Support and friendship for those whose lives have been affected by estrangement.

Yogin, I now have a neighbour that is a problem. He seems to think my garden is his and I have not slept for three nights at the damage he has caused, i cant report him for trespass and malicious damage as I couldn't sell my house. Its a nightmare.

Oh Whiff so very sorry, must be very painful!

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Thanks Whiff. It’s nice to know who I am talking to! You’re miles away from me. I’m in East Kent.
And I certainly think you are hilarious!

Crossstitchfan I am English and a woman . Lived first 61 years in black country but last 6 in north west not far from the sea. And 67.

My daughter and grandsons think I am hilarious but not when I am trying to be funny 🤣🤣🤣

Sorry SparklyGrandma (lovely name). My message meant for Whiff has latched itself onto you! No idea how but sorry for the intrusion!

SparklyGrandma

My cats have had a slice of premium roast chicken each this evening. I swear both are smiling in their sleep.😴

Whiff,
I just wanted to thank you for your posts because they always make me laugh!
I can’t work out if you are male or female, British or American, old or young, but thank you anyway! Xx

Oh Whiff you are in the wars lately, please be careful and look after yourself, hope it heals soon xx

Oh Whiff that'll be painful .

Babs x

Thanks for kind words Smiles, Yogi, and Bridie.
Hope you recover soon Sparkly.
Love to all ❤️

Oh no!
So sorry Whiff, that looks really sore, take care of yourself 😞🙏🏾❤️

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Be missing until I heal had accident with my kettle this morning it's a bugger using left hand

Hello everyone.

Hope you'll feel better soon Sparkly .

I'll see of Mr. S. can put on a pic of the vases but the last time he tried to put one on for me it didn't work .

I'm so sorry you've had such a stressful weekend Babs. It really isn't good enough when you've been through so much already. Picturing you holding Matt's hand until he fell asleep bought tears to me eyes . I hope you managed to get some satisfaction when you 'phoned the consultant's secretary today.

It was a good journey home yesterday and we were home by 2.00 pm, the holiday was 'just what the doctor ordered' but it's lovely to be home again.

You're right Allsorts about how cruel some people can be. You'd think there would be enough pain and suffering in the world, without inflicting it just because you can .

Whiff ((( hug )))

Have infection, better reply over the week. Smileless

All my family have been cremated but if I lived in a village with family around I would be buried and like tge photograph on the headstone. I miss my husband all the time and don't find anniversaries so upsetting now, birthdays get to me remembering happy times together. Same with my parents I remember their birthdays and out flowers by their photograph.
Would love to meet up with all of you some time but somewhere central. Going on a coach break later in year as its almost door to door, no taxi, train, then taxi again, it's all the waiting about and I find it stressful all the waiting, same with driving long distances, used to do it but no more. Fifty mile radius from my home enough.
There used to be Bristol Support Group, a lovely lady ran it but had to stop as her husband became unwell, I often think of her and wonder if they got to see the granddaughter they adored but never saw, how are people so cruel? , I would resent my parents if they had stopped me from seeing mine,they were a major part of my life.

Lucky girl Smile, I always say that saying; this too shall pass.

That is really bad Babs, couldn't they have got you in with another consultant, they must know how difficult it all must have been for you all and they must have known you were on your way there .

Whiff isn't it funny the little things we keep, I've kept lots of things like the once your DH saved, but not the toilet seat .

Well, it's a lot cooler today, meeting up with a few friends for lunch, so we may be able to sit in the gardens if it stays cool.

Nice weekend all xx

Sorry you had such worry, desperate when you cannot contact those you need for information.
I hope you have a peaceful weekend

Smileless what fantastic purchases, I can just imagine the flamingo vases, do send pics. Also lucky with your favourite perfume.
Am hoping you are feeling more yourself now 🙏🏾
As you know whiff am not a fan of the heat,
and Matt really struggles, neither of us are really sleeping. He has two tower fans in his room, is a big bedroom, but he turns them off in the night because he thinks they are medical equipment and doesn’t like them.
Back to the drawing board.
We were supposed to have an appointment in Queens hospital Romford to check on a poss bleed on the brain that is as far as we know stable yesterday. One of our daughters and SiL took the day off to drive us there, I took a grab bag. But half way there in blistering heat we got a text to say our consultant is ill so not to turn up at the clinic, a member of staff would ring later.
So we drove all he way back again. And nobody rang us. Tried to ring the consultants Secretary but she had gone home.
Was fuming.
Matt was upset and then depressed, sat in the bed holding his hand last night until he slept. Is so difficult getting him anywhere right now and dealing with how it affects his moods.
So are left with A&E if we have further worries over the weekend.
Will certainly be ringing the consultants sec on Monday and will not be taking prisoners.
Take care all and keep cool xxxx

Smiles so glad your day turned out to be a happy one . Picture of your vases please . Brilliant customer service and you got your perfume. Poor Mr S he will have to buy something you thing is odd to cheer himself up.
Funny that has brought back a memory. When our daughter was about 2 we where on holiday in Cornwall and she went into a shop with her dad to get a present for me . It was hideous plastic pixie key ring with lime green eyes . But she was so proud of it as she had paid for it as well . So I said wouldn't it look lovely hanging from daddies rear view mirror. His face was a picture it's making me smile thinking about it. It go transferred from car to car and when she was about 10 she said why had he still got that horrible thing . So he took it down . When we cleared out the garage and loft year after he died we found it along with a pair of her favourite butterfly sandals that had broken . She didn't want them repaired but he kept them . Mind you he also had kept the old plastic toilet seat and was changed the day we moved in to a nice wooden one ..

Spring is not the estrangement that gets to me but the grief for my husband that can just hit me out of the blue. I end up a sobbing mess but I always feel better afterwards. Remember asking my son years ago when does grief end he said probably 20 years but for me it gets worse as the years go by . February it will be 22 years since he died the length of time we where married . But because of him I carry on living my life to the full everyday since moving here been 6 years now . Love living here more every year. But this heat is killing me 30° fan going full blast curtains shut and still melting 🥵🥵🥵🥵🥵🥵. One of my friends loves this heat she has osteoporosis and will still have a cardi on.

Try and keep cool everyone.

Morning everyone and thank you all for your lovely responses .

No Yogin, we don't hear from K nowadays. We messaged her on Wednesday but didn't get a response which is but not unexpected, just disappointing.

I always tell myself that 'this too will pass' Spring and you're right of course that these lows don't last and everyone gets them don't they, whether or not there's estrangement in the family.

Being away has been a real tonic and the weather couldn't be better. On Wednesday we went to the lovely gift shop where the Priory and remains of a Monastery are. I was hoping to be able to get some more of the lovely perfume I bought last year, but they'd sold out.

Cheered myself up by buying an unusual and rather lovely flamingo vase. When we got back to the Air B&B I regretted not buying them both (Mr. S. thinks I'm mad) so yesterday we went back. I was hoping the other one was still there; guess what Mr. S. was hoping .

The owner served me and I said I'd been in the day before and bought the other one and how disappointed I was that there was no more perfume. I couldn't remember the name of the scent so told her it was in a red bottle but she knew which one it was.

She always buys the range in for Christmas so even though I thought it would sound a bit odd, I asked if she could keep me a bottle because we'd be coming again next year. She said she could post one to me but as we use my friend's address for postal deliveries, I said it would be better for me to wait until I was back.

She then started rummaging around in a drawer and pulled out a tester bottle. It was almost full and I thought she'd got it so I could check it was the right one which it was, but she said she'd let me have it for half the price!!!

I was thrilled. Two very unusual and rather lovely flamingo vases and the perfume I didn't think I'd get .

Now that's what I call great customer service.

Smileless Anniversaries can be so hard x 💐

Hope you’re beginning to feel better Smileless - it’s funny how emotional ruts creep up on us, but we’re all living proof that they don’t last. Hold on. Tough that you have the anniversary of your friend’s death to deal with too. You and Mr S have a brilliant ability to see new possibilities and grasp them though. Moving to your lodge being one example.
I too wish folk here could meet in person. I know some estrangement support groups exist in the Bristol area (too far for me) and personally would love to speak freely with people who understand and don’t judge.

Ah! so sad Smiles it's awful when someone passes and everything just carries on as normal, without them there. Did you see or hear from S's partner?

Time passes so quickly Smileless, she and her partner brought joy to your lives, cherish the good times.💐