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Estrangement

Things learnt in therapy.

(53 Posts)
NiceDream Sun 22-Jun-25 14:42:02

Unhealthy behaviour patterns I made as notes, helpful when trying to understand a difficult relationship so thought I would share:

1. Entitlement and expecting and demanding things from you rather than making requests for what they want.

2. Unable to take any feedback from you about their behaviour or how it has impacted you.

3. Obsessed with appearances or what people think of them which can change dependant on company.

4. Makes you feel bad about yourself, like you are a bad person or worthless in some way.

5. Cannot take accountability or apologise and will act like you are in the wrong if you point out they have hurt you.

6. Makes you feel as if you have to walk on eggshells because there are no clear boundaries on what may trigger a negative reaction.

7. Playing the victim and speaking badly of you to other people and even your own family members in order to make you look like the one in the wrong.

Smileless2012 Fri 27-Jun-25 14:53:12

That's interesting; no one else thought to ask that.

stillawipp Fri 27-Jun-25 15:01:30

As the parent in the situation, I was definitely guilty of 2 and 5 before therapy helped me to see it & stop doing it...