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Poppy41 Thu 24-Oct-24 20:28:16

We have been estranged from our daughter (with whom we had a great relationship) and grandchildren for a few years.The problem is her coercive husband who has now succeeded in completely cutting her off from us even to the extent of trying to get a restraining order on us without success. We no longer know where she lives and when we have managed to speak to her she has completely changed. We also know that her therapist has advised her to break ties with us.This is so painful.Is there anyone who has had a similar experience of coercive partners and or therapists who have succeeded in destroying a previously great family relationship?

Allsorts Sat 09-Nov-24 19:27:16

I have missed the nastiness that genuine posters have received, I understand that someone posted pretending to be me. I just saw what Babs3 wrote.
Never looked at Reddit, they obviously attract very sick people.
I do understand these people are mentally ill but they still know right from wrong so there's no excuse. These are the sort of people you dread your ac getting involved with. Men must be attracted and drawn in initially before partners true colours emerge, the best thing to do as mil is distance, its a pity about the gc but they are used as pawns by their mothers and husbands have an awful time of it, they love their children and hang around until children grown up.
Let the trolls dance around their cauldrons and report,

DiamondLily Sun 27-Oct-24 07:39:19

Pantglas2

So Tippsy, Mippsy and Slippsy…keep coming, I see you! I know you and your type and have beaten better!

Those names remind me of that kid’s TV programme years ago. Rag, Tag and Bobtail I think it was called. About 3 fairly hopeless rabbits lol 🐰 🐇😉

Bridie22 Sun 27-Oct-24 07:37:18

Just keep reporting them thats what I intend to do, no interaction, just report, and eventually they will find some other topic to amuse themselves on Reddit .

Smileless2012 Sat 26-Oct-24 22:42:01

The thread's been deleted Babs thanks to GN and thank you Kelly for the deletions here too.

Babs03 Sat 26-Oct-24 22:34:22

I have a suspicion that our trolls are visitors from a Reddit forum for estranged ACs, the very same forum a troll sent us a link to pretending to be Allsorts the other day. I have visited said forum and the threads can be pretty poisonous. Apparently VS is their Messiah and her fan club are bombarding threads on here, a blogger who has written some nasty - thought to be amusing - stuff about estranged parent support forums posted a new thread this evening. Smileless reported it as did I.
But I think is going to be a long weekend. 😳

Grunty Sat 26-Oct-24 21:07:47

No; CottonTail is Peter Rabbit's sister. She is the youngest bunny; Peter is the eldest.

March Sat 26-Oct-24 20:55:27

Cotton tail must be the snake

Grunty Sat 26-Oct-24 20:40:26

Tippsy, Mippsy and Slippsy. Oh dear; what did Cotton Tail do to get left out? 🐇

Babs03 Sat 26-Oct-24 20:29:55

No probs Kelly.
Take care.
xx

KellyGransnet (GNHQ) Sat 26-Oct-24 20:13:45

Thanks for your reports about this thread. We've removed some posts by a previously banned poster.

Pantglas2 Sat 26-Oct-24 20:13:41

By never reporting, Tippsy!

By always calling out!

By coming back on these threads with my authentic story of estrangement, reconciliation and good wishes for all in these situations - unlike you who’ll never be seen again unless under another alias.

March Sat 26-Oct-24 20:13:23

Tippsy, Mippsy and Slippsy.

The baby sisters of Peter Rabbit.

Tippsy428 Sat 26-Oct-24 20:09:22

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DamaskRose Sat 26-Oct-24 20:08:45

You have received some really good advice and support here Poppy from Babs DiamondLil and others so I really hope that has helped. It’s so difficult to get things in perspective when you’ve been hurt so badly but you do have your own life to live and I really hope you will be able to find happiness again flowers.

Babs03 Sat 26-Oct-24 20:08:13

Reported.
But is getting tedious.
Must be nothing on the telly tonight.

Tippsy428 Sat 26-Oct-24 20:07:55

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Pantglas2 Sat 26-Oct-24 20:07:23

So Tippsy, Mippsy and Slippsy…keep coming, I see you! I know you and your type and have beaten better!

Tippsy428 Sat 26-Oct-24 19:59:41

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March Sat 26-Oct-24 19:56:28

"Apologies but to clarify I have seen in writing the therapist's own confirmation that she has advised my child and spouse to stand united against us."

hmm

Babs03 Sat 26-Oct-24 19:55:35

GNHQ just told me that Mippsy was a previous poster trying to post again with a different name. I reported. The poster is now banned.

Babs03 Sat 26-Oct-24 19:50:45

Pantglas2

Your comments are interesting Mippsy.

I wonder how you reconcile them with children who don’t only estrange their parents, but siblings, cousins, aunts and uncles, grandparents etc

All those people in the wrong? If you keep falling out with folks, you need to look in the mirror and ask the tough question…what is it about me?

Indeed. Our eldest daughter is not only estranged from us but from her other three sisters who actually encouraged us to disconnect because of her increasing abuse.
Am sure Mippsy would like to find a way of twisting that but I imagine she won't be hanging around too long.

Pantglas2 Sat 26-Oct-24 19:46:16

Your comments are interesting Mippsy.

I wonder how you reconcile them with children who don’t only estrange their parents, but siblings, cousins, aunts and uncles, grandparents etc

All those people in the wrong? If you keep falling out with folks, you need to look in the mirror and ask the tough question…what is it about me?

Mippsy428 Sat 26-Oct-24 19:38:11

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DiamondLily Sat 26-Oct-24 17:50:23

Babs03

Good advice DL.
If this therapist behaved unprofessionally he/she should not be practising, though looking at recent news stories I think monitoring unprofessional therapists is not easy.

No, it’s not. Unlike medically qualified psychiatrists, it’s a bit Wild West out there.

I’ve worked in a lot of fields that have involved counselling, and not all counsellors are much good. 🤷‍♀️

Hopefully, one day, they will be more closely controlled and monitored.

Poor quality counsellors can cause chaos. ☹️