When is it time to cut loose from toxic family members?

Please make sure first and foremost that your sisters do not spoil your precious time with your precious mum. Do you need to send cards and gifts to people, if you do not receive any form of acknowledgement. Some people just don't get it and are extremely ungracious. Could you focus on just being at peace with yourself and ignore or grey rock (look it up on line) so that the quality of your life is untarnished.

I am sorry about your experience Ilovedogs22. You expect your family to be your cheerleaders. I can't help but feel slightly envious of friends (and people in the media) who appear to have close siblings. I guess it's just the luck of the draw. I have a loving husband of 30 years and also good friends that I consider family. I don't want to feed the toxic family members by not sending gifts to nephews but part of me thinks you get nothing back in terms of time.

So sorry to hear about your family problems. I have been estranged from both my mother & my 2 older sisters. I couldn't conceive again after my first born alas. However, very racy sibling seemed to take great delight relating her termination history to me!!! I decided to cut her out of my life. My darling mother & older sister took my sister's side & I have not spoken to any of them for 30yrs. It's been very lonely but at least I have a good husband & lovely children. I don't miss the coven at all, as I like to call them. 🤔

findingmyway

Thank you. I have had a non-existent relationship with both siblings for decades to be honest. We do all the 'christmas' present things. But don't go round their houses, and we are not on the phone. Siblings often post old pictures online of themselves round each other's houses or on holiday together. In stark contrast spent the weekend with a friend of 24 years who was the sibling I never had.

Yes I have a lifelong friend who became everything my sister never was, sadly she passed away recently.
Tbh if you have so little contact going no contact will not be so much of a big deal.
In all of this you need to think of your own well-being and whether you want their toxicity in your life or not, I think the answer to that is a no brainer but this can only be your call, nobody can tell you what to do.
X

Thank you. I have had a non-existent relationship with both siblings for decades to be honest. We do all the 'christmas' present things. But don't go round their houses, and we are not on the phone. Siblings often post old pictures online of themselves round each other's houses or on holiday together. In stark contrast spent the weekend with a friend of 24 years who was the sibling I never had.

I am estranged from a sibling as well as my daughter, a long story I won’t go into here, but in answer to your question, if you are posting this question - obviously having been thinking of it for some time - I suspect you already know the answer but don’t want to face it.
In my case once I realised that my life was far worse with certain toxic influences in it I knew that I had to distance myself for my own well-being. It isn’t an easy decision to make and maybe right now you are not quite ready to make it, however, you already know it is a distinct possibility.
I wish you well with this. X