Support and friendship For Those Estranged

Hand trembled 🤦.
Babs when you find your new home you will both feel it. With out first house we liked it and knew we could make it home but our second one as soon as we came out of the door my husband said do you want it I said yes please he said good because I do and went straight to the estate agent to make an offer another couple had offered the full asking price so we did to. And the couple selling let us have it as the other couple said something about their cats and they didn't like them . Plus our daughter wanted to play in the garden as soon as she say how big it was she was 2.

Wish you luck with your hunt and sale.

Smiles hope you have good news tomorrow and the completion will go through on Friday.

Bad weather back next week 😡.
Take care everyone. 😊

Yogin how much for a hair cut 😱. Mine costs £20.and he cuts it exactly how I want, plus it's only a few roads away to the saloon . Didn't see the point of travelling further .

Babs have been the same all my life since I can remember but now know others with HPX are the same it's the way out lives work. My husband was the same . I have always been a planner hence my lists everywhere and having this written on my calendar if it not on the calender I forget. Have things set up on the calendar which beeps . Then wonder why it's beeped 🤦. I have to been organised I don't do well with chaos . I can do emergencies but it sets my anxiety off. Until my diagnosis didn't know what the feeling was I used to say it made me jittery.

My husband was a planner and very well organised when it came to work. But home life think it's because of his job he had to be so precise he just could relax at home and let me get on with things . If I left it up to him to pack a suitcase he would forget to put in clean knickers etc. So I packed for us all until the children where teenagers.

Had a wonderful day yesterday 2 friends I met at craft group who could only come in school holidays as they looked after their grandson/ nephew . They got here at 12 and left at 6.30 the time flew by. They enjoyed their lunch I made a gluten free galette with veg and goats cheese. Steamed gluten free golden syrup sponge and vanilla custard. The daughter had seconds of the galette and finished it off. Both had large portion of sponge and custard. I love cooking for other people. Had to buy ready made gluten free puff pastry as I can't use a rolling pin and brought tub of vanilla custard. Rest made myself.
I had made them a gluten free apple cake to take home and sent them home with 7 jars of my preserves which I already knew they liked. They brought me bag full of empty jars . Aiming to make green tomatoe.chutney will be a few red and yellow ones but they are what I grew myself.
We did nothing but talk and laugh . We will meet up again . They are always wonderful company and we get on so well.

I wish I was more like you Whiff and Smiles, when I make a decision I tend to lack confidence in that decision and question myself all the time. My DH does make decisions and sticks with them but I then find myself questioning him about this which can cause a ruckus. So as you can imagine house hunting has been a tad heated at times.
My DH says that I am totally decided when it comes to being undecided. 😂

Smiles moving, selling & buying is always a nightmare, even if things go smoothly, it's stressful. Yours have gone mainly smoothly, just the wait for the completion of your sale, but you are all settled in your new home and happy, so not too bad.

Yes, it was a really lovely day yesterday. First walk on my favourite beach, it was heaven! Not looking bad today, at the moment.

I too am looking for a new hairdresser, not been pleased with mine since I moved here and not cheap either. I don't want to travel back to where I used to live where I had 2 good hairdressers that I liked. it's difficult finding the 'one', it doesn't have to be a top hairdressing salon, it's just the individual hairdresser, even in a little 'old ladies' salon, so to speak.

My DD sent me a link to a salon near me, it was £109 first cut, second cut £90 and thereafter £79 and you can't go for the £79 one without first having the first 2! Even then it still may not be what you want.

Morning everyone.

Well I tend to be the same Whiff, once a decision has been made I rarely change my mind. You're right, we're paying bills for a house we no longer live and it's the lack of communication that's particularly irritating.

I suppose if we needed to complete to be able to finalise our own purchase we'd have been nagging them but we're already settled into our new home, we've been more laid back about everything.

Not more stormy weather!!! You get fed up with it don't you but I suppose it makes us appreciate the last few lovely days all the more.

Hope you manage to get your window sorted before anymore bad weather hits Allsorts.

It is a shame isn't it Yogin but it's often the way that just one or two do the bulk of the work while the majority sit back and do nothing.

Just read your last post Whiff after having a shower, so hood dryer on . Perphaps you can keep the painting group going, even without the teacher, you could all still meet up.
The craft group are going to miss your cakes! I'm sure they will miss you too.

Oh Whiff what a shame, can you not diplomatically bring the things up that are troubling you & see if things can be sorted out, if not then leave, you've always said how much you enjoy crafts.

Thank you for your support. Once I make a decision I have to stick to it it's how I have lived my whole life . But since my diagnosis I have found out I am not weird but normal for HPX . It's how others live their lives . Like me can cope with emergencies but it does make us anxious but not incapable.

Craft group hasn't been the same for months really but Thursday had enough . Also going to the Brain Charity everyone pitched in everyone supplied ,paints , canvas's, things that would make prints etc .Took it in turns to make drinks and I made cake or biscuits every 2 weeks. And we laughed . Can't remember last time we laughed at craft group.

Gel printing class there was no distinction between the haves and have nots. But it was always noticeable in my craft group. But glad I made the decision. I used to look forward to craft group but realise I hadn't had the same feeling for some time. I will miss some people but not others. Yet I will miss all my gel printing class. Funny I never thought I would give up craft group but I decided on the way home on the bus.

Babs having a new home and knowing you want a dog has given you something to look forward to . Hopefully you sell your home soon and find a bungalow you love. It's stressful selling and buying I used to think if it was all handled by the estate agents it would be easier. They could have in house solicitors then everything could have been handled under one roof and things would have been dealt with quicker. Waiting for searches from the council was annoying it was all on computer so only a couple of buttons to press to get the information. Never understand why it could take 6-12 weeks when I moved 5 years ago. My eldest niece works in the council planning and surveying department at what was my old council. She never understood why as soon as a request came in it couldn't be dealt with straight away and that way avoid back logs. Took 12 weeks for her search to come through and she worked there but couldn't handle it herself.

Smiles I hope Monday you get answers but if not you are going to have to phone everyday and pester them it's the only way I found to get things moving . Plus you are paying bills for a house you no longer call home . The couple who are buying must want it completed as well and hopefully they are pestering their solicitor to complete.

Has Mr S tried a squirrel proof feeder no idea if they work but several on the market . Amazon has reviews from customers which I always read and glad I didn't buy somethings because of the review. But things with good reviews I found deserved them and worked well for me .

Hair cut and lunch brilliant idea . Reminds me mine needs a cut will book an appointment on Tuesday as they aren't open on Monday but it only a few streets away from me. When I moved here didn't see the point of having a bus journey for a hair cut so tried the local salon and very happy with my hair cut. At my old house had mobile hairdresser as I hated going to a saloon after my husband died . We used to all have our hair cut at the same time . Never had a male hairdresser before but his lovely to talk too and funny.

Well hope everyone has the sunshine again but autumn is definitely here . But I do love the autumn colours. Still seeing lot of bees and butterflies in the garden .

Just heard on the radio more stormy weather on the way . Hopefully not as bad as the other week .

I'm keeping everything crossed for you Babs, it is stressful even when it's as easy as it's been for us but it'll be worth it.

Yes, it was Morecambe and Wise. We've got the lines so now we need to practice their end of show 'dance' . It's good to be silly Babs; well that's our excuse x

@Smiles, is really annoying how long the legal process takes here, here’s hoping you get word about it soon.🙏🏾
I am not looking forward to going through the process, surely it could be more streamlined.
Funny about the line ‘what do you think of it so far?’ Followed by ‘rubbish.’
Morecambe and Wise I think.
For a long time when meeting old friends of ours we would say ‘nice to see you’ to which they’d reply ‘to see you nice.’ Was so silly. They passed away a long time ago now but thanks for bringing back that memory. 🥹

Evening everyone.

No news on completion Babs so will 'phone the solicitor on Monday to see what's going on. Good idea to put the dog idea on hold until you get settled into your new home, especially if you're going for a rescue. The less upheaval for the dog the better.

The squirrel saga continues with one of the feeders 'destroyed' according to Mr. S. and that's before he's put out his fat balls Sparkly so don't get me started on them .

Oh Whiff what a shame do you think you might feel differently in a week or two? You've given so much to that group and gained so much too it'll be very sad if you don't go back.

I understand though, it's often the way with those who as DL says are givers and those who just take.

I was thinking about DSL too the other day, what with us having moved and Babs at the beginning of the process.

Fabulous weather here today, it was like spring!!! Had friends round for lunch,my hairdresser and her husband who has a lovely restaurant where we used to live.

She was supposed to cut my hair last Saturday but as there was a mix up, said she'd do it here today. She offered to come here every four weeks to do my hair and then we'll go out for lunch.

It'll be great as it will save me an hour's drive each way and we'll see more of one another socially .

Found a lovely Mediterranean restaurant last night and are going to the Italian tomorrow evening. We keep saying to one another 'what do you think of it so far' and answer 'rubbish' .

Whiff - oh, sorry you felt you had to give up the craft group, but once something stops being enjoyable, and things start winding you up, it’s usually best to walk away.

There are always givers and takers.🤷‍♀️

Hope you find something else soon. x💐

Awh Whiff that's such a shame, you will miss it, but I can understand your decision.
Nobody likes to feel used and you are a giver.
I hope the friends you have made can continue their friendship with you and you find another activity to fill the void.
Take care x

@Whiff
I know you have had to be tough because you have had some really tough times but you are allowed to feel low, and don’t think it is childish at all to feel the way you do now your craft group has finished and in particular to feel irritated by those who showed up the other day.
I used to volunteer every week for a homeless charity they were mainly a lovely bunch but a couple of them got on my wick. Thing is most of us took turns with making a cuppa for the whole group but one would just sit there and announce ‘my it’s a dry house in here today’ which was her way of saying someone should make her a cuppa, I’d never heard of it before so just looked at her blank which probs wasn’t the reaction she wanted. 😂
Anyway knowing you there will be another project before too long, and certainly you need to be creative, the work you did makes that much clear.
Sending hugs 🤗

Feeling bit down but will be ok soon. Made the hard decision to leave my craft group after 5 years . To be honest it's being coming on for a while but yesterday just had enough. 7 of them where sat there and no one bothered to get the mugs out while waiting for the library staff to bring our both .. There are 3 members who are wealthy but they never bring in teabags etc . Those of us who have to be careful take things in. I didn't go last week as I wasn't well enough . A new member started and she helped me with the drinks . But what finished it for me was a woman who started few weeks ago came up to me and said are you trying to poison me no sugar..When I asked what she wanted she didn't mention sugar. The wealthy ones have never made a drink or helped with cleaning up and washing up or putting everything away. They charge off.

I was going to text the ones who started it but thought sod it. I had enough. So decided to give it up . I will miss it and the friends I have made but once I make a decision to stick to it.

You my think I am being childish but there are givers and takers in this world and am fed up with the takers ever week . There are only 4 core members that still go when they can from when I started going . There are ones that have been coming a couple of years I will miss very much. But had enough .

Two of my group are coming to me tomorrow for lunch but they can only go to.the craft group during school holidays. And I have met up with them other times.

But now my gel printing has finished and no craft group have 2 days free but will find things to keep me out of mischief.

Thanks birdie* I'm on my laptop, so can't do the same.

Babs that's the type of thing I'm looking for. Safe journey home and wish your H better.

Sparkly Davina is adopted too, so that's why she is so sympathetic. The guy presenting in the programme is too.

Whiff Your friend was lucky. I look on FB market place, haven't looked on the free one, so I'll try to find. x

Daffs can be temperamental, we planted bulbs one year but nothing came up then a year later they were an absolute joy. My favourite flowers.
We also watch the long lost families and foundlings programmes with Davina and Nicky, I cry every time, but is so fascinating.
And we did our dna test kit last Xmas.
I know that I have Scottish ancestry but turns out I have Irish roots as well.
Xx

Babs03

I did my DNA and was surprised that I am 42% Irish! Davina is so sensitive on those family and foundling programmes, especially when a birth mother is found and you realise this will have nearly been their last chance to be found and meet. Definitely tears too for me😢.

Smileless2012 Sorry to hear about the squirrels hampering your DH efforts. I put out fat balls in winter and sunflower seeds in the summer.

Just on the train home atm. DH did get antibiotics from the chemist in Bath, are some illnesses they can do this for apparently and sinusitis is one of them.
Managed to have brekkie and see the Jane Austen museum this morning, leaving our bags at the hotel before getting sandwiches and other snacks for the journey home.
Lovely break but neither of us up to walking as much as we normally do. Will pick us up a tonic from the chemist near us when we get home.
Take care all xx

@yogi hoping to move within next 6 months 🤞 so will cool our heels with the doggie until we are settled. For now are dog sitting and walking dogs for our friends and neighbours when we aren’t babysitting for our GCs.

@smiles, hope they have sorted out the completion date now. What a faff it is buying and selling houses. And you won’t feel any sort of finality until they pull their fingers out. 🤔

Whiff we used an old Belfast sink as a pond, sunk into the soil at the back of the garden, we have had frogs.
Is a brilliant means of recycling and saves money on having one installed.
X

Yoginimeisje

How did you get the laughing face on your post Birdie, there isn't one below. GN should update their smileys.

The emoji on a phone rather than the GN emojis. I use these too 😜👍

Yogin, I use the emojis on my tablet when posting,
Sounds like you will just have to tolerate that naughty squirrel!!!🙂