diagnosed.

We were told it was non evasive so he could eat as normal in the morning as no sedation is required. However, we received a message this afternoon telling us no food after 9.00 pm tonight in case he needs to be sedated.

It was after 5.00 pm when we got home so there was no one there when I 'phoned, so I'll ring in the morning to cancel. He's not displaying any signs that the murmur is bothering him and there's no way we're risking him being sedated for a scan.

I'm not leaving him there all morning of they're unable to carry out the procedure and being charged regardless. The money isn't an issue even though they're not insured but I'm annoyed that having been told this is non evasive and sedation is not required, that sedation may be required .

As we wont have to be around at lunch time to collect him, we'll go back to the new lodge with the shelving units for the shed, start sorting out the bedrooms (my job) and hanging things on the walls (Mr. S.'s job under close scrutinisation from me ).

It should be a more relaxed and less stressful day. I just don't have the energy to pack anything this evening to take through, even too tired to go out for a meal despite Mr. S. suggesting we do.

Any easy evening meal. Sunday's pork and stuffing re heating as I type and just some potato croquettes to stick in the oven and peas to cook.

Thank you Yogin you have confirmed that I'm right not to update my mobile. Mr. S. will have enough on next year teaching my how to play golf without the added burden of teaching me how to use a new mobile 'phone!!!

Hope you've all had a good day dear friends xx

PS I've just told Mr. S. that his 'happy' and 'excited' face isn't much different to his everyday face .

Good afternoon all. Haven’t been online much, as my stress levels rocketed and forums + stress is not always a good combination. 😷. I couldn’t work out why I felt so ill, until I looked at DD at the weekend, who looked worse than me.

It finally dawned on me that we were both stressing (quietly) about the final court case involving contact with the baby. It’s been blood, sweat and tears for nearly two years now, and what with losing DH, I think I was about at the end of all this.

What with assessments, reports, checks, harassment, an obstructive JW adoptive Grandmother and Miss D, it’s been exhausting.🤷‍♀️

Anyway, the Family Court judge decided that there had been enough delays, obstructions and chaos (by the other side), yesterday.

Anyway, the upshot was that we got everything we asked for. Court ordered whole weekends once a month, Christmas, Easter and other special occasions, and a week’s (UK) holiday next summer.

Miss D can never have custody - supervised limited contact for the foreseeable. She has been diagnosed with various mental health problems. She cannot really have much say in anything any more.

The adoptive GM can be guardian, but supervised for a year, and the JW church not to play any sort of obstructive part. The GM has no say in any medical treatment where her religion might play a part, as a JW.

The contact order and the rest, have been made legally enforceable.

The judge, actually, did praise us all, from my family, for co-operating and appearing to be a loving, supportive family, which would serve the best interests of the baby. DD, SIL, myself and ex, have all been agreed contact in our own right.

She said (and we agree) this situation is not ideal, but we were her best chance of normality.

So, it couldn’t have gone better. My stress levels fell, and hopefully, DD’s will as well.

Hopefully, it will all run smoothly now without having to go back to court.

Anyway, enough of my dramas, hope everyone is having a nice day. 💐 x

Good to hear this DL. Glad the outcome has been what you all wanted, and the family can be there for your ggc. Hope life can be calmer for you now and give you some downtime. Sending love 💐

Oh that's wonderful news DL you must all be so relieved. I don't have the words to express now thrilled I am for you all xx

Thanks both. I’m exhausted, but hopefully, it’s at an end now. I could still brain my GS, but it is what it is, and we are trying to make the best of it.

We’ve had this through part of the pregnancy and then since, and it felt as though it would never end.

Family Courts can be unpredictable, but this judge seemed to get it.

So, onwards and upwards. 🙂

That's excellent news DL, so pleased for you , time to de- stress now hopefully.🌻

Smiles you both know what is best for your dogs and right not to put your darling pet in any danger. I hate it when not given the correct information. Moving into your new home is both exciting but exhausting. It amazed me how much stuff I had that I don't know why I held on to it wasn't sentiment just things out of sight out of mind. But love my pared down life style . Only things that I buy new are things that I need or replacement for things past there usefulness or all the broken crockery I have dropped 🤦. The pictures are of 2 lights from Dunelm saw them in my grandsons bedrooms but a different colour £15 each 3 light settings ,bendy and rechargeable. But nutty here asked my daughter what adapter I had to buy for the usb bit not realising until she showed me I already had one my phone charger 🤦🤦. Me and technology 🤷. I am another who will not be getting a new mobile had this one since 2019 it was a Christmas present from my daughter and family still finding settings I didn't know it had. But I do everything on my smartphone. Haven't used my laptop since having it. In fact put it to go to the tip as it's that old needs a starting handle to get it going 🤣.

I hate that when all the bits you need for things you haven't got but got some things that aren't needed. Happened when I had my greenhouse but at least the manufacturer sent me the things I needed very quickly.

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Dam trembles . DiamondLily thats brilliant news . Now it's time to look after yourself and have some me time and grieve for your darling husband without trying to be brave and supporting everyone else in the family. When the grieve overwhelms you let it and have a good cry or whatever you need to do. But remember it's the love and life you shared that will get you through everyday. Hopefully your daughter will feel better without all the worry hanging over her and she also has some me time and relax as best she can.

This might make you all laugh. Tuesday had my grandson for the day and had a Sainsbury's delivery coming . The driver though I was his mom and no, he wasn't wearing thick specs. I laughed and said I was 66 my grandson fetched a photo of his mom . And the driver says we looked at like. My daughter is beautiful and doesn't look 41. She had a good laugh when I told her.

My grandson says nannie how much milk do you need as he was putting it away for me. I have a delivery every 6 weeks and just do a top up shop for fresh things when needed . I have 2 sorts of milk skimmed and coconut. I love my porridge made with coconut milk it doesn't taste like coconut but gives my porridge a lovely texture and taste and I don't need honey to sweeten it like I do if I use skimmed milk.

When to the Brain Charity yesterday for my gel printing class but didn't like the couple I did but spent most of the 2 hours talking to one of the Brain Charity staff. One of the group in the class is a volunteer and said because my condition is rare would I speak to one of the communications officers as they have been asked by the telegraph about rare neurological conditions. So I talked to her but said she really needed to contact the person who started the Facebook group as he knows more plus he gave a talk to 2,500 neurologists about HPX and the Brain Charity was a member of the Facebook group. I am still learning about HPX . But he started the group because he felt alone with this condition and his mom is admin so she could tell what he was like as a child as he's 49.

Me talk a lot never heard of 🤣🤣🤣🤣.

Craft group today and making strawberry jam tomorrow. And looks like my dwarf beans will be ready to harvest with all the rain we have had ..
Anyway take care everyone.

Great relief and pleased the family court ‘got it’ diamond lily

Smiles yes not good for little doggies to be sedated. I remember when my other little dog had to have a big growth cut off his leg, it was only slightly attached to near his ankle by a little thread, but the growth was quite big. I said the same as you, that I didn't won't him sedated. When I picked him up, they told me that they had to sedate him. He was sooo ill the rest of the week, really sick all the time and could hardly walk round the garden!

Well done DL

Yes DL the judge you get is the most important thing to the outcome of the case.

Thank you all. It’s been a huge relief to just get some sort of resolution to this. The situation isn’t, and never will be ideal, but we really are just trying to give this child some sort of normal family life.

It’s all subject to a court order now, so, hopefully, there will be no more hassles.

She’s a cheerful little soul - her greatest loves are the Teletubbies and chocolate buttons, so more easily pleased than most of the females in this family lol 😉

But, if if kicks off again,,back to court we go.🙄

DiamondLily hope you and your family are able to relax and rest now the court has issued it's verdict . And no further court dates because of Miss D. Your great granddaughter sounds a happy little girl.

Smiles hope you and Mr S are getting on well with your packing and getting your new home as you want it. And the pieces missing from the shed have arrived or arriving this week. Hope your little dog is doing well .

My daughter popped round yesterday to change my bed and the boys played for a hour. They love Mr W's chess pieces and used my pressure cushion to place the pieces to set out sort of like a chess board. I will have to unpack the chess board as it's still wrapped up since my move . Good job I know where it is. They are on their way to the airport for a week's holiday in an air B&B in Stockholm.

As said had my grandson on Tuesday for the day. He loves my sewing machine. Oops think I have said this before. Never mind it's my dicky memory so we made a piece of cross stitch into a cushion cover. A much cherished friend brought the cross stitch kit for me at Christmas . He loves using the pedal but he's very good and does what I tell him. He turned the cushion cover right way round and put the inner in and zipped it up. We also made scones which they said where lovely . He weighs out the ingredients and he can rub the fat into the flour finely . I can't do that anymore. And he rolls out the dough, another thing I can't do is use a rolling pin . And because my cutters are double sided put a wad of kitchen roll on top of the cutter so he didn't cut his hand using it.

Busy week again . Harvested some dwarf beans yesterday before the rain. Today making mango and butternut squash chutney. Tomorrow sit fit, Tuesday speaking to a friend , Wednesday gel printing, Thursday craft group and it's baking week,Friday hearing test on the morning and speaking to a friend on the afternoon.

Since my move my life has never been so full and love it.

Saw a present for my best friend on Etsy the other day so got it ready for Christmas. I know it's early but if I don't buy things when I see them or I forget.

Anyway looks like it's going to be a hot week. Take care in the sun everyone.

Forgot to put picture of the cushion. 🤦

Morning everyone.

Your GGD sounds a delight DL and I hope that you'll all be able to enjoy your time with her knowing that contact is secure now you are free to be the loving, secure and supportive family she needs.

Your cushion is lovely Whiff and I had a lovely mental picture of your adorable GS following in his GM's footsteps using the sewing machine and making the scones, as I read your post .

Spent most of yesterday clearing the vast majority of my clothes and shoes ready to take to the new lodge today. Three boxes of shoes and that doesn't include my 'shoe collection'!!! I was more surprised than Mr. S. bearing in mind I got rid of quite a few pairs last year. He just grinned as he loaded them into the van.

Tomorrow he'll go to the auctioneers to arrange for them to come and collect everything for the auction and when we know when they're coming, he'll dismantle the 4 poster bed, 3 oak wardrobes and an all glass display cabinet.

We have to get some wood to secure the Betty Boop wine rack too as she's currently bolted to the floor to keep her stable. The house will look and feel really empty when it's all been taken away.

I'm really hopeful that we'll be out by the end of August if not before, with the amount we've already got through in just 5.5 weeks. Then we'll probably sleep for a week, just to get over it .

No idea when the missing parts for the shed are likely to arrive; could take weeks but Mr. S. has a few tricks up his sleeve to make sure it will be water tight. Everything's going so well I'm not unduly worried; we'll get there in the end.

Have a good day everyone.

Smiles Mr S is like Mr W was always a solution to any problem. Except when I had to go into hospital and had to write out instructions how to use the washing machine and what went in what load also how the oven worked. This was a man who could remember jobs he did even the job number from years before. Had everything filed but never kept the instructions for the washing machine and oven. 🤦😂.

My grandson asked me the other month to teach him to make jam but told him he had to be a lot older as it's to dangerous for him . He's reply but it's dangerous for you to nannie . Nothing I could say to that.

Bet your dogs have loved running round the house as the rooms are emptied.

It's so hot here 25° in my living room with the curtains shut and fan on. Just ordered a new fan as my son and daughter in law brought me the fan over 15 years ago and it's on its last legs . It's the old fashioned sort. Ordered a Pro breeze tower fan as I have 3 Pro breeze dehumidifiers 2 20l ones and a small table top one. And they are excellent.

They way you have both been working you will be out by end of August. Don't forget when you aren't living there to let the council and water company know as you won't have to pay council tax on an empty house or your water bill. Well that was the rule when I moved in 2019.
Plus all the other companies you need to tell and redirect your post.

It's going to be very hot 🥵 all week so make sure you both drink and rest .

Your cushion is so lovely Whiff. You and your grandson have done a fine job!

Love your cushion Whiff clever girl!